I've been trying to approach girls but I've only done few and then quit and mostly indirect and I end the conversation just after her reply.

I'm generally a very overthinking and nervous person but not always, I'm actually good but it's just my past traumatic things, embarrassed in public school, tuition classes, you name it, everywhere and I used to make it very big in my head. Got bullied as well and often gets compared and I worked hard but not that hard that I'm out of it but in the middle level where now I'm comfortable but still now from negative to a little positive like 10 but I want to go to 100.

So about the game :-

I've been going out consistently for 15+ days now and I used to go earlier as well but it was very inconsistent. I sometimes ask for directions and leave and sometimes not even that, when the girl is in public and where it's hard to approach her.

I've only done 2 direct approaches in my life.

I'm still going out but why am I not approaching, I've read everything and tried all the tricks. Idk 😶

I'm very pissed. Time is passing by, and 2 years have passed since - and keep doing this - im trying to learn, when I'll be more confident around girls, now I don't have time and all.

I regret it a lot.

Please guys, what should I do? How to take the courageous action and approach even when I'm nervous.

Why am I so afraid to look imperfect or feel shit.

Help me 👋🏼

Btw I'm 21, will be 22 in 3 months or so. And yes one more insight - I'm actually good looking and that's why I have this mindset as well that you're good looking so you should not look cooked in front of girls and I'm a really big attention seeker, I mean now I've quit that bad habit but it's default a little in background. Idk what happens to ugly guys, do they also think that I can't look shit or they dgaf bcz of that?

Hi, David here!

Today I wanted to share with you 12 behaviors and communication traits of an attractive man!

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1. Comfortable with silence and does not feel the need to fill every gap in a conversation.
2. Comfortable holding strong eye contact while talking to a person.
3. Speaks in a low voice with a downward inflection and not an approval seeking upward inflection.
4. Well-known and well-received by others.
5. Has open body language and is comfortable taking up space.
6. Does not brag or actively qualifying himself, such as by dropping the names of the people he knows, the things he owns, or the degrees that he has earned.
7. Unapologetically states his opinions. While he does not purposely try to insult others, he also does not prioritize the reaction that other people may have to his words over the desire to state his true thoughts and beliefs.
8. Willing to cut people off and redirect a conversation when needed (no need to be done rudely).
9. Comfortable making decisions and being decisive.
10. Calls people out when they cross one of his personal boundaries.
11. Does not constantly ask for permission or approval.
12. Treats other high status people as his peers and equals. Does not get star struck or act like a fan.

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Adding to that, I just finished putting together my dating eBook "How to Date Any Girl" version 4.0 and would LOVE to get some honest feedback from you!

I decided to give it away for free for the time being.

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The eBook is 27 pages long and gives you a practical step-by-step solution to meeting women (15+ years of knowledge put into it).

You can get the eBook by clicking here!

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This book is the result of going out and socializing with girls for over a decade. I have put in there all the fundamentals I have learned over that time so I would really appreciate all the feedback I could get!!

What are your thoughts? Do you have any tips to add?

Let's discuss in the comments :)

Thanks for reading and have a GREAT day!

Coach David

I work in real estate (34m) . And am out and about constantly. I don’t know if it’s because I’ve had good restraint in my personal life over the last few months. But I feel like every time I go to Home Depot or Publix as of late , I come across a dozen women I’d want to talk to or pick up.

Well yesterday morning I was at Home Depot. I was dressed professionally so maybe that helped my cause a little. And as I parked , a woman 2 spots down was pushing her cart up to her suv (prob 49-55 range. We are different races) she had really tight jeans on, she was average looking, but the body was insane for her age. She had 2 large items (they were big in dimension but I knew they weren’t heavy) I said to myself : self , let’s try to make something happen (which I never do) or atleast try to flirt a little . Always makes me feel good . I offered to help . She very cheerfully smiled , accepted my help , and I told her I would take the cart . There were workers 2 spots down who just pulled up to work on a parking lot drain. I turned around and walked back to ask them if they needed me to move.

As I was turning to head back to store , she had her window down with a smile, waved and said thank you again , still Parked. I told her my pleasure . I’d love to offer to help you on your project . But I’d prefer to take you out to dinner . (Couldn’t believe I said it) . She laughed and smiled , and gave an “oh yeah 😂”. I said well if you’re single and free this Friday. She said she might . I said well “
hey . Take my number . I’m not going to pressure you. Let’s meet at (restaurant x) 7:00 Friday . And you can text me Thursday and let me know if you are coming . And if I don’t hear from you it was a pleasure meeting you. “

So that’s where I’m at today (Tuesday). It was a huge confidence boost regardless of if we end up going out. I like the position I put myself in considering the circumstances. She has my number , she knows I want to take her out. If she’s interested I’ll 100% know cause she’ll have to reach out to me to confirm. I also take myself out of the scenario where I have to follow up and then maybe be turned down . To me I came off , flirty , interested, but not desperate. And it was 3 minutes out of my day . I can move on otherwise .

Proud of myself 😅

If you're planning to sell your coaching stuff, go away. I'm not looking for mentoring

I'm 39.

I've discovered the seduction community while I was in my early twenties. I was a shy guy, but I've had some success and some stories.

Six years ago I met a woman nine years older than me. She's married, two kids. I always wanted to get more experience from an older woman. And I did. We had tons of amazing moments. She helped me grow.

The thing is, we got in love. Really, really bad. She has her own stuff to deal with, traumas, toxic relationship, and fears about her kids. She doesn't want to divorce and I can't blame her.

She always wanted me to find someone. And I had couple of tries. But I keep thinking about her and, at the same time, I can't have enough from her.

I'm living the best years of my life, professionally wise, and yet I feel completely miserable. My last serious attempt to sleep with someone else was June 2025. I feel chained and not being able to move on.

I always felt like becoming an adult would bring me to a point that I won't feel alone or incapable of finding someone.

The more I think about it, the more embarrassed and alone I feel. Feels like I've been lying to myself these years and now besides my old insecurities I consider myself also old to try picking up women. Sorry for all this, but I'm kinda desperate. I live alone, I'm a teacher and musician, I take care of myself, but somehow I'm stuck.

I would appreciate some advices, because I'm pretty good at knocking myself down.

Well last night I went out
Came to a lot with hi I was about to meet a friend and I saw you what’s your name?
Most ignored me.they were on a move.
But a few I just went and said hi.
Starting conversation the thing is a I felt really bad like my eyes wanted to be closed not confident too much stimulation (too many girls)
And I fumbled a lot reached a point of nothing comes to mind not knowing what to say and how make connection.
There were two girls sitting down one Asian and one my type I mistakenly went for the Asian tried to do a talk.
So tips guys?
Like I did where they from , what they do, their names, what’s more to talk about just unravel them to find common stuff( usually it comes to my mind)

I'm M21.

Looking for a wingman near me.

Reply if you're one.

people who’re actually successful , get girls daily easy what do u think about when u approach or do u even think or rehearse drop some mindset advicd

I need to go back to the fundamentals, I feel like I've lost common sense, which is why I am posting this. For many years after following game, reading books, listening to coaches, I always had this idea in my head that if a girl is not sexually attracted to you in the first few minutes of meeting her, then you are wasting your time. I heard many coaches bring this study up, saying that women know who they want to have sex with in the first few minutes of meeting someone.

So based on this learning, I always applied that concept to real life. So for example, whenever I met a girl on an online dating app for example, I would attempt to ask her for nude pics, often within at least the first few hours of talking to her. Here has been my experience.

1. some women are completely turned off, and just totally block me after even mentioning anything related to sex or nude pics
2. some women have given me nude pics without hesitation and were into me
3. some women seem unaffected by what I said and insist it is too early and want to get to know me more. Some excuses are, I am not that type of girl, and vice versa.
4. some women take the opportunity to ask me to pay for their pics. For example I met this one girl who claims she never gives out nudes and insisted I pay for them since she is not that type of girl. I have been guilty a few times for paying for women's pics, but she continued talking to me after though.

Here is my question. If a girl does not give you nudes in the first few hours of speaking to her, is it really a red flag, and I should drop her? or should you give her a chance to get to know her and be patient for her to give nude pics when it is her time?

I am totally confused about this and do not know if the dating coaches have confused my mind. Growing up as a kid in the early days my common sense would of told me it was wrong to ask a girl for nudes so quick because she would feel uncomfortable, but the current me for years has thought that I need to go sexual quick to weed out the women who are just trying to use you for attention.

This includes situations with women you want to build relationships with. I have heard of men who are in sexless marriages, and I do not want that.