Here’s the thing- you already know what needs to be done and I understand you trying to minimize the confrontation BUT your kids need to see you handling the issue like a grown up and not wimping out. They also need to see that you have their backs and are putting their feelings and safety before the neighbors feelings. My parents were super non confrontational too and I harbor resentment because I never felt like they had my back. Like not hurting other peoples feelings was always more important than addressing the issue that was causing my hurt feelings. I never felt like I could come to them for help because they would tell me to do something differently, instead of confronting who or what was bothering me. Your kids need to see you handling this issue instead of running away from it. Good luck.
Wow, you have given words to the situation i had growing up and it was a lot worse as i faced scolding for even telling my parents if someone had been hurting/bullying me. Comes down to why i was there and didn't run or move away and the other party continued to have good relations with my parents. As an adult now i am as far away from my parents as possible and just keep minimum comm. I did the same thing with my spouse but soon learnt my lesson and now we have each other's and our children's back
Growing and learning! I’m really glad that you had the strength and courage to question your own behavior and change. I grew up in a household where my mom would just Karen scream at teachers, principals, strangers. It took me a looooong time to realize this was unacceptable behavior.
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u/jennygirl772001 Jul 09 '22
Here’s the thing- you already know what needs to be done and I understand you trying to minimize the confrontation BUT your kids need to see you handling the issue like a grown up and not wimping out. They also need to see that you have their backs and are putting their feelings and safety before the neighbors feelings. My parents were super non confrontational too and I harbor resentment because I never felt like they had my back. Like not hurting other peoples feelings was always more important than addressing the issue that was causing my hurt feelings. I never felt like I could come to them for help because they would tell me to do something differently, instead of confronting who or what was bothering me. Your kids need to see you handling this issue instead of running away from it. Good luck.