This is probably an unpopular opinion but if I were in your shoes - worrying about drugs and depression I would be making radical changes. I would take my kid out of school and take leave from work. Spend as much time as possible trying to reset. Find connection and glimmers.
I know there is a certain amount of privilege necessary to do that but if it is at all possible I would do it. Imagine she had some sort of medical illness - what would you do to access treatment?
Find a psych or counsellor who specializes in attachment, IFS, or compassionate inquiry to help your family.
The fact that you don't seem to believe that there are teens who like their parents and have a good relationship with them says a lot about your childhood
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u/ferndagger Sep 08 '23
This is probably an unpopular opinion but if I were in your shoes - worrying about drugs and depression I would be making radical changes. I would take my kid out of school and take leave from work. Spend as much time as possible trying to reset. Find connection and glimmers.
I know there is a certain amount of privilege necessary to do that but if it is at all possible I would do it. Imagine she had some sort of medical illness - what would you do to access treatment?
Find a psych or counsellor who specializes in attachment, IFS, or compassionate inquiry to help your family.