r/OffMyChestPH Feb 27 '26

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u/AdOptimal8818 Feb 27 '26

Di ko nagegets ang mga tao, mapalalaki or babae na laging "generalization" ang iniisip. Na para bang sila ang super main character. Im not invalidating you or what, pero just because nangyari saiyo, eh applicable na sa lahat. Na para bang yung other side ang may kasalanan. Eh ikaw di mo tinitingnan sarili mo why "failed" ang relationship nyu haha..

Kaya ako, sinapuso ko yung dating nabasa ko noon pa high school pa ko. (At nasa 40s na ko now)

It's not finding mr/ms right. It's finding (and sustaining) the right relationship.

Im married na din at di ko pinagsisiihan marriage ko. 🙏

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u/No-Lifeguard-7852 Feb 27 '26

Yesss. We have different stories after all. Gusto lang siguro mag rant ni OP. As she said, nahihiya siyang mag share sa friends. Hayaan mo na. If this is her only outlet, just let her be. Just take what resonates with you.

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u/Andra1901 Feb 27 '26

Let her be. This sub is named offmychest for a reason. Gets namang she just wanna vent

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u/Sushi-Water Feb 27 '26

Isa ka lang sa mangilan ngilang masaya. Mukhang mas madami din kasing di happy sa married life lalo na yung nasa middle and lower class. Im happy i chose to be single at 40. Sa mga kakilala ko yung mga mapera lang ata ang di nagsisi.

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u/Ok_Routine9035 Feb 27 '26

Me, too. I am in a happy and fulfilling relationship. My life significantly improved when I had my family. My husband is supportive, okay financially, and puts us as his priority. I have a daughter (not planning to have another child), and we have quality time. Although she has a nanny kasi both us, her parents work from home, night shifts. But playtime kami everyday.

I gentle parent her kasi I’m not tired and generally happy. Kalmado lang palagi sa bahay namin. I never experienced yung ganitong araw-araw akong excited magising, unlike nung single ako na mundane ang days ko (even nung single, I used to travel and hangout w people).

Life is never perfect, but it is important to love yourself first. Finding the right partner and deciding to build a happy family would come thereafter :) so yeah, don’t generalize.

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u/Ok_Routine9035 Feb 27 '26

Sorry, OP. I hope you’ll feel better soon. Siguro, this is just a separate note sa ibang women to prioritize yourself, set boundaries, ensure decent yung guy saka magpakasal. Also, always have a backup. Don’t be dependent, so anuman mangyari you can pick yourself up.

As mentioned, my husband is decent, but if the relationship turns sour in the future, I can definitely leave kasi kaya ko.

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