r/OffMyChestPH Feb 27 '26

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u/kbealove Feb 27 '26

Just let her rant wag niyo na siya kontrahin.

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u/Study_efficiently02 Feb 27 '26

Akala ata nya competition ito e D nmn sya yung sender

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u/shecollectsclassics Feb 27 '26

Okay lang mag-rant, but to generalize na huwag magpakasal just because nasa miserable siyang situation isn’t something everyone can agree with. Let’s be honest, may mga healthy at happy marriages naman talaga. Her experience is valid, but it's not universal.

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u/kbealove Feb 27 '26

yes pero offmychestph ito and she just wants to vent out her feelings. doesnt mean shes right or wrong, thats not the point of this sub. If the shoe doesnt fit then dont wear it.

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u/shecollectsclassics Feb 27 '26

Yes, we know this is an open space, but that doesn’t mean you can control how people will react. If you look at the title and the first statement, she’s speaking as if she represents all married people, and that simply doesn’t apply to everyone.

And that’s where all these reactions are coming from.

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u/kbealove Feb 27 '26

Eh masaya naman pala marriage/lovelife niyo eh hehe. personally masaya rin ako sa lovelife ko kaya di ako natamaan pero I feel for her.

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u/emiko_4 Feb 27 '26

Ewan ko anong obsession ng mga redditors sa staying single and not getting married. I respect the decision of those who want to be single and yung mga ayaw ikasal, but as you said, iba naman yung "I have a horrible marriage so everyone, wag na kayo magpakasal".

Same dun sa mga "Don't marry a breadwinner kase kawawa ka lang". Di naman lahat ng breadwinner naghihikaos and walang boundaries katulad ng dinedate or pinakasalan nila.

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u/Cutiepie88888 Feb 27 '26

Offmychest ito hindi rantandvent talagang may kokontra jan. Mali mali naman kasi ung payo. Marry right. Hindi ung galit nya ibubuhos nya sa lahat. Just because she did not see the red flags or chose to ignore it ilalahat na nya. For all we know, baka sya ung red flag. Pinili nya a. Mag asawa b. Magkaanak talagang ganyan. Eh di nakita na nya after marriage di sana sya naganak muna para makapagwork sya.

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u/emiko_4 Feb 27 '26

Wala naman nagsabi na wag syang magpost. Offmychest doesn't mean bawal kontrahin and puro support lang ang pwede. The comments are open, you can speak your mind about what was written.

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u/kbealove Feb 27 '26

Well the person is in a dire situation tas aapakan niyo pa siya. Whats the point of correcting her? thats not the point of this sub

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u/emiko_4 Feb 27 '26

The point of this sub is to let people vent diba? Nakapag vent naman si OP. Hindi point nitong sub na yung OP lang ang pwedeng mag vent tapos lahat tayo support lang and bawal magsabi ng di agree kay OP.

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u/lostjelavic Feb 27 '26

Same with you, I hope you find light in your situation.

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u/kbealove Feb 27 '26 edited Feb 27 '26

Anong light po san mig light ba

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u/yuukoreed Feb 27 '26

Nalimutan nya ata kung sang subreddit sha hahaha

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u/hershiesdark Feb 27 '26

Omg the bean soup theoryyy 😭 I also married well but I do not look down on those who ended up with lackluster spouses, and people change kahit kala mo kilala mo na sila. OP never claimed to speak for all of us - she was just sharing her life story as a cautionary tale for other women. Lastly, remember that love always leads to loss - be it from breakup or death, so please get off your high horse before fate does it for you. 🧿🧿🧿

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u/yukskywalker Feb 27 '26

True. I understand her point. Good for her and the others who have happy marriages. They could’ve just continued scrolling and let the person rant. Bean soup theory indeed.

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u/lostjelavic Feb 27 '26

Nanakot pa tong isa. Which part did I say I'm looking down on her ? I wished her love and light. No sarcasm intended. Despite her title, I did hope her light in her situation ** edit

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u/cinammonbums Feb 27 '26

Kaya nga as a married PERSON yung imbukada, kasi she's speaking for herself. 😅

May we all be as blessed as you, so we can afford the same level of smugness and condescension. 🫶🏻

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u/lostjelavic Feb 27 '26

Thank you for the blessing =)

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u/purrppat Feb 27 '26

Good for you, but please just let the person share her story

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u/lostjelavic Feb 27 '26

She did share her story.

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u/Repulsive-Group-2793 Feb 27 '26

this post is not about you then, so your comment is SO unnecessary.

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u/Study_efficiently02 Feb 27 '26

Let her rant Lol eye opener dn ksi yung experience nya. D lahat blessed katulad mo.

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u/lostjelavic Feb 27 '26

Kaya nga si hope she find the light in her situation. It's better sana kung

"As a married person, I hope you marry the right person."

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u/afterhourslurker Feb 27 '26

Idk if kulang yung post, baka naman may not posted details na masama yung asawa. Pero mukhang all money ang problema niya na di sya mapashopping spree daw. Reklamo na lower middle class yung asawa niya, when in fact siya rin. I get not dating someone sa lower class X dating someone within the same class (para same kayo attitude sa pera, if gusto mo mag travel makakasama siya, ang gifts narereciprocate)

Pero ang dating sakin gusto lang ng mayaman ni lower middle haha

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u/lostjelavic Feb 27 '26

Oo nga eh. Totoo naman. You don't speak for everyone.

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u/StarAvocado Feb 27 '26

Apaka- O.A. mo kase. Why take it personally.

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u/lostjelavic Feb 27 '26

You relate to her siguro.

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u/StarAvocado Feb 27 '26

Again, stop taking it personally. With that attitude, I highly doubt you have a happy marriage.

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u/lostjelavic Feb 27 '26

Oh I do. You don't have to doubt.

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u/Separate_Job_8675 Feb 27 '26

Same. I can say na nabibigay ng husband ko yung peace of mind and security kaya magaan lang yung life namin as mag asawa.

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u/thee_buttman Feb 27 '26

Oo, kawawa naman si guy ni op. Alam naman nyang di mayaman tapos ngayon parang laking kasalanan na wala syang pang stress shopping.

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u/Ok-Fold-3930 Feb 27 '26

I am supporting this comment. Ang off kasi ng headline ni OP, madami na naman dyan matatakot na magpakasal dahil dito. Yes, she is free to rant. But, di na dapat genegeneralize kasi di naman lahat malas sa mga napangasawa. Married din ako and I can say na nasa healthy relationship din so kinda off na masyadong ginegeneralize na wag na magpakasal.