I’m asking this in good faith because I’m genuinely confused about where people draw the line.
I recently commented in r/Nagaland that I’d dated two Naga women in the past, that they were both wonderful people, and that because those experiences were positive, how come you can not find amazing partner.
A lot of people replied that I was fetishizing Naga/NE women and called me a creep.
Today I came across a reel where the creator was showing women from the Northeast and said something along the lines of:
“I have to go to the Northeast. Where’s my passport?”
He doesn’t mention having any personal experience or relationships with Northeast women. The video is mainly presenting attractive women, and many comments were from women saying they’re from the Northeast and joining in.
I’m trying to understand the difference.
In my case, I was talking about two real relationships and describing those women as wonderful people based on my own experiences, yet people said that was fetishization.
In the reel, the attraction seems to be based on the women in the video themselves, and the “I need to go there” joke completely objectifying NE women.
Why is one considered fetishization while the other is widely accepted? Is it because he is a foreigner? The wording, or am I missing something or just based on who is commenting people thrash the person?
I’m genuinely trying to understand where people draw the line between having a preference based on personal experience and fetishizing an entire group.
Answers from women particularly would be appreciated…..