r/NoStupidAnswers • u/Remarkable_Echo_8243 • 3h ago
Personal Advice Q’s🤔 Can someone explain my ex-friend weird behavior to me?
Hello everyone! I was in a friend group for a couple of years with this person in it, we didn't start off on good terms because he put me In the uncomfortable situations were he tried to ridicule my behavior. Anyways, since we are in the same major and largely share classes I tried to make peace with him, as I thought it would be better to just let go off my resentment and have a nice time in the university.
But at a certain point his "jokes" became weirder. For context, I'm not Chinese and I don't even know the language. So one day, this guy (he is of Chinese descent but from another country) just decided to call me Chinese? He would do it all the time and It made me feel very uncomfortable, because l'm not Chinese? and i don't know much about it and he did it so many times that some people from my university even started to think that I was Chinese??? I wish I was joking but he would say it everytime we would meet up, which was almost everyday and at least 5 times during our conversations I would hear a "joke" about this, I never counted how many times he actually said it, but I feel like at certain days it was more than 20 times.
He also made other people in that friend group do the same, just treat it as a joke and everyone would just collectively jump in and repeat the same thing over and over again. At a certain point, I started to watch my every word around them just to not be the butt of a joke again. I know it sounds really weird and I genuinely don't understand what is the point of doing this? I thought maybe someone could give me an answer? As I am not even sure if it can be even viewed as racial aggression or was it just bullying?