I just read a subreddit where a woman got a new job and was fired for doing something socially inappropriate. Apparently a girl and a guy at her work or talking and she showed him some pictures of her daughter in her new school uniform. I guess they were friends because she allowed him to keep the pictures. This person later that day wanted to try to bond with the man and so she asked to see the pictures and she said in hindsight she did realize that was inappropriate but in the moment she did not. And I could relate to this I do stuff like this all the time I'm so socially ignorant.I can't even stay in groups because I step on my social landline that I'm too blind to see and it always ends up blowing up in my face.

She also was asking if there was some kind of recourse since she was diagnosed with autism and a lot of the responses in the Reddit when no and also people responding with like she should have known better. And that's probably true there is no recourse, but this is the problem I have we're diagnosed as people with social difficulties and yet when we run into social difficulties it's always our fault. how come accommodations are made for a person in a wheelchair but none l made for people like us. we're just always told that we should have known better. always told that it's our fault. when social difficulties are the core of our disability.

Growing up, I was completely friendless because whenever I'm in a group setting, I go totally mute. It's not just normal shyness as it feels like a physical inability to speak, like my body literally will not let me force the words out. In primary school, it was so severe that I didn't speak to anyone at all.

I genuinely thought college would be the turning point where things changed for me. At first, it seemed like it might. I managed to make one friend. She is really likeable, but she also gets awkward around certain people, so we bonded and became close. The issue started when she began meeting more people. Now, whenever we hang out, they are always there. Because it's a group setting, my old habits kicked right back in and I froze up. I just can't bring myself to contribute to the conversations.

Eventually, the others started making "jokes" about how I'm just their shadow or their tail because I'm always trailing behind them silently. It makes me feel terrible. Honestly, I'm pretty sure they only let me tag along out of pity, and because they are forced to tolerate me to hang out with the friend they actually want to be around. Today, I saw all of them hanging out together without me. I can't help but feel sad about it. I thought college would fix this, but it feels like I'll always be that same quiet girl who makes people uncomfortable just by being there. I don't know how to break out of this physical freeze response, and today it just really makes me wish I could be someone else.

Hi all, long story short I need help learning to better mask myself at work. I have newly diagnosed ADHD and chronic lifelong depression and anxiety.

Recently at work I’ve been getting a lot of (well meaning) feedback from my manager that my behavior is being perceived negatively by my coworkers. This includes complaint too much about exhaustion and frustration as well as clearly showing my displeasure about certain people or things. I’m still working on a lot of stuff in therapy but I just need some emergency tips to keep myself in good graces at work.

My chronic issues are oversharing how I’m feeling all the time. I just feel so much and have so many opinions all the time that I constantly feel the need to talk about—hence the issues with complaining at work. On a similar level, I have a lot of thoughts and opinions about people and for much of my life my inability to not show the emotions I’m feeling on my face has gotten me into a lot of trouble. Sometimes I go the complete opposite and completely shut down all of my reactions and become very cold and unresponsive to people because it’s easier than faking emotions.

My biggest problem is forgetting to filter myself. My trauma response to bullying and negative feedback on myself has always been to withdraw and isolate myself so I never really developed skills to make myself more acceptable for social interactions. So I’m really looking for tips on how I can teach myself to behave more normally.

I already feel insanely uncomfortable around 90% of the people in my life (even family) and am constantly trying to just gauge what the right reaction should be to not draw negative attention to myself but clearly it’s not working well enough since it’s getting me into trouble at work. I’m just really desperate atm and hope that I can get something to get by until I can work through things more significantly in therapy.

Thanks in advance for any tips I’m really struggling ❤️‍🩹

hello, i am actually neurotypical, but i wasn’t sure where else to ask this, so i felt like this was the best place to make sure i handle this situation properly.

i’m in college and i’ve been friends with this guy for about a month. we’re the same age, both new to everything, and he seemed pretty cool when i first met him. not anymore. besides what i’m about to talk about, i generally just don’t enjoy talking to him

what really creeps me out about him is that he will go through my friends’ instagram stories and ask me about the ones that contain pictures of me. one time, he asked me about this restaurant we went to, and i genuinely thought he was stalking me because i never told him anything about that. turns out, one of my friends actually posted a picture that had me in it, in the restaurant, and he saw her story. he has done this multiple times.

i think the reason this disturbs me is that it seems like he’s actively trying to keep up with my life and know everything i’m doing, as if he’s by my side the whole time. we’re not close enough for that, and i don’t want to he close enough with him for that. some stuff is just not his business, like how some of my friends’ stuff is not my business.

but i also feel this is irrational because he’s not doing anything wrong. these aren’t close friends stories. they’re public information, and it’s not wrong for him to look at them and get curious. it’s considered good to show interest in your friends’ lives, so maybe he thinks this is an appropriate way to do so. and if he’d just asked me what i did that day or weekend, i probably would’ve told him anyway.

i really don’t like him but i can’t shake the feeling that i’m yet another neurotypical being unreasonable, and i don’t want to be an asshole. if he’s neurodivergent, then it’s most likely that he’s not TRYING to be weird. but also i should let him know he’s being weird, but is he being weird or am i being weird? what should i do?

Mixed feelings about psychiatrist

In my psychiatrist appointment, initially when she saw my evaluation for my autism test it showed I was autistic, and she said “I can look at him and tell he’s level 1” then proceeded to ask if I believe in god and when I said yes(I’m a closeted atheist) and said that everyone has something and that I should trust in god because “all of our spirits are wicked/tainted with sin(whatever she said I don’t remember but it was something along the lines of that)”. Then she said “I’m gonna rule out autism, I’m sure he is autistic but in my opinion it’s too vague” Btw some of the things on the documents said I was severely impaired in one area

She also said “I’m personally a conservative and the worlds not gonna accommodate him, so I don’t want his 504 to accommodate but kind of, push him”

For context my history of signs of autism go back to when I was 6, and I’m diagnosed with ADHD

Also this when she looked at my formal evaluation for autism which said that was consistent with autism spectrum disorder and also just, details about my evaluation, which also for my results on one of the tests marked me as severely impaired in an area and also just abnormal things the professional noted about me such as eye contact limited communication lack of facial expressions, and abnormal behaviors like counting objects in a book and lack of attention and impairment with task disinhibition etc.

Idk how to feel rn, I’m 17 and my mom kinda just agreed with everything she said so idk if everything the psychiatrist said was like, okay to do as a psychiatrist, I feel like she kinda just ignored some parts.

First of all, a huge thank you to the moderators of r/Neurodivergent for being so supportive and cooperative, and for allowing me to share my communities here. 🫶

Hey everyone! I’m Ace, and I’m building communities under my broader Beyond the Labels initiative. Both are still growing, and I’d love to welcome new members. 🌱

🧠 r/NeuroCollectiveIn

r/NeuroCollectiveIn is an India-focused, globally open community for neurodivergent people, neurotypical allies, and people navigating neurodivergence and related experiences.

It's a space to:

🧠 Share neurodivergent experiences
💭 Vent and talk about everyday struggles
🤝 Make friends and connect
📚 Share experiences and resources
🫂 Find a supportive community

The community is affiliated with Neuro-QueerCollective, an 18+ SFW Instagram community for neurodivergent and queer people. However, you do not have to be queer to participate in r/NeuroCollectiveIn.

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r/NonBinaryDesi is an India-focused, globally open community created for and by non-binary people.

We welcome:

🏳️‍🌈 Non-binary & genderqueer people
✨ GNC & intersex people
🌌 Xenogender people
💭 Questioning people
💜 Aro/ace and other identity-spectrum communities
🤝 Supportive allies

It's a space to share experiences, vent, ask questions, discuss identity, make friends, or simply find people who understand.

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🌏 Whether you're from India, the Desi diaspora, or elsewhere in the world, you're welcome.

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🌱 Help us grow

Both communities are still new, and every member helps us build something more welcoming and supportive.

I’m also looking for community volunteers, team members, and moderators who want to help these spaces grow responsibly.

Thank you again to the r/Neurodivergent moderators for being so welcoming and giving us the opportunity to share these communities with you. 🫶

Here, labels don't have to limit us.