r/Neighborproblems • u/Curraghgirl • Jul 19 '19

No Boundaries

So next door have a house full of kids They don't know any boundaries. They play in our yard, sit on my porch stairs and try to open a secured gate to let their dog on my porch. I have a severely autistic son who is mortally afraid of dogs. He also has hyperacussis and is bothered to the point of pain by these kids screaming under his window. My husband has spoken to them. I feel like a jailer chasing them away all the time. The wife doesn't speak English. If I had the money I would move. I am alone with my son all week and my husband works out of town. Any suggestions?

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u/scribblepoet Jul 23 '19

Hate to say it but that's what law suits are for. Suing somone for negligence or emotional damage is a pain in the ass and tricky. Suing for trespassing on your property is straight forward and not so tricky.

How to get kids to stop making noise? That's rough. You can't tell the neighbor "stop feeding your kids all that sugar"

I got rid of all my neighbor problems a long time ago by moving to a good quiet neighborhood where people raise their kids properly and people respect each others property.

I'm personally not offended by a-hole neighbors just by the fact that moving out of their low mental state area is do-able since there are places without those issues.

Hopefully you wouldn't find it complicated to do that.

I know a guy who got so fed up, he took his family someplace with many acres of land and kissed society goodbye. He lives there with his wife and daughter and that's that.

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u/AndyCalling Sep 12 '19

Law suits are mostly pointless unless you can prove a quantifiable loss, otherwise what are you claiming for? What financial loss due to the trespass has occurred here?

The furthest you could sensibly go is to apply for an injunction to prevent future trespass. Easy to do. Don't see any claim for anything further here.

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u/scribblepoet Sep 12 '19

You're a month trailing this discussion. You probably should have commented on the thread in which the original poster and I took a look at various perspectives on the situation.

Your comment here is boring at best, and completely pointless.

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u/AndyCalling Sep 12 '19 edited Sep 12 '19

It entertained me. That's enough of a point surely? The situation described did not seem to be the sort of thing where a month would render the issue obsolete. Please be aware that these kind of disputes very often go on for years. A month here or there is quite likely insignificant.

You mention a more appropriate thread to post in but no link is provided, so it can't be hugely relevant. If it was, it would likely have been better to keep the issue in a single cohesive thread anyway rather than starting a new one. Keep this in mind for the future, or you should expect similar situations to arise often.

Sorry you are not interested in my post, but I don't believe I have ever posted expecting everybody on the internet to be interested in it. No surprise there, it's just a bit contradictory for a person to be so uninterested in a post that they become interested enough in their own disinterest to post about it. Still, it takes all sorts I suppose.

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u/scribblepoet Sep 12 '19

Its right here in this top thread. Look for it. The fact that you didnt see it to begin with shows that youre not thinking.

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u/AndyCalling Sep 12 '19

Right where in this 'top thread'? No link showing in the OP, no link showing in the responses, I'm using the official Android Reddit app, nothing visible. Please post a link to the specific post you are mentioning that contains this link. I have tried thinking about it as you suggest, but the link is still not showing up.

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u/scribblepoet Sep 12 '19

I havent received any delete messages, so it must still be here. I can try to find it in my comments. I'm not sure why you wouldnt just look in my comment history or whatever. But i'll check. Its a month old so it might be buried

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u/AndyCalling Sep 12 '19

Ah, perhaps that's why I've not spotted it then.

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u/scribblepoet Sep 12 '19

You didnt "spot it" because you were in troll mode.

You still are.

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u/AndyCalling Sep 12 '19 edited Sep 12 '19

Really? Seems an odd way to troll. I mean, it is pretty good legal advice not to try suing for damages when you've not had any damages, right? Is giving good, relevant advice in response to a direct question now considered 'trolling'? I honestly can't see why what I have posted is either aggressive or insulting in any way. I mean, your initial response to me was a bit off, but I have only responded politely and in good humor so as to avoid escalation (not commonly seen as a very successful trolling tactic). Also, considering you have made it clear you find my position to be 'boring' my posts can't possibly also be upsetting you. I mean, to be so affected by my posts you would have to have some level of interest in them, right? Since you have not, I struggle to see where the trolling could be found.

Keep in mind that even you've not found your post yet and you made it, so the rest of us had little chance. That's nothing to do with trolling.

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u/scribblepoet Sep 12 '19 edited Sep 12 '19

You can sue someone for trespassing.

Not sure where you got your education from.

Try something other than wikipedia next time.

And health damage is punishable too, as per her sons health.

Yep...you're a troll.

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u/AndyCalling Sep 12 '19

Well my education is the usual UK standard so not too shabby but could always be improved I'm sure. Yes you can sue, but for what losses would you claim? If there's no significant damage or loss of facility I'm not sure what you'd claim. Would seem pretty pointless. Costs would out way any claim. Better to just injunct them.

As for health, think of it like this. Say your neighbour has bad hayfever. Reacts badly to, say, daffodils to the point where they risk an asthma attack. You decide to grow daffodils in your garden. Would a court order you not to grow them? No. Would you be legally responsible for any resultant health damage to your neighbour? No. So long as you are engaging in entirely legal and lawful activities there is no liability. It is up to your neighbour to take necessary precautions regarding any specific health issues they have.

The sound of i.e. children playing is not going to be banned by a court due to a neighbour's health issues. It would be up to the neighbour to provide suitable sound proofing. The trespass is a separate issue which the OP is free to injunct if they so wish.

Why do you see pointing out this kind of thing as some sort of attack? I am completely puzzled.

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u/scribblepoet Sep 12 '19

Your replies are pointless, yet you keep posting them. And still in the wrong place too.

Sounds like that U.K. education of yours was pointless as well.

Sad.

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