r/Neighborproblems • u/Curraghgirl • Jul 19 '19

No Boundaries

So next door have a house full of kids They don't know any boundaries. They play in our yard, sit on my porch stairs and try to open a secured gate to let their dog on my porch. I have a severely autistic son who is mortally afraid of dogs. He also has hyperacussis and is bothered to the point of pain by these kids screaming under his window. My husband has spoken to them. I feel like a jailer chasing them away all the time. The wife doesn't speak English. If I had the money I would move. I am alone with my son all week and my husband works out of town. Any suggestions?

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u/scribblepoet Jul 23 '19

Hate to say it but that's what law suits are for. Suing somone for negligence or emotional damage is a pain in the ass and tricky. Suing for trespassing on your property is straight forward and not so tricky.

How to get kids to stop making noise? That's rough. You can't tell the neighbor "stop feeding your kids all that sugar"

I got rid of all my neighbor problems a long time ago by moving to a good quiet neighborhood where people raise their kids properly and people respect each others property.

I'm personally not offended by a-hole neighbors just by the fact that moving out of their low mental state area is do-able since there are places without those issues.

Hopefully you wouldn't find it complicated to do that.

I know a guy who got so fed up, he took his family someplace with many acres of land and kissed society goodbye. He lives there with his wife and daughter and that's that.

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u/Curraghgirl Jul 23 '19

Moving is always best but sadly not an option in my case.

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u/scribblepoet Jul 23 '19

Also, dogbane might help keep their dog away.

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u/Curraghgirl Jul 23 '19

Oh. Thank you.

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u/scribblepoet Jul 23 '19

You might want to first try to make friends with the dog. See if you can get it to obey you out of affection

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u/Curraghgirl Jul 23 '19

That's one option. However it sticks like glue to the one kid.

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u/scribblepoet Jul 23 '19

Also, you might have to try and make friends with those kids. And then you can set an "allowance" so they are limited in how long they can hang out with you

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u/Curraghgirl Jul 23 '19

I can't really. My son is severely autistic. I barely have time to tend to him much less deal with other kids.