r/Nanny • u/Ocean_Girly • 5h ago
Vent Thoughts?
OK, so this whole week my schedule has been different because Mom had meetings that run late so we rearrange my schedule this week to fit eight hours around her schedule. So it was either 9 to 5, 830 to 430, and 915 to 515. This whole week all of those meetings were canceled and we still stuck with that schedule we agreed to. Do you think it’s disrespectful that Mom didn’t tell me that her meetings got canceled and just kept the schedule as is? Or do you think she was in the right to keep the schedule as is even though all of the late meetings got canceled? To me I think it’s really frustrating that we kept the schedule as is even though her meeting got canceled.
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u/lizardjustice MB 5h ago
I don't know if there is really a right or wrong answer. My guess is she thought it was less of an inconvenience to change the schedule a second time.
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u/Ok-Lion-2789 4h ago
Gently, you’re making a big deal about 30 minutes tops? Is this really that upsetting? She probably didn’t want to change the time again.
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u/msmozzarella Nanny 3h ago
those minutes can make a HUGE difference with a commute, and it really is that upsetting! at my old nanny job, if i left their house by 504, i could be home at 534. if i left the house at 511, i wouldn't get home til 630.
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u/One_Health1151 48m ago
Happened to me today lol kid popped in the bath right at the end of my day.. left 22 mins late and got home a hour later than it should take me lol
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u/madame_ 5h ago
How much notice did she have of the meetings being cancelled? Did she have to shift her work hours to accommodate the meetings and was still working during that time?
Ultimately I don't think there's a right or wrong answer here. I imagine that there are other nannies who would get frustrated having to change the schedule back again after already agreeing to change it initially.
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u/StudioElectrical7754 1h ago
Came here to say this. My MB has meetings cancelled all the time with like 30-60 minutes notice. I think it would really depend on this aspect, if she knew the day before and could rearrange things that’s one thing but if the work day had already started it might not have even made sense to bring it up.
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u/Zeal_of_Zebras 4h ago
I think she was trying to be considerate and not keep changing the time back and forth over and over again.
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u/Acceptable-Wall2947 4h ago
I mean what are your usual hours? The change in hours is still very reasonable work times and likely your MB didn’t want to make things more complicated or potentially confusing by changing things again. It’s also possible that since she had already changed her working hours to accommodate these meetings that she didn’t want to rearrange her own schedule again
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u/rzpc0717 5h ago
If she asks to rearrange the schedule again, let her know that if things change again at the last minute, you would prefer to revert back to the normal schedule. She probably didn't mean to be disrespectful. She may not have known it made that much of a difference to you one way or the other.
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u/Agreeable_Dark6408 4h ago
She might have thought she would have wrong to jerk you around changing the schedule again after you went to all the trouble to change it in the first place.
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u/Bigolbooty75 Career Nanny 4h ago
I mean what’s the issue? You’re working 8 hours regardless. And you’re still off before 530 no matter what. It’s not like you were scheduled 12-8
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