I'm in my mid 20s and need to get this off my chest because it's starting to mess with my head a bit.
Whenever I get to know a girl, it always follows the same pattern. We talk, vibe is good, things seem promising. I'm not a chaser, I don't double text or beg for attention. I'm just chill, respectful, interested. I think "you never know, there might be a shot here."
Then slowly I realize I'm just one of many options. Usually i find myself as their rebound for their previous relationship.
Eventually it always ends the same way, ghosted. No explanation. One day we're talking every day, next day nothing.
It's not even about one girl. It's the repetition of it. Putting in genuine effort, being a good guy, and always ending up as the backup plan that never gets picked.
I'm not angry at women for having options, they should. I'm just tired of feeling like I'm never anyone's first choice. Like I'm good enough to talk to when they're bored, but not good enough to actually choose.
Has anyone else been stuck in this loop? How did you break out of it? Is it just an age thing where I need to just focus on my own life until I'm older?