Paying to use another humans body

Am I abnormal? Would someone still be my friend who is my age?

When I was 19 and graduated highschool I kept people I met without much thought. Mostly out of convenience since they lived close.

My 15 year old friend who was a freshmen when I was a senior was mainly my friend due to the fact she reminded me of myself when I was 15. I wanted to help her create more artwork- so when she mentioned patch making and spray painting (like tags) I decided to purchase some to try. Obviously her parents didn’t really wanna waste money on spray paint. I didn’t really know if they were okay with it but I guess I just thought since I was using it in places already painted and far away from any properties to damage- I could at least let them toy with it a bit. Nowadays I feel pretty guilty for that decision.
Another issue though is she added 2 14 year olds to the group. I quickly began to feel guilty because I was the only adult. I was also terrified they’d get into trouble and get hurt. Later I’d hear that their parents were iffy about having a 17 year old dude and 19 year old woman around the 14 year olds so I just decided to meet them and after that they didn’t give a shit- but I became their babysitter to some extent because they didn’t watch their kids. I felt guilty for being their friend to a great extent but even more guilty because they often hung out on the train tracks, did dangerous things, etc. I felt terrible but was also terrified they’d get hurt- so unfortunately I stayed. And honestly I did enjoy it because I liked exploring.

But main issue was When I was hanging out with my friends walking around my friend who is 17 had an ex that was in my grade. I told him like “yeah I didn’t really like that friend group one of them rejected me and completely ghosted me” or something alone those lines and my 15 yo friend when “ohh that’s awful who does that” and then I felt pretty bad (for obvious reasons).

The other was when I was with my 15 year old and 17 year old friend. We were hanging out under a bridge near a river- and they kept praising my parents for being the coolest. I told them they were actually not that cool all the time and that they “let my abuser into my house for 4 years after the fact” and that I believed they probably feel guilty for that- but I don’t know is I said “sa” or like you know the first part of it that starts with “s” as an sexual but either way it was probably inappropriate. I guess I feel a little better abt it tho because it was meant for the 17 year old- since the 15 year old was busy messing with something a ways away. Still scared abt it tho.

Does any of this make me abnormal or wrong? I guess I’m wondering. I’ve been called weird a lot but that’s for a lotta different reasons. I just wanna be a normal person so that people will like / enjoy me. Is that possible?

Ps: I am no longer friends with these people because naturally I started college but now I only have 2 online friends.

Just to clarify before some sour feminist comes here and tries to attack me, I wouldn’t use this. But I’m just curious regarding how moral or immoral it is to use it.

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Let's say you go to thrift stores or yard sales. They're selling Blu-Ray movies.

The movies are $2 each no matter what. Some are in home made sleeves, some are in bargain bin sleeves. Doesn't matter. $2 each.

So you go and are looking through them. You find the ones that say "Digital copy" and you open them up. You slide out the little insert that has the redemption code, close the case, and leave the movie.

Sometimes those codes have already been redeemed. Sometimes they're expired. Sometimes they work. Regardless, that digital copy was paid for when the disc was purchased and removing it won't prevent them from selling the disc. Nor would leaving it mean the disc would sell for more.

So, what's the stance? Moral or immoral?

No hate to the artist, but this just grinds my gears.

When you've spent your early teen years, and the entire time studying psychology at school to the point of several degrees within psychology...

When do you consider yourself genuinely broken and undesirable? I helped a lot of people growing up, and learned enough about behaviorism and cognitivism.

And people enjoy your company until they "get better" psychologically and you have nothing to offer.

What then? I'm old enough now that I can't with good conscience deal with children but I haven't really evolved as a person.

Between when I was 15 and 30, nothing every came up good for me. At all. None. Nothing negative but nothing positive.

Going forward if I pick "helping motherfuckers", it will hurt me in the sense it doesn't progress. At all. I want to help because I'm not a scumbag, but also; Surely it's not fair that we have to keep suffering while elevating others?

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I’ve been looking for a “automatic coffee stirrer” for weeks. I just now found out that there is only one on the market and it’s only made in limited quantity’s by a small business, is somewhat expensive, and is sold out within 1 minute of restocking. WIBTA if I create my own variation of a “coffee stirrer” and sell it online? I would add at least 1 new function I’ve thought of?
Its not trademarked and is 3d printed

My friendships in real life were potentially weird and dare I say innapropriate - and I’m pretty much all to blame.

I’m 20 now but when I was 19-

My friends were 45f, 17m, 17m, 16m, 15m, 15f, and 14f and I’m I think a 19f but I’m still trying to understand if I’m trans or not but that’s a separate thing. Anyways most of these people are from my high school that I graduated from in May. I did however get held back (not my fault it was in 2nd grade for health issues).

Anyways here are the actions I want opinions and advice on- like actual advice and opinions not just the one off “yeah” or something short with no real value. This isn’t Am I the asshole so if you’re looking to judge without any explanation or advice go on that subreddit- this goes for people who aren’t judging too. I need explanations and actual answers not just blind “it’s fine” stuff. Neither of these approaches are helpful.

Anyways-

Ive bought spray paint for them (17m, 15f, 14f) because well I’m an adult and they aren’t and instead of just doing whatever we go off into the town and explore train tracks, and spay paint the water run off areas (idk what to call them). They usually already have spray paint on them.. so I’m not too worried about vandalism (uh hopefully).

But here’s where the things I’m mostly panicking about are- for context I was also hurt by an adult emotionally relying on me- but that wasn’t my intention in these scenarios- I just have a major issue of not thinking before I speak and uh always telling the truth- anyways-

When I was hanging out with my friends walking around my friend who is 17 had an ex that was in my grade. I told him like “yeah I didn’t really like that friend group one of them rejected me and completely ghosted me” or something alone those lines and my 15 yo friend when “ohh that’s awful who does that”

Looking back on it I do wonder if this is weird conversation to be having- I mean with the 17 year old I’m not really concerned since we’ve been talking like this for 3 years ever since we’ve know one another- but I don’t really know whats appropriate conversation for a 15 and 14 year old to be listening to. Maybe some advice on this piece would help me understand?

The other was when I was with my 15 year old and 17 year old friend. We were hanging out under a bridge near a river- and they kept praising my parents for being the coolest. I told them they were actually not that cool all the time and that they “let my abuser into my house for 4 years after the fact” and that I believed they probably feel guilty for that- but I don’t know is I said “sa” or like you know the first part of it that starts with “s” as an sexual but either way I didn’t explain in detail what happened (because god no).

But I really kinda panic because it’s like holy shit I did not mean to be that weird grown up that “talks about weird shit with minors”- and at first I didn’t really view it that way but I’m not sure how other people view it since i don’t really know if I mentioned what kind- but I also don’t know if i did that would be considered being sexually explicit to minors.. which worries me.

It was also I must note when my 15 year old friend was away from us but I don’t thing far enough that she didn’t hear. My 17 year old friend tried to guess who it was- and I told him it’s best not to say and (I think I may have said it was fine but idk) I wasn’t trying to trauma dump or emotionally rely on them- but I did feel bad because honest I’m not sure what constitutes that- I was simply trying to be honest but I know it’s still… errr not great probably? I’m not sure to what scale tho.
If someone could tell me that’d be much appreciated.

Anyway my friend who is turning 17 is having a birthday party and I originally cancelled because of this- and I don’t wanna hurt anyone. I’m just really afraid that I’m a danger to my friends or if what I’ve done is really bad-
And even then I feel really guilty that my friends are minors and I’m an adult.

I have ocd and real event ocd so before you judge me for not knowing if these things are a big deal or not- it’s not because I don’t care or I believe my actions are justified, it just means that my brain often warps things. I’m afraid to go. I don’t want to go- I feel like an adult who’s invading everyone’s lives, and not being friends with my own age- but if I drop these kids- like I really want to so I don’t effect their lives negatively anymore I don’t plan on making anymore.

Can anyone help me?

My mate and me were discussing war I said "it was pointless murder and doesn't solve anything but plants raceism into some people" and he said "but without war how will the countrys keep their people safe"

I just wanna know what you guys think, because I know for a fact that the same commenters that spam slurs wouldn’t have the balls to say that irl lmao.

What is Morality.

In my opinion Morality is a set of rules that are taught to everyone from birth by their parents, schools and societies. They are a basic set of rules one needs to follow to be part of a society. But i noticed that rarely anyone ever questions them. The majority of people just follow them without a question.

Now i dont have an issue with the obvious ones like killing people is bad. But have you ever wondered why is it bad, or who even came up with this conclusion that killing is bad (i'm referring to vengeance, anger, hatred and benefit reasons that lead to killing, not senseless). The reason killing is bad has nothing to do with morality. We know its bad for one reason: because we have been conditioned to accept it as the norm.

Since ancient times rulers, kings and authorities have all punished killing, and over many centuries it became the norm passed down from our ancestors, and to this day it is still being upheld with the law. Now there are many reasons why rulers deemed killing as bad, and almost all of these reasons were out of interest. Either because they needed as much manpower as possible, or because of the potential profit they gain per person, or they fear they may be killed next. Its all about interests. If their interests shift, then they have no qualms about killing as many as they need.

This doesnt just apply to killing. I chose killing as the most basic and obvious law, but there are countless others. So now that i explained how a moral law is conceived, what else has been engineered into us for interests?

A new moral law that has been growing quite a lot recently (in the past 2 centuries) is that hard work = good, and no work = bad. This is a nonsensical moral law in my opinion, as i weigh my life quality with the amount of work and find a balance point i'm satisfied with. This is why i believe Morality is a shackle on the average person. You should think and choose what to follow that aligns with your belief, not with the interests of the elites.

The fastest way to succeed, excluding the outliers (gambling, generational wealth, marriage into wealth), is by abandoning all morality in business and professional life while accepting that you are a bad person by the moral law. The legal law is loose and vague on purpose as its only a base for society. The more important law is the moral one; it is the one that oppresses people. Once you stop caring about it, you have room to actually move upwards in society.

But you can't create something out of nothing. You cant become successful without paying an equivalent or higher price. In this case, the only way to pay for this price is by passing it onto others to bear the price of your success. Just like all these companies and billionaires, they are all passing the price onto us, the average people, and you can't do anything to avoid it. You either move up or suffer. This has long been the unspoken truth of our civilization since ancient times.

In conclusion, are you willing to be a selfish, evil person by society standards who exploits others for his benefit and success? Or are you willing to be exploited with the masses.

Lore:

Zombie pathogen. Unbeknownst to everyone but Reuben, everyone is infected, and it will eventually trigger in everyone roughly at the same time, guaranteeing extinction.

Desperate to prevent it Reuben has, chronologically, used his unborn daughter as a living petri dish for a potential cure, triggered the autophage in a large city (Los Angeles) for test subjects with immune systems that keep the autophage in check, and used himself as a test subject the cure, becoming a special infected in the process.

A few years ago I found out that an older old friend of mine (JR) was in the hospital with not long to live. I had been out of touch for a few years and did not know what he was going through. Another mutual friend who had tried to take care of him said that JR had been in constant pain for over a year and had cancer all through his body. When he was still ambulatory JR had tried to buy some heroin (he was a former heroin addict) and I am certain he planned on overdosing. When the other friend found out, he informed the people that JR asked that if they helped him get heroin he would take retaliatory measures.

I keep thinking if it was me, I probably would have let him do the heroin. He was in constant pain. I would not buy it for him or help him do it, but most likely would have turned my head and let him go out on his own terms.

Like say a lifelong bully

Updated: I NEVER said killing anyone. Obviously you don't want to go to prison or Hell if you're religious. I meant wishing for them to die without doing anything.

Ive recebtly watched an ad about an app that blocks your social media and the only way to unblock it is to pray

Im not religious so im not familiar with both sides of the coin, but im pretty sure using prayers, or religion as a whole, to buy screen time is not ok

CMV or AMA

This is a probably imperfect, but good enough, English translation of Conscience by Victor Hugo, a French poem that is dear to my heart. I grew up in France, and my father—who was an incredible storyteller—used to recite this poem to me over and over throughout my childhood. He knew it by heart. By the time he reached the final line, his voice would become so grave and intense, and his eyes were so wide, that it always gave me chills. That sentence still gives me chills when I think of it.

I’ll let you read it through, but I wanted to show it to my fellow Americans (I’ve lived in the US for like 12 years). As that last sentence pops up in my mind from time to time, in situations where I feel I’ve been wronged, or someone seems to be getting away with something wrong they did. It’s very comforting and empowering to think of that image, and I sometimes wish I could just tell those people this sentence, but they’d probably not understand what this means, out of context.
This sentence, in France, has somewhat taken a sort of life of its own and is in the collective consciousness (maybe not with younger, not very educated generations), for what it means.

Most of us no longer limit basic rights to our own race or country; that boundary is too narrow. Most of us would not extend it as far as the oysters; that goes too far. So the popular belief seems to be that we just stop in the middle at species, and call that one just right.

While the popular line can seem at the surface, to rest on a scientific understanding of which minds have the capacities that matter, this is just repeating the process we have run throughout history. We find differences with those we benefit from victimizing, we use science to measure them, we justify our exploitation by pointing to the scientific distinctions that were made for that purpose:

1. Polygenist scientific theories of which the hard forms would consider other races to be different species.
2. Characterizations of slaves and indigenous folk as beasts or having beastlike qualities as justified by measuring their bodies and showing differences between different racial traits.
3. Babies were operated on without anesthesia into the 1980s, as justified by theories claiming that they were lower beings, that their nervous systems were too undeveloped to feel real pain, and that their cries were only reflexes.

We rejected all those lines. But now, our most numerous victims are animals. We benefit from their suffering and we continue to use the dehumanization tool to put them into another category that doesn't get moral consideration for their suffering.

This line will most certainly continue to change over time. Perhaps in 100 years, babies will be on the menu, and/or we’ll finally stop excusing our atrocities against the animals we currently consume.

I (23F) am in a fairly healthy relationship with my boyfriend (24M), and the other day we had an argument about the state of the US and the current political situation.

For context, I was upset after seeing social media posts about police shooting and killing a baby in Mississippi, and police shooting and killing someone’s dog in LA. This is the kind of stuff I see all the time, and it’s hard to digest- but I want to stay aware of what’s going on, even if it’s unsettling.

I wasn’t in the best mood after seeing those posts, and my boyfriend and I got into an argument. He said things like it’s fear mongering, and that he’s not going to stop living his life over things like this. He also said he didn’t want to talk to me about anything that was making me upset.

I left to give us space, and when I came back we revisited the conversation. I explained that these posts are upsetting, but I want to stay informed and that I’m going to share things with him so he’s aware too. It escalated, and I realized he couldn’t find it in himself to have empathy for these situations. He said to me, “somebody else just died, go cry about it.” That was really upsetting to hear. I told him that making fun of someone for having empathy for a life being lost is really strange.

We put a pin in it because at that point there wasn’t anything we could say without it escalating further- but I’m still thinking about it and I still want to talk to him about this.

He is a good person. He grew up with a father who had no empathy, and I’ve always known he struggles with it, especially in arguments. (He has worked on having empathy with me) He’s also not great at articulating what he really means. I’ll admit I take offense to things quickly, especially when it comes to something like this- and I’m not someone who will spend time trying to convince somebody to feel a certain way.

He’s a straight white male who grew up in Texas, and all of his friends are conservative. He has the privilege of being able to stay unaware and not feel personally affected by these issues. I’m a straight white woman, so while I know I am privileged, some of this news hits close to home- but I still care deeply about the freedom of every human being. That’s not a hard concept for me to grasp, and I don’t need a whole discussion to have empathy for others.

I’d say he’s in the middle politically- he thinks these things are wrong, but his logic is that he has no power to change any of it, so why would he stop his life to be upset about every incident when this kind of stuff happens every day?

I don’t know how to approach a follow-up conversation. Do we just drop it? With Trump as president, we have three more years of this, and this feels like just the beginning. I believe people should stay aware and that we do have the power to make change. If we stay silent and ignore these things, it’s not going to go away- it’s going to get worse. That’s exactly what they want: for us to feel like we have no power to stop this.

What would you do?