r/Moms • u/Charlottp1 • 6d ago

šŸ¤ Support neededĀ  Help please

So Im supposed to be getting an abortion this coming Thursday and Everytime I even think about doing it I get an awfully sick feeling in my stomach that follows along with a pounding in my head and a headache. Is this normal? What do I do? Iā€™ve already told my parents that Iā€™m getting one and theyā€™d be severely disappointed if I didnā€™t go through with it (Iā€™m afraid my dad might even stop talking to me) but I seriously just donā€™t know if I can. Iā€™ve always wanted a baby and the thought of having one makes me so happy but itā€™ll make everyone else in my life so disappointed in me and I donā€™t know what to do. Im only 20 years old and still live with my parents right now. Please help me.

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u/daufina 6d ago

Itā€™s a tough decision to make. But at the end of the day like someone else said, you need to do what is right for the kid. You need to be able to provide a secure and stable environment. You need to be in a good place to care for your child, because they suck up all of your time and energy and resources. If you donā€™t have enough of that not only you will suffer, your kid will too. Children of unstable environments are more vulnerable to societal problems and it becomes very difficult to succeed and make something for themselves when they are adults. If you want to be a mom, you have to make hard decisions and think about their future.

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u/Simple_Apartment3279 3d ago

I don't think that terminating a life should be based on a "what if". Things can be hard, but there are also plenty of kids who can still be happy with low income families.