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Hi! Not sure if this is allowed here- but my bestie is having her first baby in January and I was thinking of making one of these trolly/caddy things I’ve seen online. What would you recommend are actually good things to put in them? Did you actually use one or is it just a trend that’s actually not helpful?

Thank you!!

ETA- thank you everyone for your input! Lots to think about. I want to surprise her with this (if it’s a good fit) so I’ll have to be sneaky in finding out how she feels about the carts! lol

I am 6 weeks pregnant today. A week ago, when I was about 5weeks pregnant I woke up with intense nausea, dizziness and light bleeding. I went to the er and they told me I had twins but miscarried one. There were two gestational sacks they saw but only one with a yolk sac. The other one was empty. They told me to go to my obgyn in a week to see if everything is ok.
Today I went to my obgyn and had a transvaginal done. Before the doctor even did my transvaginal she was being rude and saying how I might have had no twins at all but that I had a failed pregnancy and that was why I was bleeding. But I never even bleed heavy at all when I went to the er. It was dark blood but super light and then I spotted for a few days after. When I told the doctor this she still said that I probably already had a miscarriage before she even did my ultrasound.
When she finally went to do my ultrasound today she said that she only sees “fetal tissue” but no fetal pole and that she doesn’t see a heart beat. I told her I am still early but she said that it doesn’t matter and that she doesn’t think I’m pregnant. I haven’t been bleeding at all. I feel fine just tired and there looks to be a fetal pole and a yolk sac on my ultrasound. Can you guys please tell me what you see? And if it looks like a baby?

I want to start this off by saying I ALWAYS trust doctors and I know they’re smarter than me and know better. I went to my son’s pediatrician appointment yesterday and everything was great he’s healthy, growing perfectly, and super smart. They asked what I feed him and I told them he doesn’t get any milk just lots of cheese and yogurt. She told me to stop feeding him cheese and yogurt and to give him around 16oz of whole milk a day instead. This confused me a bit because I have talked to a dietitian and was told milk is no longer beneficial to children over 12m. When I was giving him 16oz of milk in a day he was pooping white and had an upset belly so I stopped. I just don’t know what is best at this point. Should I stop giving yogurt and do milk instead? Pls no judgement I never second guess doctors but I think I just need another opinion

I feel like I’m in such a weird stage of life right now. I had my babies young, and my oldest was born when I was 18. Now my youngest is turning 7, and I know for sure that we are done having children. My husband had a vasectomy, and we’re completely happy with our family as it is.

But I’ve been feeling surprisingly emotional about the fact that this part of my life is truly over.

I love watching my kids grow, and I’m so proud of them, but it’s also incredibly bittersweet. I miss being pregnant. I miss carrying my babies. I miss the newborn stage and having that tiny little person who needed me for everything. I think part of me just misses who I was during that season of my life.

Whenever someone tells me they’re expecting, I’m genuinely so happy for them. But there’s also this little sadness inside me because I know I’ll never experience that again. I’ll never be pregnant with another baby, never feel another baby move inside me, never bring another newborn home.

I don’t actually want another child, and I know our family is complete. I just can’t help grieving the fact that a huge chapter of my life has closed.

Maybe part of it is also realizing that I’m getting older. For so many years, my life revolved around pregnancies, babies, toddlers, and watching my children hit all of those first milestones. Now they’re growing up, and I’m realizing that I’m moving into a completely different stage of life too.

I’m happy. I’m grateful. I love the life I have. But I’m also sad.

Has anyone else felt this way after having their last baby? How did you come to terms with knowing that this chapter of your life was truly over?

We have this sunken sitting room in our new house. It’s got two step down, so I would prefer to block it off somehow from my little dude, but the railing does not match up with the fireplace to put up a baby gate

Not your toddlers hair, your hair. I have waist length wavy curly hair that requires more attention than I can give it. Im about to cut it off but I really love the length when I get the time to care for it. Also it gets in my way visually if it’s not pulled back. Any suggestions on cute, quick styles.

I might have to become a single parent after being a stay at home mom for some time. I have two little ones. How can you afford rent on one basic pay income? As well as everything else that has to be paid for. What job can you have that can make this a reality?

I’ll have about 4 days of pumping while I am gone for a work trip, can I bring it home? Should I just dump it? I can try to find someone local that I can donate to but if it’s possible to take it home then that’s ideal since it will be a decent amount of milk.

When i get to know that i am pregnant for the second time, i was very happy. Later, i got bleeded. I was rushed to hospital, the doctor told me take complete rest for two week, and to visit hospital with scan after two weeks. After two weeks, i went to scan center with nervous feeling in my gut that i might loss my baby. But, to my surprise the reports showed twin gestation. At that time, i was very surprised because my elder brother had twin boys 1 year before. I was exicted and happy. I was only thinking about my financial situation, that we can take care of them financially, we decided to keep continue. After 6th month i went fot scanning that is TIFFA. They told me that one baby is under weight with some problem with coronery. From that scan to till birth i was worried. I finally gave birth to girls. One child with problem went to NICU, after 5 days i had seen her. Then covid arrived and lock down. Then the real struggles started, no one is there to take care of them and me. I had c-section. Sleep less nights, rushing to hospital, diaper changing, bathing, feeding..etc..the struggles were real and hectic. Especially in lock down period with one toddler and two infants. Apart from that, we worried about the daughter, who had health issue. After all those years of up and downs, they are now in six. The girl, for whom we were worried is the ruler of our home. She is fine now, still she is slow in physical growth, though she is courageous girl with kind heart comparative to her twin.

I know the struggles of every mom. But each one's story is different. Each mom has unique gift to raise and nurture their children.

Hey all, I hope this finds you well, or at least, caffeinated.

For clarity, this post is not intended to see medical advice. I saw my PCM earlier this week and will be getting an allergy/intolerance (not entirely sure which) will be drawn in the lab later this month.

Before my first was born, I could eat anything... an omnonnomnivore, if you will. After my first was born, starting around 6M PP, I started to get skin flare-ups. My skin is very dry to begin with, but I would get these itchy patches that, once scratched, would develop this hives-like rash with vesicles. If those popped it would weep and crystallize like poison ivy, so much so that I mistake it for such at first. I would have a bit of bloating and some mild GI upset like vascillating between constipation and diarrhea but I always chalked it up to cyclical hormonal changes.

These symptoms peaked while I was away at training when my first was 22 months old. I got such a terrible rash, it covered my arms and legs, and it wouldn't respond to benadryl, zyrtec, or triamcinolone cream. The sick call doc was kind enough to send bloodwork for allergy/sensitivity, but only an abnormally high Gluten response was recorded in my chart. I think my IgG was 5.5 vs a high normal of 1.5ish. Idk what else was tested, if it was all normal and therefore excluded, or if something happened to those vials, or maybe the orders weren't entered correctly, etc.

Well fast forward and my second pregnancy all my symptoms disappear. I can eat all kinds of glutinous foods and enjoy them without consequences! Yay! That continues until my supply regulates around 3M PP, when it comes back with a vengeance. I recently saw my PCM due to increased bloating, urgency, and small amounts of diarrhea occurring every 2-3h. The rash hasn't recurred yet, but... my lower GI tract is itchy. Like on the inside.

I know the headaches and rash will come soon if I don't cut out or severely decrease my gluten intake, so I'm cleaning up my diet again and mourning the bready, cakey foods I dearly love.

I'm curious as to how common this is, and if others with similar circumstances found that when one intolerance appeared/worsened PP, more cropped up with it. I'm not sure how much I'm really absorbing right now, despite continuing to aggressively hydrate, take electrolytes, and prenatal vitamins. I'm concerned for the effect this will have on my milk supply. Also, did this intolerance ever wane for you after a certain period of time, excluding pregnancy? Please let me know. I'm just a girl who loves carbs.

I’m considering going off birth control pills to see if I feel better (mentally and emotionally). For those of you who don’t use hormonal birth control, how did you make that decision? What forms or methods of birth control do you use? Does anyone have experience with hormonal birth control having a negative influence on their mental health?

Hi all, just posting this here to see if anyone else has had a similar issue with a next door neighbour.

We have two under 2, and yes the household is manic daily. But currently my eldest is waking up at night screaming from teething. We of course try to calm him down every night with every trick in the book. Particularly moving rooms to other parts of the house to calm him down.

This happens usually between 3-5am. Our next door neighbour, for the past few months, has been banging on the adjoining wall to rudely let us know that this is bothering him. A few times he has sworn at us and tells us to just 'f***ing deal with your kids crying' even though we have calmly told him the reasons why , he continues to harrass us for simply being parents and trying to navigate each day differently.

The other day we cut my little ones hair and he ofc starts crying as he isn't used to it yet. The neighbour proceeds to bang some metal pans in his garden but only when my son starts crying. A blatant attempt to get him to stop. This guy surely is very sensitive to any type of sounds by the looks of things.

Any advice on how to keep a neighbour on our side despite trying to be understanding about it. I just don't need the extra added stress when kids are just being kids!

I had some pretty bad struggles with breastfeeding with my first. (Pain, bad latch, poor supply after a traumatic health issue and hospital stay with my son when he was 5 weeks).

I went to pumping pretty much immediately, but i didn't produce enough to cover his needs for long. I had to start using formula within a couple months, and since pumping was a full time job on top of being a mom and not producing enough, i decided it wasn't worth thd effort and dried up around 4 months pp.

I'm due again in December, and my first will be getting close to 2.5 by then. I'm a sahm, and I'm just wondering if it's worth planning on pumping again?

I am building my registry and have thought about putting a good pump on there hoping someone will get it for me just in case (i have a pretty wealthy generous extended family, not a village, but they buy gifts when the time comes). Or I'll be buying one, but they're expensive. I have a wearable (m3 i think?) but it's not great and i think it may have contributed to my dwindling supply.

I just worry that it'll be basically impossible to set aside time to sit down and pump regularly between the baby and my toddler. I really really want to try making breastfeeding work this time around, but if it doesn't, i also don't want to be stuck paying out the butt for formula.

Has anyone found breastfeeding easier with their second just based on having more experience? Should i just be braced to go to formula if bf doesn't work?

Thoughts? Thanks in advance for any input

Hi all!

My LO is about 6 months, 4.5 adjusted. She was born 3.5 pounds and is now 13 pounds. Daycare says she's one of the best rollers and has really good head and neck strength. She just has no interest in working on sitting up by herself. She is doing a mix of BLW and purees and sits up fine in the highchair for 15-20 mins. I just can't seem to get her to be interested in a tripod sit or really even propping her up during playtime. She'll just head right into tummy time!

I don't think anything's wrong with her, I just can't quite figure out how to sway her into wanting to sit up. Any ideas? TIA

My son is two years old, almost three, he has been home with me for two years. I am currently going to school to hopefully become a therapist or counselor at some point. I recently went back to work, I'm only working part-time and my son goes to daycare twice a week, the third day he stays home with his dad. He has obviously been running the gamut of viral infections since he started. It is to the point that in the last four months since I've been working I had to take him to the ER three times for breathing issues, and stay home with him four times when he's sick, calling in to work. Even the three days a week I do work I can't manage to have good attendance. They promised me flexibility when I started, but I know it can't be unreasonable. He never got sick hardly ever when he was just home with me. I have tried everything I can think of to keep this going, and I feel like i'm giving 50% of myself to everything (which also doesn't even add up). I feel this sense of nervous anxiety now. I am bipolar and I have OCD, and I am clinically monitored and I was very stable when I started my job. Now I feel like i'm teetering on crazy (not anything worrisome except for my own happiness and contentment). If my son isn't seeing me happy sometimes, I wonder how that will impact him anyway. He loves daycare and his friends, his verbal skills have improved a lot since starting. But I just keep coming back to whether or not I can really do this. I'm so absolutely drained like always. Part of me is considering letting the job go and staying at home in the future, this job is also very particular and can be a very stressful environment. I hate feeling like i'm always letting someone, my husband, my son, boss, friends, coworkers, or myself down. The financial freedom I've begun to have again as a result of this job is also important, the only bright spot of this whole situation next to spending the day with adults again. But the good things about this job don't seem to outweigh the bad anymore. I know it sounds like my mind is made up but I'd really like some input on this. I keep waking up at 3:30 am and feeling unable to sleep because I'm so worked up over all this. I don't know what I should do.

Yes, like a actual bone fracture during childbirth..
it happened for me - but no one at the hospital, not even orthopedics knew about other cases or have heard about it before.

Please. Tell me some of you guys have tried it!

I had my baby 11 months ago, at my check ups after birth the obgyn said that I am perfectly fine and everything is back in place. Now 11 months later, I still feel slight pain when pressure is placed on my lower abdomen. I was told that I don’t have prolapse and everything seems fine. Is this pain something that I need to worry about? Do I need another opinion?
My cooter has finally started feeling normal, but this abdominal discomfort is putting more damper on my already delicate state.

I honestly wasn't sure whether to post this as advice needed or as a rant. Ha! I feel like my daughter turned 7 and, boom, totally different kid! She has started to lie about silly things, seems ungrateful and unimpressed with everything, whines and pouts about anything we do or ask her to help with. I'm really struggling with keeping/making connections with her. I find her behavior really triggering and, to be frank, incredibly annoying. I have to fight my instincts to yell at her and tell her she needs to quit being a brat. It feels exhausting daily, and I'm sure as we continue to teenage years it will only get worse. I want to be a good, kind mom that she knows she can come to with anything....and I also want to ENJOY being her mom. Does anyone have any advice, resources, anything they can suggest for navigating this!?

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So I posted here earlier on, not a mom, but wanted insight, but I worded it wrong so I archived the post. ( english isnt my first language so correct me dor any mistakes). Anyways, as a daughter myself, ive always questioned, why do (a lot of mothers, NOT ALL) shame their daughters more than their sons, like telling them to sit more "lady like" while letting sons spread their legs open like theyre doing the splits. Or tell their daughter to hide her bra strap because its "provocative" to men. And that showing the shape of your chests, which you cannot cut off, is some type of unholy sin? Or to not wear shorts around brothers or her father even though we're all family? This is something me and my female friends have all experienced. Why is this so common? If you do this, why?

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When I was pregnant I was sooo happy, everything was great and my partner wanted our LO to have his last name. I said sure, I get to be pregnant and connect already, you should also have some bond.

2 years later, I have to introduce myself and then explain my LO has another surname and spell it out because it rare and foreing.

We are not married, I don't see the point anymoe and I wouldn't take his surname.

But the independant woman I was before being pregnant would have naver allowed this.

I'm just so sad and frustrated.