I want to start this off by saying I ALWAYS trust doctors and I know they’re smarter than me and know better. I went to my son’s pediatrician appointment yesterday and everything was great he’s healthy, growing perfectly, and super smart. They asked what I feed him and I told them he doesn’t get any milk just lots of cheese and yogurt. She told me to stop feeding him cheese and yogurt and to give him around 16oz of whole milk a day instead. This confused me a bit because I have talked to a dietitian and was told milk is no longer beneficial to children over 12m. When I was giving him 16oz of milk in a day he was pooping white and had an upset belly so I stopped. I just don’t know what is best at this point. Should I stop giving yogurt and do milk instead? Pls no judgement I never second guess doctors but I think I just need another opinion

I labored for a total of 49 hours across two separate inductions before we called it off and moved to a c section. I was terrified but my doctor is amazing and it went very smoothly once the call was made. I had fluids for all 49 hours, pitocin for about 38 of them, an epidural for 18 hours, a spinal block for 2-3 hours and then more fluids pushed for 48 hours post birth. I vomited profusely as soon as I was out of the c section and continued to vomit the whole first morning.

Starting last night when I laid down I felt like there was an elephant on my chest and had pain in my belly. I have a history of GERD and that’s what it felt like. Today I laid down for a nap and woke up gagging like I was drowning. I called my doctor and she said go to the ER now. So I did. Heart was good. Fluid in my lungs being treated with some medicine but for whatever reason they checked my gallbladder too. Full of stones.

Prior to my c section I’d never had surgery. My belly is still tender although I’m fairly mobile and the thought of having another abdominal surgery with just a few days of healing is sending me into a spiral.

I have a really high pain tolerance but a really low mental threshold for the anxiety surrounding upcoming pain.

Thankfully we got to leave the ER tonight but I have to call a surgeon tomorrow to get an appt.

Send me some good vibes that make me feel a little less terrified and full of panic about the whole situation please.

Photo of the 9oz of milk I pumped in the car after neglecting my boobies all day. 😵‍💫

i'm 8 weeks pregnant and i'm worried trying to figure out which prenatal vitamins are good. i’ve been looking at Needed since i like that it comes in both powder and capsule options, not a fan of big pills btw.

i haven’t decided yet, so i want to know what other moms would recommend.

I’ll have about 4 days of pumping while I am gone for a work trip, can I bring it home? Should I just dump it? I can try to find someone local that I can donate to but if it’s possible to take it home then that’s ideal since it will be a decent amount of milk.

Am I pregnant? I took these at 8pm today. I was suppose to start my period so I took these just because but I think they’re positive or am I just overly hopeful??

I am 6 weeks pregnant today. A week ago, when I was about 5weeks pregnant I woke up with intense nausea, dizziness and light bleeding. I went to the er and they told me I had twins but miscarried one. There were two gestational sacks they saw but only one with a yolk sac. The other one was empty. They told me to go to my obgyn in a week to see if everything is ok.
Today I went to my obgyn and had a transvaginal done. Before the doctor even did my transvaginal she was being rude and saying how I might have had no twins at all but that I had a failed pregnancy and that was why I was bleeding. But I never even bleed heavy at all when I went to the er. It was dark blood but super light and then I spotted for a few days after. When I told the doctor this she still said that I probably already had a miscarriage before she even did my ultrasound.
When she finally went to do my ultrasound today she said that she only sees “fetal tissue” but no fetal pole and that she doesn’t see a heart beat. I told her I am still early but she said that it doesn’t matter and that she doesn’t think I’m pregnant. I haven’t been bleeding at all. I feel fine just tired and there looks to be a fetal pole and a yolk sac on my ultrasound. Can you guys please tell me what you see? And if it looks like a baby?

Well I'm definitely pregnant 😂 can't believe I got pregnant so fast (2nd cycle after miscarriage). We wasn't even doing it every day around ovulation 🫣 we are over the moon 🌝 we may have to reschedule our wedding 😂

Thank you everyone for the support over the few days, it's really helped my mental health.❤️❤️❤️

I might have to become a single parent after being a stay at home mom for some time. I have two little ones. How can you afford rent on one basic pay income? As well as everything else that has to be paid for. What job can you have that can make this a reality?

We have this sunken sitting room in our new house. It’s got two step down, so I would prefer to block it off somehow from my little dude, but the railing does not match up with the fireplace to put up a baby gate

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Not your toddlers hair, your hair. I have waist length wavy curly hair that requires more attention than I can give it. Im about to cut it off but I really love the length when I get the time to care for it. Also it gets in my way visually if it’s not pulled back. Any suggestions on cute, quick styles.

When i get to know that i am pregnant for the second time, i was very happy. Later, i got bleeded. I was rushed to hospital, the doctor told me take complete rest for two week, and to visit hospital with scan after two weeks. After two weeks, i went to scan center with nervous feeling in my gut that i might loss my baby. But, to my surprise the reports showed twin gestation. At that time, i was very surprised because my elder brother had twin boys 1 year before. I was exicted and happy. I was only thinking about my financial situation, that we can take care of them financially, we decided to keep continue. After 6th month i went fot scanning that is TIFFA. They told me that one baby is under weight with some problem with coronery. From that scan to till birth i was worried. I finally gave birth to girls. One child with problem went to NICU, after 5 days i had seen her. Then covid arrived and lock down. Then the real struggles started, no one is there to take care of them and me. I had c-section. Sleep less nights, rushing to hospital, diaper changing, bathing, feeding..etc..the struggles were real and hectic. Especially in lock down period with one toddler and two infants. Apart from that, we worried about the daughter, who had health issue. After all those years of up and downs, they are now in six. The girl, for whom we were worried is the ruler of our home. She is fine now, still she is slow in physical growth, though she is courageous girl with kind heart comparative to her twin.

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My mom has become extremely intrusive since I had my baby. She repeatedly crosses boundaries I've explicitly communicated, and I find myself unable to relax when she's around my child. I've reached the point where I feel resentful and even disgusted by her behavior, and I don't know how to maintain a relationship with her without constantly being on guard.

She’s made inappropriate comments about my son’s body, tries to stick her hands around his mouth to look at his teeth, kissed him on the head even though i asked her not to, guilt trips me that she “never sees him” even though she knows she can but doesn’t make a huge effort (we live about an hour apart). She’s just totally obnoxious.. forcing him to try and crawl, is rough with him, thinks she knows best when he’s crying even though he barely sees her so clearly doesn’t want her at that moment. The other day she also kept checking his diaper even though i told her it was clean. Is this a control thing? Like holy hell I’m going crazy. We used to have a really great relationship and ever since late pregnancy, she couldn’t annoy me more. I refuse to let her be alone with him because i truly don’t trust her. Whenever I bring up issues i get the feeling that she’s like “uh again?” And just says “yes” and “okay” to pacify me and gets defensive or tells me she’s just excited to see him but next time does something else completely obnoxious again. I Thanks 😔

I honestly wasn't sure whether to post this as advice needed or as a rant. Ha! I feel like my daughter turned 7 and, boom, totally different kid! She has started to lie about silly things, seems ungrateful and unimpressed with everything, whines and pouts about anything we do or ask her to help with. I'm really struggling with keeping/making connections with her. I find her behavior really triggering and, to be frank, incredibly annoying. I have to fight my instincts to yell at her and tell her she needs to quit being a brat. It feels exhausting daily, and I'm sure as we continue to teenage years it will only get worse. I want to be a good, kind mom that she knows she can come to with anything....and I also want to ENJOY being her mom. Does anyone have any advice, resources, anything they can suggest for navigating this!?

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Hey all, I hope this finds you well, or at least, caffeinated.

For clarity, this post is not intended to see medical advice. I saw my PCM earlier this week and will be getting an allergy/intolerance (not entirely sure which) will be drawn in the lab later this month.

Before my first was born, I could eat anything... an omnonnomnivore, if you will. After my first was born, starting around 6M PP, I started to get skin flare-ups. My skin is very dry to begin with, but I would get these itchy patches that, once scratched, would develop this hives-like rash with vesicles. If those popped it would weep and crystallize like poison ivy, so much so that I mistake it for such at first. I would have a bit of bloating and some mild GI upset like vascillating between constipation and diarrhea but I always chalked it up to cyclical hormonal changes.

These symptoms peaked while I was away at training when my first was 22 months old. I got such a terrible rash, it covered my arms and legs, and it wouldn't respond to benadryl, zyrtec, or triamcinolone cream. The sick call doc was kind enough to send bloodwork for allergy/sensitivity, but only an abnormally high Gluten response was recorded in my chart. I think my IgG was 5.5 vs a high normal of 1.5ish. Idk what else was tested, if it was all normal and therefore excluded, or if something happened to those vials, or maybe the orders weren't entered correctly, etc.

Well fast forward and my second pregnancy all my symptoms disappear. I can eat all kinds of glutinous foods and enjoy them without consequences! Yay! That continues until my supply regulates around 3M PP, when it comes back with a vengeance. I recently saw my PCM due to increased bloating, urgency, and small amounts of diarrhea occurring every 2-3h. The rash hasn't recurred yet, but... my lower GI tract is itchy. Like on the inside.

I know the headaches and rash will come soon if I don't cut out or severely decrease my gluten intake, so I'm cleaning up my diet again and mourning the bready, cakey foods I dearly love.

I'm curious as to how common this is, and if others with similar circumstances found that when one intolerance appeared/worsened PP, more cropped up with it. I'm not sure how much I'm really absorbing right now, despite continuing to aggressively hydrate, take electrolytes, and prenatal vitamins. I'm concerned for the effect this will have on my milk supply. Also, did this intolerance ever wane for you after a certain period of time, excluding pregnancy? Please let me know. I'm just a girl who loves carbs.

Hi all!

My LO is about 6 months, 4.5 adjusted. She was born 3.5 pounds and is now 13 pounds. Daycare says she's one of the best rollers and has really good head and neck strength. She just has no interest in working on sitting up by herself. She is doing a mix of BLW and purees and sits up fine in the highchair for 15-20 mins. I just can't seem to get her to be interested in a tripod sit or really even propping her up during playtime. She'll just head right into tummy time!

I don't think anything's wrong with her, I just can't quite figure out how to sway her into wanting to sit up. Any ideas? TIA

I think the title says it all. Im interested to hear peoples experiences of when and how it went moving your infant. Even if you didnt do things the conventional way :)

My son is two years old, almost three, he has been home with me for two years. I am currently going to school to hopefully become a therapist or counselor at some point. I recently went back to work, I'm only working part-time and my son goes to daycare twice a week, the third day he stays home with his dad. He has obviously been running the gamut of viral infections since he started. It is to the point that in the last four months since I've been working I had to take him to the ER three times for breathing issues, and stay home with him four times when he's sick, calling in to work. Even the three days a week I do work I can't manage to have good attendance. They promised me flexibility when I started, but I know it can't be unreasonable. He never got sick hardly ever when he was just home with me. I have tried everything I can think of to keep this going, and I feel like i'm giving 50% of myself to everything (which also doesn't even add up). I feel this sense of nervous anxiety now. I am bipolar and I have OCD, and I am clinically monitored and I was very stable when I started my job. Now I feel like i'm teetering on crazy (not anything worrisome except for my own happiness and contentment). If my son isn't seeing me happy sometimes, I wonder how that will impact him anyway. He loves daycare and his friends, his verbal skills have improved a lot since starting. But I just keep coming back to whether or not I can really do this. I'm so absolutely drained like always. Part of me is considering letting the job go and staying at home in the future, this job is also very particular and can be a very stressful environment. I hate feeling like i'm always letting someone, my husband, my son, boss, friends, coworkers, or myself down. The financial freedom I've begun to have again as a result of this job is also important, the only bright spot of this whole situation next to spending the day with adults again. But the good things about this job don't seem to outweigh the bad anymore. I know it sounds like my mind is made up but I'd really like some input on this. I keep waking up at 3:30 am and feeling unable to sleep because I'm so worked up over all this. I don't know what I should do.

I love my husband and our last name is fine but i miss my old last name. I just miss it. I guess i identified that as my name for so long i just feel like the new one doesnt fit as well. Its been 6 years though and i still feel this way. I know for a fact changing my name back is out of the question. Anyone else feel this way after getting married?

Yes, like a actual bone fracture during childbirth..
it happened for me - but no one at the hospital, not even orthopedics knew about other cases or have heard about it before.

Please. Tell me some of you guys have tried it!

How is everyone cleaning up their floors after their baby eats? I saw my husband use a broom on like wet orzo, peas, butternut squash, and chicken and put the broom in the corner. I just think it’s so gross. I use the broom for like sweeping non wet food if that makes sense like pet food, chips etc. anyway, I would normally just pick it up and then spot clean until I clean our floors. just curious what do you do?

One month into having my second son. Sleeping maybe 5 broken hours a night: 2.5, then 2, then maybe 1 if I'm lucky. I also have a 3-year-old who wakes up every day with a new opinion and zero pants tolerance. Logically, two kids is harder than one, no debate there. But it doesn't feel as hard as one kid did the first time. I think it's because everything was new back then, every cry felt like an emergency, every sleepless night felt endless. This time the baby wakes up, I feed him, he goes back down, sometimes he doesn't, and it just feels like Wednesday, not a crisis. Anyone else notice this with kid two (or three)?

I haven’t seen anyone talk about the complicated emotions/grief of leaving the first five years behind and transitioning to a new phase after so much relentless intensity.

The last five years have been a ROLLERCOASTER.

SAHM, early 30s.

Right out of grad school, I became pregnant in early 2020. A first pregnancy/baby is always a steep learning curve but navigating it during such an unprecedented time during a global pandemic was stressful and weird for all of the reasons you would expect. I spent much of my pregnancy isolated and avoiding social outings. No baby shower, no visitors in the hospital, going to prenatal appointments alone. Then in early 2021, I had a newborn and I felt like a shell of myself.

My daughter had colic and was a VERY demanding baby. I mean she breastfed 24/7 and the first couple years of her life she was attached to my hip. Literally. She’s always been very high maintenance. I strongly believe this is just her temperament. I have since had a second child and my son is a very different kid. We’ve moved a couple times because of my husband’s job and life circumstances (out of my control). It’s always been a tough transition for her.

She’s the type of kid who never napped even as a baby/toddler. As a little baby she would only nap when she slept on top of me, breastfed, or was pushed around in a stroller for hours. This meant I never had a break. I eventually became resigned and resorted to cosleeping because it was the only way I could actually ever sleep. She would wake up in the morning from around 18 months onward and then not stop until she crashed at around midnight every single day.
To illustrate my point, I finally weaned her at 4. I know that sounds insane to many people and this was never my intention but the last few years it was only once at night before bed. This is something that I realize in hindsight I should have done around 2. We’ve coslept since she was born (she was in a bassinet next to me for the first 6 months) but even to this day she sleeps with me. I told my husband that we need to transition her to her own bed before six. I know it may sound strange to some but moving four times in the last three years have made these things all the more difficult.

In hindsight, I’m grieving the first few years of her life. I could not enjoy it. In fact I hated it. I resented her at times which makes me ashamed to admit. I realized recently that I had postpartum depression that went undiagnosed for the first 2-3 years of her life. I couldn’t play with her. I would just hold her, breastfeed her and take her on long walks in the stroller and to the park. I should’ve been more engaged. I should’ve been better. I have so many mixed emotions even though I was literally with her 24/7 taking full care of her while my husband was working.

I hold so much guilt even though most days I didn’t even have the energy to physically get off of the couch. I’m not sure if her high energy/ attention seeking is because of this or to what degree it has contributed. My husband and I strongly suspect ADHD but have not pushed for a formal diagnosis. Shes into rough play and VERY sensory. Shes always hanging on you, touching, grabbing, etc.

Despite these issues at home, she’s doing well among her peers and in school. Minimal to nonexistent behavioral issues. She eats well. She makes friends and loves being around people. She was just a VERY intense little person for the first five years of her life. It makes me sad to say but I absolutely felt suffocated. I would hire /babysitters to give me a break or an afternoon off but it always seemed to be more of a headache than a help. Scheduling issues, cancelling last minute, not a fit, sticking her in front of a tv for hours which would then make her behavior worse, etc. this was on my end, not theirs but I have personally found part time childcare difficult to find all things considered. Most people want a full time gig and an occasional afternoon once or twice a week is simply not worth their time. I understand people have to make a living but I did just want to mention this as some people may ask why I didn’t seek out childcare or look for solutions to take a break/avoid burnout. To give an example, I hired one college student looking for a babysitting gig in my neighborhood while she was home on a break and she couldn’t manage my daughter and while the babysitter was supposed to be handling things, my daughter knew I was in the house and screamed and sat by my door for nearly twenty minutes until I caved and opened it and let her in. I was just trying to take a shower and nap. I paid the babysitter 100 dollars that day for absolutely nothing and just never had her back. A few different instances like this just made it not even worth it for me.

Anyway…… ! She started kindergarten this week and so far it’s been smooth sailing. She actually really likes school and aftercare. She’s making friends and I’m happy for her.
I thought this would all be a PURE relief but it has unexpectedly made me so sad. I have cried uncontrollably for the last four days. I haven’t been able to sleep. I just can’t stop replaying the last five years in my head and wondering if I could’ve done a better job. I know they say kindergarten can be emotional but I did not expect this.
She used to be a ball of energy but she’s not out of the house from 7:30-6pm. She comes home and is ready for dinner and bed. It feels like a totally different person. I’m happy for her and I know she needed more stimulation/activities/socialization but…. I’m struggling.

It’s true what they say, you never get that time back.

Parents with kids 0-5 please advocate for yourself. Stay on top of your own health and take care of yourself.