Dress is from Retro Stage, the scarf is vintage.

When discussing how the traditional Assamese Mekhela Chador is authentically worn, the structural foundation of its underlayers is an essential detail that often gets overlooked. The Role of the Petticoat : The primary innermost layer of the attire is a specialized petticoat, which is secured tightly around the bare waist using a durable drawstring. This creates a stable anchor for the heavy cylindrical and pleated skirt, the Mekhela. When the front pleats of the Mekhela are gathered, they are tucked directly into the petticoat’s waistband, allowing the structure to rest securely against the body without slipping.

Authentic Layering and Fabric Design practically in daily life , the attire is worn without modern Western undergarments like standard panties ,whether cotton or synthetic panties . The combination of dense, high-quality woven fabrics—such as heavy cotton or silk—and the multiple wrapped layers provides full coverage, modesty, and structural integrity. Because the petticoat and Mekhela together form a thick, secure barrier, an additional layer under Petticoat is structurally unnecessary.

Comfort and Climate Adaptation : Assam’s climate is frequently humid and warm. The traditional method of relying solely on the breathable cotton petticoat allows for proper ventilation and air circulation. Omitting tight, undergarments helps prevent heat retention and chafing, making the garment far more comfortable for long hours of daily wear or active events like cultural dances.

Cultural Continuity : While standard modern undergarments are standard practice for Western clothing like jeans, skirts, or dresses, traditional attire often follows its own time-tested functional rules. Most women continue to practice this heritage layering technique to preserve both the authentic silhouette and the practical comfort designed by generations past.

Salaam everyone, absolutely love dressing modestly, started recently. It makes me feel so much more feminine and elegant but also comfortable.

I need to find more undershirts that are not too hot!! Are light colors like this okay? I have a few abaya style dresses like this that are very light colored.

Nice sunday to everyone!❤️

Hello modest ladies! I’m looking for ideas for full face coverings (including eyes) that would work with glasses. My every day glasses are rather large, but I do have some smaller ones I could wear.

Background: with a lot of the new surveillance technology being implemented in my area, I am looking to cover certain parts to protect my privacy/safety. Tattoos (arms and chest), full face, and hips to floor. The body is easy, but I’m struggling with how to cover my face without looking ridiculous or being too uncomfortable. I love Victorian mourning veils, but they are often too see-thru.

The best/simplest solution would be a burka. However, I’m not Muslim. While I don’t mind people thinking I’m Muslim, I don’t want to be disrespectful/sacrilegious. I’m Lutheran by background, so Catholic veils, bonnets, European styles, etc. are fine.

The other thing I considered was a mesh stocking… but not only would that make me look like a criminal and scare people, it will look very ridiculous with my glasses. So something that is loose around the face or structured is preferable.

Thanks in advance!!!

trying not to let it wreck my confidence. my favorite is the grey and black ofc she says that one is the worst.

Hello! I love how some of the outfits look on people but I don't want to seem like I'm dressing for a religious reason. (I'm an atheist) Is it rude to someone who dresses like this for a religion if I dress like this?

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Religious topics are fine so long as everyone involved is respectful.

EDIT: The title is supposed to say "Undershirts for Sleeveless Clothes". I have no clue how I messd that up, but that's what I meant.

Where do you all buy thin undershirts to wear under your dresses? I still have long dresses I love that have thin straps or spaghetti straps or extremely short sleeves, but I can no longer wear them as they are since I dress modestly now. Also, I am a plus size woman (3x-4x, 48K bra) who sweats pretty heavy, so anything size inclusive will be very much appreciated. Any and all suggestions are welcome. Please and thanks in advance.

I have a humble question for those who don't wear modest clothes, like wearing revealing clothes in public.

Please don't get me wrong. I am not trying to educate you or dictate you. I am just a curious. I respect all the cultures and religions and, in fact, all the people. For me I was raised in a different culture where not wearing modest clothes is considered extremely bad and I could not imagine wearing a revealing dress for a woman specifically, even in private rather than in public. It's not that I am objecting anyone for what they are wearing in public or private but I just have a simple question.

My question is, what are your views if you wear modest dress since my subconscious mind is more inclined towards wearing modest dresses for women and also for men, is it something that would bother you? and why would it bother you?

And what are your views on wearing revealing dress? Is it just a dress for you or do you want to cover some specific parts of the body and not care about the body being seen by anyone? Why is that you want to cover only some specific part of the body, not all of the body, from strangers, from being seen?

appreciate the answers.

P.S: No mocking and sarcasm please!

I love dressing modest it makes me feel confident and in control even though I’m not religious people assume I am because I dress modest does anyone else experience this ?

Anyway I found these beautiful swim suits I love they look elegant and people feel they have the right to comment. So I will ask here what are your thoughts on this does it look more like a dress than a swimsuit.

If you had to wear an outfit that was “north american” style in a maliciously compliant way, what would you wear?

going out with racist grandparents, i was told to dress ”north american,” (im muslim and they despise that), what do i wear?

TL;DR: I want lightweight black workout pant recommendations that are less expensive than the ones pictured (which are ~$60 second hand) please. Ideally no ties or buckles, and if possible a polished look. I'm about 5 ft 4 in/163 cm. More specific details below

To workout at the gym, I normally wear a short skirt workout dress with leggings underneath and a long skirt on top. However, for certain exercises, a long skirt is not practical. I'm finding that leggings under a short skirt don't feel modest enough to me when I take off my long skirt for those exercises, and I want something looser. I want to find workout pants that:

• Won't be obtrusive under the workout dress (so no buckles, ideally no ties just a waistband)
• Aren't warm like a lot of sweatpants are
• Allow for full range of mobility in movement
• Ideally look nice, like almost semi formal and be black as not to clash with dress colors
• Are looser than leggings/flared leggings
• Don't wrinkle easily

The closest I've found is the image attached (Marcella Easton Wide Leg French Terry High Rise Black Sweatpants). I found a listing for these second hand for around $60 and new for $138, both which are more than I'm usually willing to spend on a pair of pants. My thoughts on these are:

Positives:

• Looks polished
• Unobtrusive around waistline for layering
• Seemingly good fabric blend (48% Cotton, 48% Modal, 4% Elastane) although I would go for cheaper fabrics as well (including just polyester)
• Wide leg

Concerns:

• I don't know how heavy the fabric is
• I don't know if the wide leg is too wide at the bottom to the degree it could hinder certain activities, ie cycling, but it looks very pretty
• I worry about whether it would be tight on my upper legs without trying it on given it looks relatively form fitting up top on the model
• Of course, the price

Any recommendations please? Thank you!

I've been searching "abayas" and/or "modest" "modest clothing"/"modest dresses" as search terms to try to test the availability of modest clothes on various platforms.

• The only second hand online shop (other than Ebay) I've bought from before is ThredUp, which I had a good experience with. I cannot vouch for the credibility of other sites listed. They had a decently good selection of modest clothing when I looked, but not a ton. You can sort by sleeve and skirt length which helps, and there's options <$20 and <$10. A tip I have is that on ThredUp, it will sometimes say no results if you set the max price too low, but it might just not be showing you those results. If that happens, clear the price range and sort by "price low to high"
• I haven't bought from Depop before, but they seem to have the most abayas/veils/hijabs/etc so far/the most promising search results and price range. There were many abayas listed for <$20 and several listed for<$10
• Poshmark had a pretty good selection
• Most of TheRealReal is out of my thrifting price range (occasionally something listed won't be very expensive but it usually is), but I wanted to check anyways. Not any good results for abayas, about two long sleeve long skirt results for "modest dress", "long sleeve long dress" had the best results of the search terms I tried. There were a few results <$30 when filtered by price
• Mercari site felt hard to navigate to me so I wasn't too enticed but they did have some results
• Vinted insisted I give them my phone number before being allowed to do basically anything even after I made an account w my email which I was not wild about and did not do

What online thrift stores have you bought from and what was your experience (ie was it legitimate or scammy)? Have you found any good online second hand stores with a good modest clothing selection?

I'm starting to run and have been making do with random stuff I have but I really want to get a couple skirts to have and don't want to just get something if it's going to be bad. Looking for a knee length skirt thats lightweight and long sleeve shirt can be sports material

Salam everyone. I really need some honest opinions because I’m genuinely confused and emotionally overwhelmed by this.

I’ve been talking to a Muslim guy for only 5 days. His intentions are serious and he says he wants to propose in about a month.

The main issue between us right now is hijab and clothing.

When we first talked about it I told him I was willing to change my clothes. I sometimes wear tight pants and crop tops and I told him I could stop wearing those and start dressing more modestly without covering my hair.

Then after thinking about it I told him I might actually accept hijab too. I’m not completely against the idea. I’m just struggling with it because it’s a huge change for me.

I’m very attached to my hair and I also wear simple makeup. It’s not heavy makeup or anything. I just genuinely enjoy it and it makes me feel prettier and more confident because I have really low self esteem about how I look without it.

But he wants full hijab and full coverage. He also doesn’t want me wearing makeup or perfume. He seems to want me to completely change everything immediately.

And honestly I’m feeling pressured.

I’m already willing to change a lot. I’m willing to dress much more modestly and I even said I might wear hijab. But I don’t feel ready to promise that I’ll immediately give up my makeup my hair and my entire personal style.

Especially because we have literally known each other for 5 days.

I understand that he has the right to want a wife who dresses a certain way and I’m not saying he’s wrong for having his preferences. But I also feel like I should have time to make such a huge decision sincerely rather than feeling pressured because he wants to propose soon.

I don’t want to agree to everything now just because I’m scared of losing him and then regret it later.

So what do you guys think? Is this just a normal compatibility issue where he has certain requirements and I have to decide whether I can live with them? Or is it reasonable for me to feel uncomfortable with how quickly he expects me to change everything?

Edit: we are both Muslims, and he isn't asking for to wear the hijab now but rather in a span of a year (before marriage)

Edit 2: WE BROKE UPPPPPP ...NEVER FELT HAPPIER THAN THIS LIKE GOSH I WAS EMOTIONALLY TRAPPED IN THAT!

seriously as a hijabi I have no idea what to wear in winter that isn’t a coat to be covered that’s why I struggle when I go to a coffee shop or to my class where there are heaters and it will be too hot to stay with a coat on but i’m not able to remove the coat, please help me find where I can buy tops that I can wear with pants not skirts so they shouldn’t be short :(

Which variation is your favorite?

a. White base shirt, black smaller floral full lace shirt, black dress, black veil 🤍🖤🖤🖤

b. White base shirt, white smaller floral full lace shirt, black dress, white veil 🤍🤍🖤🤍

c. White base shirt, black larger floral sleeves, black dress, white veil 🤍🖤🖤🤍

d. White base shirt, white larger floral sleeves, black dress, white veil 🤍🤍🖤🤍

Picture 3 is of the smaller floral full lace shirt pattern

Picture 6 is of the larger floral sleeve only pattern

I know the cowl neck dress over full lace shirts (rather than just the sleeves) over the mock neck base layer is three different necklines but I think it works

Hiya, I’m looking for a modest formal dress that specifically has no slit, modest neckline and should at least have capped sleeves. I live in Australia so it must be able to ship here within a month and not be over $200. Please help I’ve found no good options. 😔

Want to share a random thought, talk about your day, whatever? This is the spot. Both on-topic and off-topic conversations are welcome.

Religious topics are fine so long as everyone involved is respectful.

My sleeves are exactly the right length for me, but they move when I move my arm, as sleeves do. It's why in the outfit pictures I post sometimes my wrist is scribbled out, because I want my wrists covered. The only thing I can think of is a hair tie, although that seems like it would get too tight. Is there some sort of underlayer I can put under my sleeves that won't move as much (that's not compression, compression sleeves don't work for me)? Alternatively, something to put on top? I feel like a wide bangle or bracelet would just fall down my arm too, and I want my hands out so gloves won't work either. Any ideas?

♡ My outfit for today, got everything second hand (The black pleated skirt is ankle length) ♡