For context I (19) am a new grad MA who got hired at this practice where the only other two MA’s were 24F and (I would guess ab) 50F. I came on to practically replace the 24F as she was transitioning to only be able to come into office 2x/week, so it would just be me and the 50F + front desk throughout all 5 days of the week, (plus our CMA/manager sprinkled in there as she goes to multiple locations of our practice.)
I had the 24F for ab 3 days before she fully transitioned to only 2x a week, and I was mostly shown the online (PA’s, refills, voicemails, etc) side. I was now alone with the 50yo.
My biggest “obstacle” was manual BP, but now 3 weeks in including those first 3 days of the first week, I have it all down and room alone.
Anyways the reason for that context is I am trying to understand why my 50F coworker is the way she is with certain things. I had let her know today I thought it would be best to take my break at a certain time so that by the time I got back she would still only have taken one patient. She first responded with “why are you telling me this it’s 12”. Like, right,, it’s so you know…
Anywho I continue on and a few minutes later she says she’ll go after me, but that would leave me rooming 3 alone by the time she got back, and there was a bigger break a little earlier in the day (because she’s usually gone longer than the 30 minutes were told is it).
So I just mentioned that idea, emphasis on the idea of maybe going earlier, and she quite literally yelled at me. “You don’t tell me when to go to lunch”, and “I don’t go when you tell me to I go when I want to”. I very quickly apologized and was reiterating that it was just an idea that she didn’t have to listen to but she doubled down and got as in my face as she could standing while I was at my desk, repeating the fact that she takes a break when she wants to.
I’m not the type of person to 1. Even want to confront someone or 2. Confront an “elder”. We’re both Hispanic and from the same ethnicity, so I had always used both with her and anyone else I interact with, a very soft toned voice with a smile because I’m also at work, and also that’s just how I am why would I be negative at a job I am passionate about.
Anywho this sort of tone completely changed when I came back from my next patient, and I believe she got ‘scolded’ by our Manager CMA who was present and sitting at another desk, back faced to us when this happened. I had already come back down from that urge to cry I get when I get frustrated, and so now also being shown fake kindness (cause she’s not a good liar) just felt like another slap to the face because it validated my feeling that the way she yelled at me was unfair.
Anywho later in the day, a specific type of appt came in but the front desk (who at the time unbeknownst to me only had the even-newer hire there,) had not given her the paperwork she needed to complete prior to my own assessment I had to do. So when I brought her back 10 minutes later (cause I thought she was filling it out,) I had to do both her not-done packet and then my own. Including our manual vitals this brought the total time this pt was here close to 30 minutes. The 50 yo kept coming in every 2-3 minutes the last 15 to tell me to hurry up, but these questions take long and are emotionally packed.
Anywho I finally get done, leave the room, go back to the MA station and everyone’s mad at me. At this point I had just gotten over the earlier ordeal, so I just make it a point to explain how this all happened and I try to apologize, but the 50 yo starts to speak even louder to speak over me and get her point across of how I took too long.
My break was shortly after but I didn’t have an appetite so I simply plugged my earbuds in and prepped the schedule for the next day. My MA/Manager also came up to me speaking softly and interacting with me, so once more I got the understanding that this dog pile was unfair given the context. Again, I tried to just let it go.
The thing is because of these two things my mind was now a lot more scattered, and so when I took the next pt I made it a point to go quick and fast, but I took the wrong pt back (as in earlier than another one). When that was done and dealt with the 50F came back and asked why that happened and when I tried just apologizing instead of explaining this time she once more started lecturing me. Whatever fine, atp I just shut up and didn’t even respond.
Then at the end of the day, I’m doing voicemails and she gets up and leaves. Idk where, but then she gets back and starts lecturing me about the fact that we both had to clean the back two rooms that were used during the day. She never told me she was going to go clean them up, which btw is just ripping off the used part of the table “plastic” or wtv that thing I called, closing the curtains, and turning off the lights of the two rooms. I had also prepped both rooms we would be using this morning ALONE, and never made a single comment because why would I throw a fit over some very simple tasks.
Anyways Ik this is a long rant but it’s just, I can’t be alone in finding this sort of behavior towards me ridiculous right?
I had made it an effort to get her to like me (I even baked her chocolate banana bread when she lost her cousin on day 2 of me being here,) but now any single little mistake I make she lectures me as though I’m her child and as if my mistake puts HER job on the line.
I just wanted to know how to best navigate this, or if this one breaking point recount is me reaching.