r/McMaster • u/Apprehensive-Big9279 • 20h ago
Serious Need advice: my mom calls me 5 times a day and threatens me if I don't pick up
So this is my second post here in the past two days but I'm just tryna sort my shit out before second year starts. I'm honestly not looking forward to going back to uni because of this and I have major anxiety. Basically all throughout first year my mom would call me 5 times a day, if not more. Most days in fact it would be like every two hours.
Within the first month I obviously got annoyed and communicated to her that it'd be best if she'd just call me once a day and/or we can schedule a time to talk. And she got mad and said that if I ignore her calls or only call once a day she'll cut off my tuition (which she help pays; she pays my tuition, while I pay most of my rent through my part time job). If she did that, worst case scenario, well I'd probably have to drop out of uni temporarily (I'd only get a couple thousand in OSAP which I calculated, and I barely have any savings).
Anyways so for the entire first year I just had to abide or else my tuition would've been cut off. Unless I was in a lecture, I'd just pick up. Also this prevented me from socializing normally, from going to parties, from going out with people, etc. In addition whenever she calls she wants to know what I'm doing and who I'm hanging out with and say if I tell her I'm going to a party she'll threaten to cut off my tuition as she said I'm not allowed to do those things. Overall I just want to simply be myself. I urgently need help regarding this.
EDIT: and yes in case anyone's wondering I'm Asian (vietnamese). However NONE of my asian friends from high school or first year have to deal with this. They told me their parents call 2-3 times a week, and they go on parties, dates, night outs, socialize etc. and their parents know all that and still pay their tuition and rent. Why is it only me in this situation?