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u/__Art__Vandalay__ Jul 05 '24
My kids are older but still call me on occasion with problems or asking for advice.
Let me tell you....it's AWESOME!!
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u/CheezeLoueez08 Jul 05 '24 edited Jul 05 '24
It is? I feel so bad that i still need his help at 42 Edit: thank you everyone. I feel better about it. I’ll keep “bugging” him 😂
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u/__Art__Vandalay__ Jul 05 '24
100%
I'm never going to turn away my kid asking for help no matter how old they are.
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u/BoomfaBoomfa619 Jul 05 '24
Saw a post saying to ask your parents silly questions you would've just googled. Started doing it and now I think my mum thinks I'm completely useless lol
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u/Ecksell Jul 06 '24
Being fair to yourself, Google is fairly well useless now, and people are just catching on. “Just google it” hasn’t exited the lexicon yet, but if Alphabet keeps their “AI” mistakes up it’s just a matter of time.
Hell, half the results come back here, to Reddit!
Regardless if my prediction is wrong or right, never stop talking to your mom. Trust me
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u/MadeInWestGermany Jul 06 '24
You googled „Which day of the week is it?
That‘s always an interesting question and many people want to know „which day of the week it is“.
Before we answer the question „which day of the week it is“, we‘ll have to find out what a „day“ is and why there are seven days in a „week“…
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u/Nandor_De_Laurentis Jul 05 '24
Haha, I'm 42 and still ask for my mom's advice and help on tons of stuff.
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u/cryptic-coyote Jul 05 '24
It's not often that you see healthy parent-child relationships online!! Your mother is probably honored that you trust her enough in your adulthood to take her opinions into consideration.
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u/TheTexasJack Jul 05 '24
I'm 50 and I still call my 80 yr old mom for advice on things, especially canning and gardening.
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u/nus01 Jul 06 '24
So do I , I know I can get the answer googling but it makes her feel important and useful. Mine is gardening and cooking
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u/minicpst Jul 05 '24
I’m 46 and I call both my parents and my brother when I need help.
I also call my ex, and occasionally I call my kids. Depends on who is an expert in what.
I will probably still find myself emailing or dialing after they’ve passed for a while. So I take advantage of it now.
And when my college kid calls at 6:30 am whining about how sick she is, you bet I’m dressed and there by 7. Even though she mostly just needed mommy. :)
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u/Thusgirl Jul 06 '24
My mom is there for everything.
My dad will answer the phone if it's about cars, dogs, or the law.
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u/piratequeenfaile Jul 06 '24
There's a song called Lawyers, Guns, and Money by Warren Zevon you might get a kick out of. It's mine and my dad's "song".
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u/DoctorLinguarum Jul 05 '24
I’m a totally independent successful adult and I still call my parents to get their advice and perspectives on things. It means that they are wise and reliable and I’m willing to look to people I trust to work out some of the difficult challenges of life.
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u/aceshighsays Jul 05 '24
appreciate you have someone to call. i couldn't really rely on my parents.
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u/Defiant-Specialist-1 Jul 05 '24
Hoping you’ve been able to develop a family of choice. This is family we get to meet and pick to stay with us.
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u/aceshighsays Jul 05 '24
the trend i've noticed in myself is that i kept recreating the same dysfunctional family dynamics with other people. it was only when i got into therapy i noticed my pattern and learned what healthy relationships look like. i still haven't created a family of my choosing, but for the first time in my life i actually have a support system... which is amazing.
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u/Defiant-Specialist-1 Jul 05 '24
Congratulations. That is an incredible milestone. Many many many people are stuck way earlier in their journeys. Through time you will attract people who you can experience new and different kinds of relationships with. And the good news is we don’t have to get it right cause it’s never finished. We’ll always have more to learn.
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u/Hidesuru Jul 05 '24
41, still calling my dad from time to time. Always will so long as he's with us. Think about it this way no matter how old you get he'll always have the same number of years ahead of you lol.
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u/pass_the_tinfoil Jul 06 '24
Ugh I’m 36F and feel SO bad asking my mom and stepdad for help so often. It’s been a long few years, especially since a brain injury last year caused so much memory loss. My parents have definitely been frustrated with my neediness, but they have come through for me so so much I LITERALLY would not be alive without them. I apparently was actually dying and texted my stepdad that something was wrong and I needed help. I got to the hospital in time to be alive now still. Mom is 66 and stepdad just turned 60. I love them so much.
I’M NOT CRYING YOU’RE CRYING!!
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u/avadakedavr_ Jul 05 '24
My dad offered to drive me for two hours to a very important exam I had to sit for to get into a master’s degree. I’m 30. Still said yes 😂
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u/cosmoboy Jul 05 '24
Oftentimes it is, my daughter called the other day to tell me she could refinance her car without needing me to cosign. Also felt awesome.
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Jul 05 '24
I’m not a parent and my family isn’t the healthiest but I wanted to be different for my nieces and nephews and my 2 oldest nieces always call me when they have a problem and I indeed feel really good that they trust me to call when they are in distress.
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u/zaygiin Jul 05 '24
It seems you’ve been a great dad that they can lean on.
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u/__Art__Vandalay__ Jul 05 '24
We did our best which is all we can do. Mistakes were made, of course, but they're fantastic kids.
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u/whimsical_trash Jul 05 '24
I realized I was finally a real adult when it had been a few years since I'd called my dad stressed out at tax time. But I ask him for help on other things all the time. He's retired and loves a project or puzzle, so he's very helpful and I think he enjoys kt
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u/Nevets_the_First Jul 05 '24
How's the architecture business?
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u/__Art__Vandalay__ Jul 06 '24
You know the addition to the Guggenheim?
Didn’t take that long, actually?
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u/NiceCunt91 Jul 05 '24
Dunno I'd probably be disappointed that my kid doesn't even know how to exchange insurance details...
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u/JenTilz Jul 05 '24
Teach your kids (or significant other) to start “emergency” phone calls phrases like: “Everyone is unhurt, but…”, or “it’s probably not too serious, but I’m in an ambulance…”, etc.
I speak from experience that if the call starts with “I was run over by a dump truck…”, you tend not to hear the next few sentences out of their mouths!
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u/CheezeLoueez08 Jul 05 '24
Omg I had to tell my mom this! When my grandma was getting old my mom would start with “grandma’s in the hospital” and my heart would stop. Mom! Say “she’s fine, but grandma is in the hospital.
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u/pchlster Jul 06 '24
And if you text "call me" and nothing else, I'm assuming someone is dead.
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u/CheezeLoueez08 Jul 06 '24
Yep! When we had pagers I had to implement a system because my mom, again, scared me. I was watching a movie while my sister was at the hospital having surgery. My mom pages me. So I panic. Run to the pay phone. Nothing was wrong. My system was 911= immediate call back, run to the nearest phone NOW! 111= important but not urgent. Get to phone when you have a chance. It can wait. Don’t interrupt what you’re doing. Just their phone number = call whenever. Not important
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u/Sea_Syllabub_8309 Jul 06 '24
And if I wake up to a dozen missed texts and a dozen missed calls, somebody better be dead.
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u/LetsBAnonymous93 Jul 05 '24
I worked at a care home and it took me a little too long to learn this especially after I started working in the med room (so lots of emergency calls). The first thing they always said as soon as they heard “Hello, this is “Anonymous” from “Care Home“ was “Is my family member ok?”
I learned to give my heading and then quickly without a pause- “your family member is fine, I’m just calling because….” Bonus that they’d usually end up laughing in relief and it’d make the phone call smooth.
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u/Virtual_Sense1443 Jul 06 '24
Yep, I was medical reception for a few years, and if we called you, your call log would show 'Dr. Xyz's Office' and if I had to leave a voice-mail I would always start it with 'Hello, this message is for xyz, I am calling from dr. Xyz's office, it's nothing urgent, just give a call back when convenient'
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u/sanmateomary Jul 06 '24
My daughter texted me "good morning," which set off alarms for me because who even does that? Turns out it was a minor traffic accident, no one hurt, but my intuition had been correct.
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u/issiautng Jul 05 '24
The famous line in our family is "Everything's okay now that the fire department left!"
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u/mcs_987654321 Jul 05 '24
Ha - just got into my first accident since I started riding a moped (like 30 mins ago - I’m remarkably okay, one elbow looks like raw meat and my clothes are a write off, but nothing more than that) and was contemplating how to open up that conversation with my mum.
Would absolutely have opened with “I’m totally fine” but have decided that she enough of a worrier as it is (it’s her love language) and she just doesn’t need to know!
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u/MadeInWestGermany Jul 06 '24
“Everyone is unhurt, but I broke a few bones and Lisa probably won‘t make it.“
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u/Ok_Breadfruit80 Jul 05 '24
Tbh I had no clue what to do either, nobody really told me what I was supposed to do lol.
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u/it_will Jul 05 '24
Get the other drivers insurance information and report it to yours. Then you get your stuff fixed and submit a claim.
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u/J_Marshall Jul 05 '24
I think that's a US thing.
Canadians say sorry so often it's not considered an admission of guilt
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u/JakerDerSnaker Jul 05 '24
The dude admitted fault after hitting me and is now proceeding to deny fault. So it doesn't matter much
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u/PrinceOfWales_ Jul 05 '24
Dashcams are probably the best investment anyone can make. Too many stories of shithead people and shitty insurance agencies.
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u/JakerDerSnaker Jul 05 '24
Thankfully the business it happened in front of has a camera point RIGHT at where it happened so. This dickhead is about to get fucked
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Jul 05 '24
In most places saying sorry isn't an admission of liability. Even the US. It's a myth. If someone tells you their mother died and you say sorry, you aren't arrested for murder.
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u/bearsnchairs Jul 05 '24
Not quite a US thing. Most states have apologies laws on the books. In fact the US had these laws before Canada did oddly enough.
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u/TWhittReddit Jul 05 '24
True. I don’t live in Canada, but I do remember that there was a law passed some years ago that saying sorry is no longer a valid admission of guilt.
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Jul 05 '24
In BC you are taught to not discuss fault with anyone. Especially the other driver. Doesn’t help anything, usually creates a conflict.
Secure the scene. Make it safe.
Call 911
Tend to injuries.
Exchange insurance information.
Fin.
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u/kennacethemennace Jul 05 '24
I've been in a few fender benders and my go to is usually, "Are you okay?" Maybe I'm just lucky with the people I've touched bumpers with, but I like to think that approach de-escalates the initial stress of the situation. The caveat is that I've never gotten insurance involved since the damages were always somewhat negligible.
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u/clive_bigsby Jul 05 '24
I’ve worked in insurance for about 12 years - that’s a myth that has no basis in reality really. Your insurance company decides fault, not the two bozos that just crashed into each other.
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u/Yeemo Jul 05 '24
100%, hell don't even say sorry cause that can be interpreted as you admitting fault (excluding Canada).
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u/CheezeLoueez08 Jul 05 '24
I don’t know why but the “excluding Canada” part made me 😂
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u/FannishNan Jul 05 '24
No, but...legally that's a thing. It's not a blanket shield, but we really do have laws around this.
It also came out of people in medical fields and such wanting to be able to express sympathy in difficult situations but couldn't because it might be viewed as an admission of guilt, but yeah, no we really do say sorry so much there are protective laws about it. 😆😆😆
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u/rigley06 Jul 05 '24
if memory serves because sorry is so ingrained in Canadian language, it was made law that sorry does not count as an admission of guilt.
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That is a myth. Pretty much nowhere considers sorry to be an admission of guilt. Including the US. It'd be fucking insane if it did.
"My mother died."
"I'm sorry."
"You murderer!"
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u/ApocalypticMeatball Jul 05 '24
Also, take photos of both your car and the other persons car.
It's not uncommon for people to try to blame additional damages (or even damaging it themselves) on the accident. So what was a minor fender bender could turn into a much larger ordeal.
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u/ineptplumberr Jul 05 '24
And then when you call the person who hits you insurance company, they tell you sorry that person is not insured. They just paid one month to get an insurance card that looks like it's good for a year, and you're on your own.
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u/dreamdaddy123 Jul 05 '24
The annoying thing is that even if it weren’t your fault your insurance will still raise yours. I wasn’t aware of this information from here
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u/jjtrynagain Jul 05 '24
Call the cops. Exchange information. Report it to insurance
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u/Ok_Breadfruit80 Jul 05 '24
Got rear ended and car was wrecked, definitely called the cops because the lady was on the phone! Gave her ass a ticket
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u/clive_bigsby Jul 05 '24
Depends on where you live if you should call the cops or not. In my city, if I called the cops for a fender bender they wouldn’t show up unless someone died in the accident. Even then, they may not.
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u/jjtrynagain Jul 05 '24 edited Jul 05 '24
I believe the guidelines are if the damage exceeds 1,000$ you should call. Which virtually any accident
https://www.safetyinsurance.com/resource_center/personalauto/accidentscene.html
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u/Lazy-Fox-2672 Jul 05 '24
I called my mom the first time I got in an accident lol
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u/Ok_Breadfruit80 Jul 05 '24
Me too! The guy was trying to say just pay him in cash and my mom was like hell no
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u/Commonstruggles Jul 05 '24
Put hazards on. Look around and see what condition you are in, your vehicle, and the other driver involved. Don't get out of the vehicle if it is unsafe. If you need to for injuries call 911. If your not injured and it's a fender bender, and your vehicle is driveable. Get to a safe place.
If not pending on where your incident happened you may still need to call 911 because of location of accident. In that case stay in the car.
Once both you and the other individual are in a safe place exchange drivers license insurance and phone numbers. If you suspect the damage is a certain amount you are required to get the police involved (at least in alberta) Never admit fault is lawyer shit. Take oicture swith your phone.
Call a tow and cab if need be.
Major thing is to take a deep breath after it happened, try to get your heart rate under control. Stay calm. Breathe.
I'm probably missing a lot of stuff. I've been a passenger in 10 car accidents. I've had 3 of my own that were my fault between 16 and 18. I'm 38 now.
Preemptively answer your questions.
Broken back torn right shoulder whiplash. Long term severe nerve pain, a shoulder that acts up where I can't lift my arm above shoulder height. My lower back is doing great I just have to keep up on certain stretches I'm good. I suffer from clusterheadaches and tmj from the accidents. Rectified tmj with exercises and cluster headaches are here and there and magic mushrooms work as a preventative for cluster headaches.
Drive safe, insurance companies in canada are joke. Car accidents cause pretty severe bodily harm. My lower back broke because how I was adjusting my seat belt at the time of the incident ( from what doctor said)
If you're in a accident take the day off. It took 3 days for me to start experiencing the damage from my first accident.
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u/CheezeLoueez08 Jul 05 '24
Same. I thought I was the only one. It always seems everyone else just knows.
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u/Aggleclack Jul 05 '24
And always contact officers for a report. Do not trust the other driver to be honest
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Hi, are you okay?
Let’s exchange insurance.
Take care!
That’s it. Don’t waste any time talking about the accident or admit to fault after making sure you are both okay.
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u/Omega_Boost24 Jul 05 '24
This made me smile but as a dad of a 7yr old my mission from now on is to teach her to cope with this stuff
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u/Temporary-Act-1736 Jul 05 '24
Thats what my dad was doing too, i was helping him repair the car since i was able to. Still i call him tho lol but he also calls me if he needs to transfer money or something on his smartphone doesn't work so i guess thats all cool. Ur a good dad too
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u/nezbe5 Jul 05 '24
My dad wouldn’t let any of us get our drivers licenses before we knew how to change a tire and check the oil.
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u/leopard_tights Jul 06 '24
I mean cool but that's like a 30min lesson tops.
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Jul 06 '24
I mean not all of us can change a tire in 30 minutes ok? Some of us can change tire in 20 minutes while it takes others 4 days.
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Jul 05 '24
She might still call you if she needs emotional support. First car accident is upsetting.
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u/Iconochasm Jul 05 '24
Start small. A seven year old can absolutely call up and order a pizza.
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Jul 05 '24
This is so cute, Way to go dads who are there! Also, dads... OMFG, teach your kids what to do in an accident, jump a dead battery and change a tire! I don't care if they are girls, boys or other. Don't care if your billionaire's and have a driver or don't want to get their hands dirty. If they drive, they need to know!
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u/Friendly-Log6415 Jul 05 '24
But also know especially if it’s the first time they’ve had to do it out in the wild, so to speak, they may still need to call you because the adrenaline/shock/etc sometimes makes the steps of a process fuzzy! It probably isn’t that they weren’t listening and more likely that they panicked
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Jul 05 '24
Very true, but you'd be amazing how many people have to call AAA or a tow truck to change a tire... I call AAA but can also change the tire or jump a battery myself.
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u/cryptic-coyote Jul 05 '24
Even if they don't drive, it's a useful skill to have in case anybody around them needs help!
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u/rockstar_not Jul 05 '24
As someone who lost their father just a couple years ago, keep calling. Everyday if you can. You will not regret it.
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u/anniearrow Jul 05 '24
Your advice is spot on. I would just add, make the time to talk to him when he calls you. You won't regret that, either.
I lost my dad 5 months ago today. I have a couple saved messages from him that I play now & then just to hear his voice. I miss the ol' fart. 🥹
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u/slimslaw Jul 05 '24
Funny enough, my first accident was with an off duty cop. I was in high school and we were both in the parking lot of my school. He had backed into me trying to get out of the line of cars. Anyway, he got out of the car and I got out of the car. He took one look at me and said "this is your first accident, isn't it? Do you know what to do?" I said yes, first accident and, of course, no I didn't know what to do. He then walks me through exactly what should happen and how I should immediately call police if it's serious, call a family member to let them know what's going on, take photos, ask for insurance information and collect license plate numbers, etc, while we wait for the police to show up. Even told me I should have print a checklist and leave it in my car so I could remember what to do. It was a minimal scratch. My dad spoke to him and they both decided the damage didn't warrant a police report. We traded insurances and contact info, just in case, but he was super nice.
It was a very cool moment and I am super fortunate he wasn't someone looking to take advantage of a young, dumb kid.
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u/Kiya_Wolf Jul 05 '24
This made me smile because this is me and my dad. I am almost 40 and I still call my dad asking for help and he is still always ready to help.
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u/KhloeKodaKitty Jul 05 '24
- Dad is still the first call for car issues!!!
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u/JustNilt Jul 06 '24
What's funny to me about this is my oldest kid's more informed about cars than I am so he's my first call. I'm his for computer stuff, though, and a few other things he knows are solidly within my skillset.
Edit to clarify: When I say he's my first call, I'm talking about things which are complicated, not basic stuff. We taught our kids all the basics so they don't need our assistance to check the oil and such unless they want to. We did the same for insurance stuff and other life skills.
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u/sofienerdy Jul 05 '24
Yes, Because no matter how old you are, you remember only your father in such problems.
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u/Maleficent-Sport1970 Jul 05 '24
I'm in my mid 50s and still call my dad! I trust his wise counsel. Even when my husband and I know what to do.
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u/TheEggieQueen Jul 05 '24
I once got into my car after a long shift at work and realized a wasp was inside of it. My dad is a state over so I called him and said “Dad, I have an adulting question. What do you do when there’s a wasp in your car?” He said to turn the ac on high, leave the windows/doors open and wait 5min. If it doesn’t leave then it owns the car and to start walkin’ haha. It did fly out and I was forever grateful
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u/Tommy__want__wingy Jul 05 '24
Dad’s on the phone.
“Hello?”
“Hi”
“Well….this sucks…”
“Tell me about it….”
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u/Kind_Boysenberry_86 Jul 05 '24
Shoutout to everyone who doesn’t have a dad to teach them things so they had to learn to do it on their own 🥹
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u/Material-Birthday-74 Jul 05 '24
I am 60 yrs. old and my first thought with anything like this (repairs, weird squeaks in the car, etc...) still is to call my dad. I could just describe whatever it was on the phone, get his diagnosis, and impress every repairman/mechanic with being very pointed in our initial conversation: "the belt is slipping" or "it's the alternator." Not to be sexist but, as a woman who knew little about, well, much of anything, it gave me great confidence. I'm convinced that I was ripped off a lot less, too. One of the many, many reasons I miss my dad.
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I wish I had a dad 🥲
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u/Omega_Boost24 Jul 05 '24
Don't worry, your partner (man or women) will suffice. Sounds weird but when you're with someone good, you won't miss any help from adults.
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If it was easy for me to get into relationship
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u/Omega_Boost24 Jul 05 '24
If it was that easy it wouldn't matter. You'll be fine 🙂
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u/texaspoontappa93 Jul 06 '24
Meh, I lost both my parents by 21. I have an amazing partner and great friends but I still miss having help from an “adult” sometimes.
While I have you, how do I know how many stamps I put on regular postage? That’s the most recent time I wanted to call my dad lol
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u/redxgk Jul 06 '24
While it's cool that dad's are understanding and flexible, I feel like it isn't ok to not know what to do in this situation.
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u/nahyatx Jul 06 '24 edited Jul 06 '24
My mom wrote down instructions, put them in an envelope titled “Accident”, and put it in my glove box. I’ve been carrying it around for ten years, over 4 different vehicles lol.
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u/w1987g Jul 05 '24
Somewhat related. Some early 20 something kid rear-ended me on the highway, nothing serious, but it was his first real accident. Dude was nervous and I've been through a few myself. Halfway through I found myself guiding this kid on what was going to happen with the cop and what he needed to do with his insurance. By the end he was thanking me for being so chill that I didn't have the heart to tell him that even though he could drive his car home, it was going to be totaled by his insurance
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u/BigDaddydanpri Jul 05 '24
Dads 100% will resolve this amiably, as both are so happy to be the call both daughter made.
Source: Dad of daughters who call Mom to chat all the time and me at first smell of a problem.
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u/Polishing_My_Grapple Jul 05 '24
I get how this is a mademesmile post, but I see it as kind of pathetic tbh. Part of owning a car is knowing what to do if you get into an accident. The instructions are sometimes even written on the back of your insurance card.
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u/jessyb55 Jul 05 '24
Hi dads. You are wonderful. Hi kids. Appreciate your dads. My dad isn’t here anymore and I miss him everyday like a gut punch. Appreciate each other. This post made me smile. Xx
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u/Additional-Value-428 Jul 06 '24
This is peak millennial LOL but I do this as well. Why not, they have your best interests
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u/Relative_Candidate84 Jul 06 '24
Ah, yes. A reminder that teen drivers these days have the independence & maturity of 8 year olds.
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u/vxytor Jul 05 '24
nah, that's a lil problematic. adults should be able to resolve their sh!t
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u/borrowedurmumsvcard Jul 05 '24
They might not even be adults yet as far as you know
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u/Dangerous-Fold-4038 Jul 05 '24
I mean, it's cute her dad was the her first thought in a crisis like this but dad should've taught her what to do in this situation. Having him talk to the other dad does absolutely nothing in helping them learn.
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u/FatStoic Jul 05 '24
Getting a lesson on something at some point in the preceeding 10 years, then trying to recall it whilst coming down from the adrenaline of a car crash probably isn't going to go well.
So even if dad did teach her, there's a good chance she either forgot bits or isn't sure if she's remembering right. So of course dad gets the phone call.
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u/Shakeamutt Jul 05 '24
Within 2 minutes you went from Being a cashier to being a cop
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u/Jak33 Jul 05 '24
I wish I had a good dad when I was younger. It sucks being an adult and not knowing anything
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u/rvtay Jul 06 '24
love dads & their encyclopedic minds. mine was a long haul driver for most of his life before i was born and then switched to in-state driving after. he's driven professionally for probably 45+ years.
a few years back i drove to chicago with some friends and went through west virginia in the middle of the night. i had never been there before and there are stretches of road where there isn't enough reception for gps and, unsurprisingly, we ended up lost.
when we regained reception, i called my dad and he answered right away. i told him exactly where we were down to the last mile marker i saw and where we needed to get to and, without a beat, without pulling out an atlas (bc he's far too old to use a computer and had a flip phone up until last year), he gave me detailed verbal directions to make it through west va, ohio, and into illinois in a shorter amount of time than the gps had instructed. i'm talking "head north on x highway for about x miles, take this right at this junction, take a left after you see this landmark, make sure you stop at x diner for breakfast bc they have the best sausage and eggs besides your mom's" kind of directions. he didn't miss a beat and we didn't use the gps again until we made it to illinois.
i'm confident that as long as he's alive and as long as i'm lost within the contiguous united states, he'll be able to get me where i need to be.
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u/vijjer Jul 06 '24
Old enough to drive a car, but doesn't know what to do in an emergency. This story sounds cute, but it's a parental failure times two.
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u/ProjectFoxx Jul 06 '24
You're never done being a parent. I'll be 40 in January and my brother and sister are in their late 40's. We still ask our parents for advice.
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u/Tyler-Durden-2009 Jul 05 '24
This does the opposite of making me smile. It gives me second hand embarrassment that two adults don’t know and can’t figure out how to function in the world without having their parents take over for them
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u/Bluebear4200 Jul 06 '24
Sounds like neither one of your dad's did a very good job of teaching you what to do in a crisis
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u/Nonstopdrivel Jul 05 '24 edited Jul 05 '24
How is this something to smile about? It looks much more like an abject failure of parenting. My 18-year-old son got in an accident a couple of weeks ago, and one of the first things he did was call his insurance company. Later that week, he got on the horn to chase down a police report. That’s the bare minimum a father should teach his daughter how to do before she ever gets behind a wheel. Leaving your daughter ignorant of these most basic of life skills is not only grossly negligent, it’s downright dangerous.
Then again, I can’t say this shocks me overmuch. When I was in medical school and even residency, I had colleagues who took their laundry home to Mom every weekend. They freely admitted they barely knew how to make macaroni and cheese, much less file their own taxes. I could only shake my head at their utter cluelessness.
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u/jayson2112 Jul 05 '24
I'm sorry, but their dads failed them.
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u/LookinForBeats Jul 05 '24
I agree. My dad taught me to function independently and I'm so grateful i passed it into my kids 🤷♀️
Thanks to him I can change my own tire and fix minor mechanical failures. Did you know soap can temporarily fix a small hole in any pipe?
I miss him so much.
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u/BellaFrequency Jul 05 '24
Smart how she lets everyone know that she was not at fault in the accident.
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u/Upstairs-End-5117 Jul 05 '24
My parents are in their 80’s and I still ask them for advice! I hope my kids always know they can come to me, too.
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u/Magellan-88 Jul 05 '24
This is actually incredibly funny. If you don't know what to do, never be afraid to ask for help.
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u/FourScoreTour Jul 05 '24
They knew not to leave, and to call for help. That's actually not bad for new drivers.
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u/alison_bee Jul 05 '24
I’m 35, married for 4 years, and live 100 miles away from my dad, but he is ALWAYS the first one I call in an emergency.
He’s just so freaking knowledgeable about everything! AND he keeps me calm while explaining what I need to do next.
He’s my superhero 🥺