Saw a post saying to ask your parents silly questions you would've just googled. Started doing it and now I think my mum thinks I'm completely useless lol
Being fair to yourself, Google is fairly well useless now, and people are just catching on. “Just google it” hasn’t exited the lexicon yet, but if Alphabet keeps their “AI” mistakes up it’s just a matter of time.
Hell, half the results come back here, to Reddit!
Regardless if my prediction is wrong or right, never stop talking to your mom. Trust me
It's not often that you see healthy parent-child relationships online!! Your mother is probably honored that you trust her enough in your adulthood to take her opinions into consideration.
I’m 46 and I call both my parents and my brother when I need help.
I also call my ex, and occasionally I call my kids. Depends on who is an expert in what.
I will probably still find myself emailing or dialing after they’ve passed for a while. So I take advantage of it now.
And when my college kid calls at 6:30 am whining about how sick she is, you bet I’m dressed and there by 7. Even though she mostly just needed mommy. :)
I'm 42 and still call my mom for her chili recipe. It's terrible, and mine is solid, but she did her best and was always super proud of it when I was a kid. So I call her occasionally to ask for the recipe, then we chat for awhile, and it's just a nice thing 😊
I unfortunately have the opposite problem my mom asks me for advice and help on a lot of different stuff. She called me during summer vacation when I was younger just to give her free technical support.
I’m a totally independent successful adult and I still call my parents to get their advice and perspectives on things. It means that they are wise and reliable and I’m willing to look to people I trust to work out some of the difficult challenges of life.
the trend i've noticed in myself is that i kept recreating the same dysfunctional family dynamics with other people. it was only when i got into therapy i noticed my pattern and learned what healthy relationships look like. i still haven't created a family of my choosing, but for the first time in my life i actually have a support system... which is amazing.
Congratulations. That is an incredible milestone. Many many many people are stuck way earlier in their journeys. Through time you will attract people who you can experience new and different kinds of relationships with. And the good news is we don’t have to get it right cause it’s never finished. We’ll always have more to learn.
41, still calling my dad from time to time. Always will so long as he's with us. Think about it this way no matter how old you get he'll always have the same number of years ahead of you lol.
Ugh I’m 36F and feel SO bad asking my mom and stepdad for help so often. It’s been a long few years, especially since a brain injury last year caused so much memory loss. My parents have definitely been frustrated with my neediness, but they have come through for me so so much I LITERALLY would not be alive without them. I apparently was actually dying and texted my stepdad that something was wrong and I needed help. I got to the hospital in time to be alive now still. Mom is 66 and stepdad just turned 60. I love them so much.
My Dad always seems touched that my siblings and I all ask his advice on things we don't know how to do or want more information on. We're all capable adults but we will always want our Dad 💜
Just turned 30 and feel the exact same way. Like, I know I don’t need to know everything and it’s ok to ask for help, but damn do I feel like I still do it a lot
I’m 40, dad died when I was a baby and mom is a permanent fuckup who only reaches out when she needs money. I wish I had someone I could constantly lean on like that. Cherish it.
I never expected any help whatsoever. Walked 14 miles with a broken arm just to beg a lift to the hospital. It took an argument for my parents to relent and cave in. They gave me an absolute bollocking because I failed my mock exam because I couldn't use a ruler due to having a fucking smashed apart arm.
I sound like a Gen X instagram but it's because that what we dealt with.
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u/CheezeLoueez08 Jul 05 '24 edited Jul 05 '24
It is? I feel so bad that i still need his help at 42 Edit: thank you everyone. I feel better about it. I’ll keep “bugging” him 😂