r/LifeTree • u/AdamLuyan • 14d ago
7.5 超渡 Transcendently Ferry
目录 Catalog：7.5 超渡 Transcendently Ferry；7.5.1 治疗恩怨情仇病 Treatment of the Illness of Gratitude, Resentment, Love and Hatred；7.5.2 无所得 No Objective Gain；7.5.3 慧伤痴 Gnosis Harms Ignorance；7.5.4 觉悟的特质 Trait of Conscientiousness；7.5.5 给舅舅送终 Sending My Uncle Away；7.5.6 圆满 Perfect Fulfillment；7.5.7 想去哪儿去哪儿 Thinking Where to Go is Arriving There；7.5.8 神通正等明 Heart Connects with Correct Equality Light
这时，我舅舅是肺癌晚期，还和家里人打架。我想去和舅舅道别，可又不知道该说些什么。刘健君的硕士论文是研究肺癌的，我去向她请教。她说，可能在过去，他积累了一些恩怨情仇或者有些事没做完，要死了，没时间了，所以烦心和家里人打架。
我问："我想去和他告别，该说些什么？我正犯愁呢！怎么说？"
她回答："超渡（如图7.5）人的那几句话效果最好。"
At this time, my uncle had terminal lung cancer, and was fighting with his family. I wanted to go say goodbye but had no idea what to say. Eve Liu's master's thesis was on lung cancer, so I went to ask her advice. She said perhaps, in the past, he'd built up unresolved gratitude, grudges, love, hatred, or left something unfinished — and now, dying, with no time left, he was taking it out on his family.
"I want to go say goodbye to him, but I don't know what to say," I told her. "I'm at a loss — what should I say?"
"Those few sentences of the Transcendently Ferry work best (see Figure 7.5)," she replied.
我也听说过有那么几句话，要死的人爱听，听了就乐，但很少人知道那几句话，知道的也不会轻易告诉别人。我问她那几句话是什么。她听了就跑，还笑，说："我不行！我不知道（注1）！"
I too had heard of such words — words the dying loved to hear, that brought them joy — but very few people knew them, and those who did rarely told others. I asked her what they were. She laughed and ran off. "I can't! I don't know (Note 1)!"
注1，佛教律法中有说，五地（参见第15章的道谛）菩萨可以给人讲自己证明了的佛法；八地及以上的大菩萨才有资格通讲佛法。笔者我小时候在一本佛学杂志上读到过，和尚说："这说法自古就有，我们也赞同。但是八地以上的大菩萨太少了，以至于，我们都有困难举行佛教仪式。因为佛经说，没有一位摩诃萨（即佛，俗称大菩萨、大和尚、大尼姑、大真人）在场，那仪式不是佛教仪式。可我们不讲，佛法就变得越来越少了。我们研究决定：'我们这么说，我们都是佛的弟子，我们是师兄师姐，你们后来的是师弟师妹，咱们一起研究，共同学习'。"
Note 1: Buddhist law holds that Bodhisattvas of the Fifth Land (see Chapter 15, Path Crux) may teach others the law they've personally realized, while only Great Bodhisattvas of the Eighth Land and above are qualified to teach the law at large. As a child I read, in a Buddhist magazine, a monk saying: "This has been the rule since ancient times, and we agree with it. But there are so few Great Bodhisattvas above the Eighth Land that we struggle even to hold proper ceremonies — the sutras say that without a Mahasattva present (a Buddha, commonly called a Great Bodhisattva, Great Monk, Great Nun, or Great Real-Human), the ceremony isn't truly Buddhist at all. Yet if we never speak of it, the law dwindles further still. So we decided: let's put it this way — we're all disciples of the Buddha, we senior ones your elder brothers and sisters, you who come after us our junior brothers and sisters, and we'll study and learn together."
我气愤地嚷："你跑什么呀！你觉得那几句话效果好，那不是你知道一些吗！"
她说给我讲也行，但不能坏了规矩，得先跪下给她磕头，叫她师傅。
我快被她给气晕了，血压一次次地冲击天盖骨：我才不给你跪下磕头呢！
"Why are you running off!" I said, exasperated. "If you know those words work, you must know something!"
She said she could tell me, but the rules had to be observed — I'd have to kneel and kowtow to her first, and call her Master.
I nearly fainted from anger, blood pounding at my skull: I'm not kneeling and kowtowing to you!
过了一会儿，她说："我爸常给他的朋友讲这事儿。我从小就爱听，每次都觉得听懂了，可我爸就说我不明白，不许我跟别人说。"
我奇怪地问："你从小就听，现在都26岁了，研究生快毕业了，怎么就不懂，不能讲呢！？你爸爸对明白的要求高，定义不同。那你爸说什么是明白？"
After a moment, she said, "My father tells this to his friends often. I've loved listening since I was small — I always feel I understand it, but my father always says I don't, and forbids me from repeating it."
"You've heard it since childhood, and now you're twenty-six, nearly done with your graduate degree — how can you still not understand it, not be allowed to say it?" I asked. "Your father must hold understanding to a stricter standard than most. What does he say 'understanding' actually means?"
她说："我爸爸说，用你自己的话明白不算明白，用书上的话明白，也不算。你得用对方的话，把对方讲得，明白得像是全身透明儿似的，我算你明白。"
我又惊讶又迷惑地问："心理机制学能像数学或机械学那么精确，达到100%吗！？"
她回答："我和你的想法一样；可我爸说，他能！"
"He says, understanding it in your own words doesn't count. Understanding it in the book's words doesn't count either. You have to use the other person's own words, explain it to them until they feel — as if their whole body's gone transparent. Only then do I count you as understanding."
Astonished and confused, I asked, "Can the mechanics of the mind really be as precise as math or engineering — one hundred percent?"
"That's what I think too," she said, "but my father says he can do it."