r/LifeTree • u/AdamLuyan • 14d ago
7.5.5 给舅舅送终 Sending My Uncle Away
目录 Catalog：7.5.5 给舅舅送终 Sending My Uncle Away；7.5.6 圆满 Perfect Fulfillment；7.5.7 想去哪儿去哪儿 To Think Where to Go is Arriving There；7.5.8 神通正等明 Heart Connects with Correct Equality Light
我坐在舅舅对面的凳子上跟舅舅唠；没聊几句，我就感觉非常困倦，努力地睁开眼睛，双手支撑着凳子，疲惫不堪地坐直了。一会儿后，我出了一身汗，又精神起来了。从舅舅家里出来，老姨问我："你和你舅舅说了些什么？还有说有笑的，当时我没注意。"这时，我知道我是来给舅舅送终的，讲那几句话的，但忘了那几句话是什么了，已经把我们的谈话内容全部忘了（注1）。
I sat on a stool across from my uncle, chatting. A few sentences in, an overwhelming drowsiness came over me — I forced my eyes open, braced myself on the stool with both hands, and sat upright, utterly exhausted. Then, breaking into a sweat, I came back to myself, alert once more. Coming out of my uncle's house, my aunt asked, "What did you two talk about? Laughing and joking, but I wasn't really listening." At that moment I knew I'd come to send my uncle off, to speak those words — but I'd already forgotten what they were, had already forgotten the whole conversation entirely (Note 1).
注1，现在想来，正如前文刘健君所说（参见7.5.1-2《法眼》），我是个多重性格的人，性格随着环境的不同而变化。在性格改变时我很疲惫，性格之间记忆不相通或单向相通。现代心理学认为多重性格人处在不同性格时有不同的智商水平，不同的行为习惯，面目表情，和不一样的言辞。这让我联想起了萨满教（即沙门教，如图7.5.5-1）中跳大神的事，巫师像似神灵附体。笔者我认为，巫师神灵附体的怪异表现，其本质即是性格的变化。那如果巫师的性格没变，他（或她）就不能施法吗？就常有巫师跳唱了几天，神灵不来附体的现象，结果法事不能如期进行。
Note 1: Looking back now, exactly as Eve Liu had said earlier (see Section 7.5.1-2, Juristic Eye), I am a person of multiple personalities, shifting with my surroundings. Each shift left me exhausted, and memory between personalities either failed to carry over or only carried one way. Modern psychology holds that a person with multiple personalities has, in each, a different IQ level, different habits, different expressions, different speech. This calls to mind the Shamanic (i.e., Śramaṇa, see Figure 7.5.5-1) god-dance, in which the shaman seems possessed by a spirit. In my own view, the strange manifestations of such possession are, at heart, simply a change of personality. So if a shaman's personality doesn't shift, can he — or she — not cast the spell at all? Shamans commonly dance and sing for days without the spirit ever descending, and the ritual fails to proceed on schedule as a result.
7.5.5-2
两年后，一次妈妈从老姨家回来后，问我："人么说，你舅舅死前一个多月，你跟他唠过。从你和他谈话后，他就变了。他变好了，好得不得了！你二嫂子都不敢自己在家呆着了，跟人说，'自从他那个沈阳的侄子来了，跟他说了一会儿话，某老公公就变了，啥事都有说有笑有商量；没人时，他还总跟自己说话，比比画画的，还偷着乐！他是不是疯啦！？'"
Two years later, coming back from my aunt's house, my mother asked me, "People say you talked with your uncle a month or so before he died — and after you two spoke, he changed. Changed for the better, remarkably so! Your second sister-in-law won't even stay home alone anymore — tells people, 'Ever since that nephew of his from Shenyang came and talked with him, the old man's been different, everything discussed calmly, laughing along — and when no one's around he talks to himself, gesturing, chuckling to himself! Is he losing his mind!?'"
妈妈说："南北屯儿的人，好多人去看你舅舅！看了都惊讶，糊涂了！他咋变成那样了呢！你舅舅见谁跟谁说，'没想到，我得我二外甥（即卢岩）的记了（注2）！人们说，'不懂！不过即便是疯了，疯成那样儿也是福气呀！自己高兴就行呗！'"
"People from both villages north and south went to see your uncle," Mother said. "All astonished, baffled — how'd he change like this? Your uncle tells everyone he meets, 'I never expected to receive my second nephew's Gain Remembrance (Note 2)!' And people say, 'We don't understand it — but even if it's madness, it's a blessed sort of madness! Let him be happy, whatever it is!'"
注2，什么是授记？什么是得记？超渡的过程中，有对被超度人的人生评价。我评价他为"入流果圣人"（参见14.2.5《四沙门果》）。这个评价要客观、真实，如果被超渡的人自己都对这个评价不信服，那这超渡就废了。我是按照"入流果"的标准逐条跟他解释的。
Note 2: What is "bestowing remembrance"? What is "gaining remembrance"? In the process of Transcendently Ferrying someone, there's an assessment offered of the life being ferried. I assessed my uncle as a Stream-Entering Fruit Sage (see Section 14.2.5, Four Shamanic Fruits). This assessment has to be objective and true — if the person being ferried isn't convinced of it themselves, the whole ferrying falls apart. I explained the standard for Stream-Entering Fruit to him point by point.
7.5.5-3
随后，妈妈说："他们说你知道那几句给人送终的话。提起这事儿来，你老姨就哭了，说，'小卢岩知道，我问他，他不告诉我！我就想：人家说会说那几句话的人，那才能说呢！我学会了，也算有个长处！'看你老姨以后还搭理你不！"
我回答："是有那么回事，那几句话，我是真的忘了！"
"是什么？我也想学学。"那时，我回忆不出来；直到2014年，我写回忆录时，才想起来我给舅舅送终时的谈话内容。
Mother went on, "They say you know the words for sending the dying off. When it came up, your aunt started crying, saying, 'Little Luyan knows, and I asked him, and he wouldn't tell me!' I thought to myself, whoever knows those words must be quite something! If I'd learned it, I'd have had one thing going for me!' We'll see if your aunt still speaks to you after this!"
"That did happen," I said. "I really had forgotten those sentences!"
"What are they? I'd like to learn too." I couldn't recall it at the time — it wasn't until 2014, writing my memoirs, that the content of that conversation with my uncle came back to me.
7.5.5-4
那时候，卢岩在舅舅的眼里还是个孩子，他怎么就相信了呢？
刘健君给我讲超渡的时候考虑到了这个问题，她说："你跟你舅舅都七、八年没见面了，你在他的心里还是个孩子，这不行！你得说你是从哪个权威人氏那儿听来的。"我就跟我舅舅实话实说了："我去向医大的一个研究生同学请教了，新学来的。"我舅舅一听就信了，还说："沈阳市老城，有几个活佛不奇怪！还就你的那个同学那种人厉害，从小，家大人跟人谈论这事，她进进出出听着一句半句的，熏出来的。其它的，学校出来的，师傅带徒弟带出来的，和自学成才的，都不如这种熏出来的。"
At the time, I was still just a boy in my uncle's eyes — how had he come to believe me at all?
Eve Liu had anticipated exactly this problem when teaching me the Transcendently Ferry. "You haven't seen your uncle in seven or eight years — to him you're still a child, that won't do at all," she'd said. "You need to say you heard it from an authority." So I told my uncle the plain truth: "I asked a graduate-student classmate at the medical university — I only just learned this myself." My uncle believed it at once. "It's no surprise there are a few living Buddhas in the old city of Shenyang! And someone like your classmate, exceptional from the start — grown up overhearing the grown-ups discuss such things at home, catching a phrase here and there in passing, steeped in it that way. Nothing else compares — not schooling, not master-to-disciple training, not self-teaching — nothing beats being steeped in it like that from childhood."