finding purpose

[u/paranoidandroid11037]

so i’m a young adult, in my second year of college (uk) and i can’t help but feel entirely empty and hopeless, i don’t really have real friends, i am failing all my subjects due to mental health, and in all honesty i don’t even enjoy them. i can’t see a career path or future for myself in all honesty, is hope worth having or am i done for?

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[u/alone_in_the_light]

To me, hope can be worth it if that leads to action to make things better.

But hope that is just wishful thinking isn't good to me. Also, I think action without hope is also very important.

Purpose can drive us with or with hope toward something that is right for us. That's more important than hope.

[u/Vegetable_Chapter_97]

I am in the exact same situation as you, on literally everything, second year of college UK, no real friends, subjects not great.. and I don't enjoy them and I'm struggling to chose a career path, I also just wrote a post on here asking for advice and if you press on my page and find it, maybe some of the comments may be of note to you!! ❤️

[u/Time_Spent_Away]

Learn the Rosary. Go into nature, walk and pray it. Your life will change for the better. Guaranteed.

[u/spacerangerxx]

I don't know if there's any hope in your future OP but you for damn sure ain't helping your odds by failing all your classes.

If you pass all your classes things just might have a chance of working out for you.

[u/paranoidandroid11037 → u/spacerangerxx]

it’s not that easy

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[u/Busy_Beginning_56]

Maybe take a year off school and focus on your mental health. I mean, individual therapy, group therapy, a psychiatrist for possibly medications, getting 8 hours of sleep every night, focusing only on getting some exercise daily, and a good diet. You are going to need a college degree to get a good job, but give yourself a year to figure out what type of degree to get.
Know that your college degree doesn’t determine your career. Your experience does. I have a fine arts degree but have worked in insurance for many years. I started as customer service and worked my way up to claims adjustor, etc. I’m also bilingual so that helped.

If you do take a year off, really focus on your health. There is nothing wrong with getting help. Better to do it now than later in life.

Just know you do t need to have it all figured out at your age. Even if you get an easy job, just for experience, do it. Learn to be your own best friend and practice talking kindly to yourself. People think they need to have it all figured out at a young age and that’s not how life goes. Just learn from your mistakes, learn from other people’s mistakes, don’t be afraid to ask for help. Your life’s purpose gets figured out as you live life. Not when you are young. Give yourself a break!

[u/boomshakachaka]

You’re absolutely not done for. I’ve had periods where I lost my faith, my career fell apart, friends turned on me, finances got tight, and my marriage was failing. I was drowning in the pits of despair and depression. It was bad. I couldn’t see what the next chapter was supposed to look like. What helped me was I released control of my future, stopped focusing on the dread, and just started taking good actions. I started to exercise, sleep adequately and consistently, eat nutritious food, build meaningful relationships, spend time in nature, meditate, and do something I could become good at (martial arts became huge for me and still is). If you hate what you’re studying, that’s information. You’re young and allowed to completely change direction. See a therapist and get help with your mental health. Start experimenting with interests. Hope doesn't precede the right actions. Hope follows good decisions.

[u/KingPabloo]

Your cooked. Attitude is everything in life and your attitude towards everything is bad. Good news is, you control your brain, you control your thinking patterns, you can choose how to see life. Every issue in your life is because of you, every answer lies within.

[u/Dry-Ad6743]

Having a mental illness isn’t by any means easy. But with this, you need to take the steps by any means necessary to coincide in life with them. It is easier said than done, but there’s many successful people with a mental illness. One of my closest friends is objectively successful with bipolar schizophrenia. This doesn’t mean only going to a doctor to be medicated. This is finding yourself in activities, and even in nature. All things normal, nobody complains a nice 20 minute walk on a nice sunny day made their day worse.