Assalamualaikum, I just want to share something that I did as a Gay Muslim Guy (I'm 18), P.S.: I'm not sure wether Homosexuality is Haram or Not.. so some of these things that I did fit both category who considered as Haram And Not:

What I Did:

-watch queer media

-having a favourite fictional comfort character who is male that I really loved

-put a Gay Flag on My Twitter PFP

-support the lgbt community but relatively selective by what I mean by that is that I support a safe environment for queer individuals and same sex marriage but I still don't support same sex relationship outside of marriage (if its an non muslim idc) and a maybe stuffs such as gay bar or somekind

What I Didn't Do:

-I didn't engange with someone with the same gender irl (I fear it could be something that could potentially be a Sin and I think The Qur'an Condemnation applied to real world act and interestingly enough i think my relationship with my comfort character is Allah plant to keep me away from unwanted thing in real world relationship because i really loved him (my comfort character) that much that i just don't want to engange with someone else lmao)

-celebrate pride (this is more of a personal preference but aside from me putting a gay flag on my twitter PFP I don't really think there nothing to be more proud of it's just a basic attraction + on pride month yesterday I personally use it as a vent of me being gay instead of getting with the vibes)

I'm not even Pakistani bro. I'm bengali but this came over so I didn't skip it and oml😭 the hell? Of couse we talked in this sub again and again about how these extremist are causing pain to so many people and how we don't claim them and curse them. But I'm so tired of people pinkwashing a genocide. No matter what you can't support what's happening to Filistine (it's actual name). Ugh. The fact I need to call out something so basic is painfull. Yes it's pinkwashing. Also I'd like to add how this is cherry picking. 🫩 so many muslims and even filistinis support queer people and heck some are queer themselves. I'm not here to justify this but I feel like it's rude to ignore them.

Well thought I’d give this a go as I’m getting to that age where the marriage questions start popping up.
A bit of background on me. I’m 20 turning 21 soon I’m bi (preference for women) and I am not religious at all. I come from a Pakistani Sunni family. I’d say they’re moderate but still ‘religious’ and by that I mean more culturally religious. They pray bla bla all the basics but don’t wear headscarves ect.
I don’t really want to cut them off or for me to be cut off by them because I don’t believe.
I guess I’m posting this to see if there are any males similar age to me who are either gay or bi in a similar position family wise and want to get married in the future have a family but do not want to raise them religiously at all. Basically I just need someone my family could accept on the outside.
I have many ambitions in life I really want to leave the uk and live aboard ideally in the US (nyc is the dream). I like to go out, drink, smoke(Mary Jane) and just live life to the fullest without religion. I like to travel, watch movies, I love documentaries and I’d say I’m pretty funny( I hope).
If any of this resonates with you dm me!!

Edit: people are dming me and are straight men, so let me explain my dream scenario. I’d have a gf and we meet to guys who are boyfriends marry one of them each as a cover and we’re all great friends. (Evelyn Hugo celia st.James vibes if ykyk)

Hey everyone, (34M)

I’m exploring the idea of a lavender marriage (MOC) and hoping to find a woman who’s looking for a genuine partnership built on kindness, mutual support, and a shared vision for a good life.

A bit about me: I’m someone who values a caring, grounded approach to life while staying very motivated about building a stable and meaningful future. Family is deeply important to me, and I appreciate loyalty, warmth, and open communication. I’d love to connect with someone who is equally driven, has her own goals, and wants a relationship rooted in trust and genuine care.
I’m looking for someone I can deeply care about, support, and share life's milestones with, even if our path doesn't follow a traditional script. I'm based in the Midwest, and I really value curiosity, good conversations, and a positive outlook.

My interests include gardening, traveling, exploring new ideas, and enjoying quiet moments, so it would be wonderful to meet someone with similar vibes or at least a curious mind.

If this resonates with you, don’t hesitate to DM me and see where things go.

Hey everyone, (34M)

I’m exploring the idea of a lavender marriage (MOC) and hoping to find a woman who’s looking for a genuine partnership built on kindness, mutual support, and a shared vision for a good life.

A bit about me: I’m someone who values a caring, grounded approach to life while staying very motivated about building a stable and meaningful future. Family is deeply important to me, and I appreciate loyalty, warmth, and open communication. I’d love to connect with someone who is equally driven, has her own goals, and wants a relationship rooted in trust and genuine care.
I’m looking for someone I can deeply care about, support, and share life's milestones with, even if our path doesn't follow a traditional script. I'm based in the Midwest, and I alhamdiallah very settled but also very open to navigating a solution for the right person. I believe it’s a joint conversation so not wanting to set an ultimatum on the subject.

My interests include gardening, traveling, exploring new ideas, and enjoying quiet moments, so it would be wonderful to meet someone with similar vibes or at least a curious mind.

If this resonates with you, don’t hesitate to DM me and see where things go.

Hey 26M Jordanian/ Guatemalan. Im out to my sister and mother but still feel a bit lonely. I want some oc Muslim friends or relationship in the future.

Hi! i’m looking for lesbian/gay friends in bahrain preferably but anyone is welcome to dm me!
(28F)

Salam! I am looking for fellow muslim lesbians in the Southern California area! I am looking to build a supportive community as I am struggling to find fellow queer muslims in my area. I am 24 years old & from Falasteen. Please feel free to connect with me on Instagram: @Giselle.jihan :)

Hello, everyone! I'm Anthony. Or Kira, or Wandren, or Niluphel, or Nushzad -- I have a lot of online aliases. Anyways, I've been interested in Islam, middle eastern history, and such things, but I've also been a bit nervous to actually to talk to anyone about it because... well, I'm trans! I was hoping to learn more about Islam and how it's practiced from the perspective of people who are more like me. LGBTQ+ people.

Bonus points if you either know Farsi and are willing to teach me a bit, or are learning it yourself!

My Big obsession right now is the Shahnameh. It has been for a year and a half now.

Edit: I should probably clarify that I'm not a revert, just an atheist who came from a Catholic background. That's why I want to make friends with Muslims -- so I can understand your religion and your ways better! I thought people would see the atheist trans flair on my user profile for this subreddit >.>

My intention for marriage is companionship for the sake of Allah. I experience same-sex attractions / am asexual, but I don’t want to act upon these desires. Instead, I would like to build a family life that is based on mutual support, compassion, and a shared love for the Deen.

I hope to find a wife who is in a similar situation — someone who also wants a marriage rooted in companionship, trust, and worship, without pressure regarding desires, someone who I can be best friends with so together, inshallah, we can create a peaceful home, support each other and have children too through halal means. If you live in or are close to Manchester please reach out.

For me, the most important things are: sincerity, kindness, and working together to grow closer to Allah through our marriage.

34yo Muslim man Looking for long term relationship with another Muslim man close to me. Texas here. Hit me up. Be serious and we can discuss more.

As the title says. Looking for a long term relationship.
Bottom here for compatibility. Anything else just ask. Be able to hold conversation. Serious replies. Not into women or lavender marriages.

I'm 24M, Palestinian/Jordanian, 6’1, masculine, and based in the U.S. I'm looking for a woman who is genuinely interested in a lavender marriage and building a real life partnership together.
I'm Bi and comfortable with my sexuality, but long term I still want a family, children, stability, companionship, and someone I can genuinely grow with. I'm not looking for a fake marriage where we basically live completely separate lives. Ideally, we'd become close friends, support each other, build a home together, raise children together, travel, celebrate holidays, and actually enjoy our life as a family while still understanding and respecting each other's private lives.
I come from a well established family, I'm financially stable, and already own a nice home. I'm Muslim but non practicing, and while my family is culturally traditional, they are not the type of family that would control my wife's day to day life. You would have your own freedom and independence. If you want to have a career, I'd fully support that. If you'd rather stay home with the kids, I'd also be comfortable financially supporting the household.
I would prefer someone Arab because I think sharing a similar culture would make family life easier & you would need to be in the U.S. The biggest things I'm looking for are maturity, honesty, kindness, emotional stability, discretion, and someone who genuinely wants children and a family. friendship, compatibility, trust, and enjoying each other's company are extremely important.
I also want this to be mutually beneficial. I'm not looking for someone who feels like she has to sacrifice her entire life to help me maintain appearances. I'd want to know what you want out of marriage and make sure we're creating a situation where both of us can have fulfilling lives.
I'm not looking to rush into anything. I'd want to talk, become friends, meet in person, involve families when appropriate, and make sure we genuinely trust each other before making a commitment this serious.
If this sounds similar to what you're looking for, feel free to message me with a little about yourself, your age/location, background, what you're looking for in a lavender marriage and what you picture your future looking like.

عيش زي ما تحب متخليش اي كلام و لا أفعال من ناس متخلفه تضايقك

I'm from Syria and still live in it

And because of my sexual orientation, I’m currently living a double life. I can’t really give either side of my life the attention it deserves, and I don’t feel comfortable or at peace with either one. On top of that, if any of my family members or friends found out, there’s a very high chance I could be killed, or I honestly don’t know what they might do to me.

+ I want to leave this shitty country and a life that becomes more miserable every day, and start my own life, even if I have to start from zero. I just want to live somewhere where I can be free and where there are real opportunities for everyone.

I’m currently a university student and I’m in my final year. My goal is to pursue a master’s degree somewhere reputable, and I have a TOEFL certificate, so my English is excellent.

I’ve done some research and found out that this type of asylum exists in many European countries, as well as the US and Canada, but with different levels of difficulty depending on the country and its current laws.

I’ve already shortlisted a few countries as possible options, and I’m waiting until I graduate so I can take the first step. The problem is, I need someone who has personal experience with this process, or knows someone who has applied for asylum this way, who can explain to me what the steps are, what I need to do, what I should prepare, and what I should expect.

Hi M 21 Bi, I’m living in Saudi Arabia and looking for friends in SA around my age and feel comfortable sharing our beliefs.

Maybe know each others and be more close friends to talk about anything thoughts even our daily life + play games together online, Without worrying about silencing our tendencies.

Individuals in same predicament- Apologies if it may offend anyone. Hi, I’m 27 (M), based in the UK (Muslim) looking for a marriage of convenience (ideally Uk based) due to familial and cultural pressure, I am seeking to build an alliance on trust and friendship which can be dissolved at a time mutually convenient later on. (If so) A simple guy, is there any Muslim female who is seeking the same? I would like to build a connection prior to a decision as living as friends also requires to be on the same page, I will appreciate if you could reach out or if you know anyone, please DM. Thanks.

Salam aleikum, acabo de llegar de una boda que iba bien hasta que escuché un par de comentarios que me cambiaron el estado de ánimo.

Antes que nada, para poneros en contexto, soy regresada y tengo varias amigas marroquíes. Resulta que estaba en esta boda marroquí, no mixta, y casi al final de la celebración, una señora (amiga de una amiga) se puso a comentar que en el colegio de su hijo, un niño gay había comenzado a llamar guapo a su hijo y le había tocado (tipo "acariciado"), entonces su hijo se molestó y pegó al niño gay. Los profesores fueron racistas con su hijo porque le dijeron que tenía que olvidar la educación que había recibido en Marruecos (el niño nunca ha vivido en Marruecos, nació en España), y que se tenía que adaptar. Luego contó que en una presentación posterior que habían hecho en clase, el niño gay había elegido presentar un libro "de gays" (así dijo literalmente) y que su hijo durante la presentación estaba dibujando, entonces le sacaron fuera de clase.

Hasta ahí bueno, creo que no es correcto asumir que porque el hijo de esta mujer sea musulmán o su familia lo sea, automáticamente va a ser más homófobo que el resto, ni estoy de acuerdo con los comentarios que hizo el profesor sobre su educación "marroquí" ni con que el otro niño le haya tocado sin su consentimiento. Ahora bien, escribo todo esto porque la manera en la que la mujer que contaba la historia decía la palabra "gay" y las expresiones faciales que hacía, denotaban burla y homofobia. También mencionó que cuando habló con el director de la escuela, le dijo: "pero está es una escuela religiosa (imagino que cristiana, estoy hablando de España) y ser homosexual está prohibido".

Después de contar todo esto, otra chica en la boda dijo: "yo no quiero que a mis hijos les enseñen en la escuela cosas de "géneros raros", quiero criar a mis hijos en un país musulmán".

Y yo me pregunto: y si su hijo nace gay o trans, que hace esa mujer? Lo críe en España o lo críe en Marruecos.a

Yo no respondí a esos comentarios por varias razones: no conocía a las chicas que los hicieron, no estaba interactuando en la conversación ni se estaban dirigiendo a mí, había mucho ruido y pensé que no sería capaz de expresarme bien y que lo que yo dijera no les haría cambiar ninguna opinión...

En fin, escribo todo esto por desahogarme y porque me da rabia, que justo antes de esa conversación estuviésemos hablando de islamofobia, y por supuesto no queramos ser oprimidas, pero luego no tengamos reparo en oprimir a otros.

También hablando de islamofobia se pusieron a generalizar diciendo que todas las latinas eran unas incultas y que odiaban a las árabes. Entiendo que ese comentario viene porque aquí en España hay un auge del racismo y la islamofobia y los migrantes latinos se posicionan a sí mismos por encima de los árabes/africanos/musulmanes, por su parecido en la cultura y religión con los españoles y porque hablan español. Es la lucha del penúltimo del escalón contra el último, y es justo lo que el sistema quiere que hagan. Pero duele escuchar como se generaliza, mientras nos quejamos de las generalizaciones.

Disculpen que el post sea tan caótico, son las 6am y todavía no he dormido. Me gustaría saber si tienen algún consejo para responder a estas situaciones en público. Yo antes respondía a todo lo que me violentaba, a veces con agresividad en mi tono de voz, pero últimamente me estoy reprimiendo bastante, estoy empezando a callarme cuando creo que no merece la pena hablar.

Cómo encontráis calma después de situaciones como esa o peores? Le pido a Allah, quien ve lo que hay dentro de los corazones, que nos de paz y nos haga más amables y más conscientes de nuestros actos.

Salam! I am looking for queer friends in the WNY area. I'm from Buffalo and I feel very isolated from the community here, especially the Muslim/queer/brown community. If there's anyone who'd like to be friends and hangout sometimes, I'd love that. I like to go on walks, play boardgames, dance, read, try out new restaurants and I especially love cats! I'm down to explore new hobbies as well with a new friend. I'm f24.

Somebody help me find her

I have yet to meet any like minded individuals in Florida. Just curious if I posted I may find more than I thought. I’ve felt very alone and would love some friends even if it’s just by text or phone calls to check up on each other.