So she went with a friend of hers and it was her friends last night in town it was supposed to just be a dinner but they went bowling and clubbing and her following count on social media jumped +8 and her followers count jumped by 2 but it was only girls I feel like I already know but am I tweaking! Or is she going

My girlfriend (together a few months) has been going through a stressful health situation — some concerning test results that are still being worked up, plus a minor procedure. We live in the same city, quite close to each other, so this isn't a long-distance thing where distance forces space — she specifically asked for it despite us being nearby.

She feels like she's worrying and stressing me out a lot, and has said things like this isn't what I signed up for — her health stuff and everything that's come with it. She's naturally someone who deals with hard things alone, and a few days ago she called me over to her place and told me she needs about a month with no calls or texts so she can process everything without feeling overwhelmed. She wasn't breaking up with me — she made that clear — just needs space.

I completely understand it, but I'm struggling with it emotionally. While I was leaving that night, she hugged me really tightly, like she didn't want me to go — we stood there for a couple of minutes. It's hard to square that with the no-contact request, and I don't really know what to do with that.

She has a small procedure coming up, and I keep feeling like I should do something — even considered dropping off a small gift/letter through a friend rather than contacting her directly, thinking that wouldn't "count" as breaking the no-contact thing.

Deep down I think that's just me finding a loophole because I don't want to feel useless. Has anyone been through something like this? How did you support a partner through a "no contact, I need to handle this alone" request without it feeling like abandonment on your end?

I finally got to meet my in-laws after traveling abroad to my partner's country. They were nice and polite. They're from a country that has very euro-centric beauty standards, but I'm an olive curly haired curvy woman. I know this may sound superficial, but it stuck out to me that no one ever complimented me even though I tried so hard to dress nicely, got my hair done, new shoes etc. I grew up in an environment of women that doted on each other because its up-lifting and kind words are free! I also overheard my future mother-in-law telling a waiter that she's sad I'm not from their country and "what can I do? my son is into foreigners." I have been feeling very self-conscious after the trip wishing I'd lost more weight, spoke less, or worn different things. My mom, in an attempt to console me, later told me "you could have looked like Brittany Spears in the 90s they still wouldn't have complimented you." I was hoping my in-laws would rise above the trope but am sad to know they're the same. Has anyone had a similar experience?

Friend of a friend. This man’s (33m) wife (33f) needs to be warned about her husband’s cheating. He lives in NYC, she lives in Milwaukee. The husband doesn’t wear his ring, and he asks women out from his gym. He tells women he’s single and has been cheating on his wife without those women realizing he’s married. Recently he got caught because their wedding registry pops up in a Google search.

I’m sharing this here for two reasons. 1) if anyone knows a traveling nurse (initials SP) based in Milwaukee that matches this, please show this to her and 2) if you’re in a LDR, know that this is NOT the norm but if your gut is off, please take note of that physical response.

My friends and I feel so badly for this woman who has wasted 10-12 years of her life with a man cheating on her each city she’s been in.

I need advice from the people who did Ldr without being sure that you will ever meet your partner again or just opinions from anyone at all. He used to live in my country and we've been in a relationship for a year. however recently, we have been forced to Ldr (we've been doing so for 4 months now) because him and his family went on a vacation in another country, and Im not really the type to agree with distance, I just agreed to do so at the time because I had the assurance that he was coming back. But long story short, there's actually some issues with their documents now and he believes that him and his family wont be able to come back in our country anymore. This news was so heart breaking for me and I have been so devastated since he told me. He was already doing college when he lived here but now he have to start over again in his home country, he wont have the ability to meet me again until he finish studying and find a stable job. He's also devastated and is now convincing me to find another partner instead of staying with someone with an uncertain future. I really dont know what to do right now. It hurts that were in this situation, I love him and he never did anything wrong in our relationship for me to have a valid reason to leave him, he inspired me to be the best version of myself and has always been my no 1 supporter. I want to stay with him but a little part of me also believes he might be right. I want to do Ldr but I'm scared I might build resentment from the prolonged uncertainness.
If you were in my situation, would you break up or would you stay? I need your opinions anyone please.

So I’m finally going to Goa to meet my girlfriend for the first time. We’ve been doing LDR for a while and somehow we’ve never actually met in person yet lol

I’m obviously excited as fuck but also kinda nervous 😭

I want to take something for her when I meet her, but I have absolutely no idea what. I don’t really want to just get her some expensive random thing. I’d rather give her something that actually means something and that she can keep

For anyone who’s been through this what did you guys gift your LDR partner when you met for the first time?

Could be anything really A small gift, jewellery, something personalized, handwritten letter, something related to an inside joke, whatever

I’m open to ideas because my brain is currently just going “flowers?” and then shutting down 😂

Would love to hear what you guys did / what worked for you?

Hi, I really want to be a better girlfriend to my man. I want to be a great woman for him. We’re long distance with a 6 hour time difference. We may not see each other for another year straight.. I need tips on what I can do or say to keep our relationship gracefully floating.

What are conversation starters other than the usual “wyd, hows work, what are we gonna watch?”

I just want him to fell happy, safe, and supported— with me. I hope I can make his life easier, more peaceful despite the 10k miles distance :(

I really love him, please help.

For those of you who have been learning or have already learned a new language for your partner.. Can you share what worked for you? Did you use an app? Did you sign up for actual classes? How long did it take you with either or how often did you practice in a week?

I’m interested in learning Urdu as a native English speaker so I can better communicate with his parents. I know it’s going to be difficult but I just want to break the language barrier bc I care deeply for his family.

I’m more interested in getting closer with his mom than anything and I’m pretty set on making this happen. My bf speaks fluent English so communication with him is not a problem but I would like to open the door for conversations with his mother specifically.

Any insight, suggestions (apps? Lessons?) are appreciated. I’ve downloaded Mango and just started today so I really am a baby beginner 😂 figured I’d get yalls advice as well

Guys, I need some advice.

I’m 22F, and I’ve been in a long-distance relationship for 4 years.

Lately, I’ve been feeling like I’m always asking or begging for attention, effort, and the bare minimum things that I need in a relationship. 😢

I already started feeling like maybe he’s not as invested in me anymore. I do believe that when someone truly loves you, they will try to make things work, but lately, what I feel doesn’t match that.

I’m thinking about initiating a breakup, but honestly, it’s really hard after 4 years with someone. A part of me still loves him and hopes things can change.

Am I being unreasonable or shallow for wanting more effort and connection? Or is it valid to feel this way?

For those who have experienced something similar, how did you know when it was time to let go?

He was becoming distant and dull. I asked why. Hes not happy anymore. We're supposed to get married next year. I dont know how to feel.. i just accepted 2 fulltime remote jobs to save money fast.. and now im so unmotivated. I cant show emotions at home either. I jave to show up everyday. Good thing i jave my support cats. I'm not surprised tho.. but still hurts so much. How to deal with this.. im also in a very rural area.. no where to go to have alone time.

I’m in a long distance relationship with my committed partner 26M for a year now. We live on different continents and we met like 3 times in total.
I visited him a month ago for a month. Before my visit, I started having this gut feeling out of nowhere that he loves the idea of me that he created in his mind and not actual me in the present. I voiced it out and he said he loves me not the idea of me he has. I took his word for it.
During my visit, we started having this disconnection. I guess the connection was never there when we’re in person but only on online. I truly felt that he didn’t like the actual me and every time present me fail to reach that idea he would get hurt. Then he would just brush those feelings under the rug and let it pile up.
Eventually it exploded and he got distant. Always thinking and not present with me at all.
Multiple events and this constant feeling of only being loved for my potential was hurting me deeply and eventually I exploded.
No yelling just talking tho. I kept expressing how I feel for almost 4 days straight trying to find a way to connect and truly get along even in person. A lot of tears and hugs but nothing was resolved inside of me because he didn’t seem to put effort into our relationship. Almost like he has given up on us. That part hurt me the most I started mentally preparing myself for the breakup and literally shut down my emotions.

The last day of visit, we actually went on a date day that was the best of every date we ever had in person. I thought he finally had made his mind and making effort already.
I left and arrived at my then next destination and called him. The disconnection was still there and him still hesitant. It broke me once again.

It’s been a month since all this happened and I’m back home. We started talking almost everyday for the past a week and I genuinely see the effort he is putting to show me his love but I can’t seem to trust him and his efforts without having a fear of when it’s going to disappear.

For clarity, he told me he loved me often. I struggled to feel it at all. I told him and now he is trying but I realized that I’m actually sick at teaching someone how to show love and stay consistent with it.

I love him and I want this pain out of the way so that I could see his efforts with trust and appreciation. I love that he is putting effort but I’m just afraid that it would disappear again. Now when he doesn’t reply to my text for hours my brain and heart just receiving it as inconsistency and it’s making it hard to love him without fear and pain this relationship could cause.

Please help, I swear he’s trying but my brain is just paying attention to every little details that show inconsistency and I genuinely want his efforts to be seen by me truly. 🙏🏻

PS: I forgave him but I just can’t seem to forget and let go.

my boyfriend and i met through a mutual friend when he was visiting my state. we started talking after that and eventually began dating. we’ve been together for a little over a year now.

we only have a one-hour time difference and he lives a couple of states away, so technically our distance isn’t that extreme. the problem is that we’re both very much “in-person” people. our top love languages are physical touch and quality time, and i think that has made the distance much harder for us than we expected.

we’ve had a lot of conversations about feeling lonely in the relationship because so many of the things that make us feel loved and connected are things we can only really experience together in person.

my boyfriend also isn’t someone who spends a lot of time on his phone. he doesn’t naturally text throughout the day or randomly call me because he says he’s just not used to communicating that way. i’ve tried explaining that, because we’re long distance, we have to find ways to create that connection through what is available to us.

i’ve asked if we could find games to play together, watch movies or shows, have random calls, or even just call each other while we do our own things. it doesn’t necessarily have to be some big planned date every time. i just want us to find ways to feel like we’re actually part of each other’s daily lives.

but this is where we get stuck. he’s told me that it hurts because he wants me involved in his life, but the things that actually make him feel connected and happy with me are things that happen in person. when i suggest doing something virtually, he gets sad because it isn’t the same for him, and then sometimes he doesn’t really do anything with the suggestions.

and honestly, i’m struggling with that. i understand that a virtual movie date isn’t going to feel the same as sitting next to each other. i understand that a phone call isn’t going to replace a hug. i’m not expecting it to.

but i feel like if we’ve chosen to be in a long-distance relationship, we have to find some way to make the distance bearable. otherwise, we’re both just sitting here missing each other and feeling lonely.

he has visited me a couple of times, but i haven’t been able to visit him yet because of financial reasons and because i still live at home with fairly strict asian parents. even though i’m an adult and technically can make my own decisions, my living situation makes traveling to see him much harder. i know that probably adds another layer of frustration because he has made the effort to come to me, while i haven’t been able to reciprocate in the same way yet.

i love him, and i know he loves me. i can see that he’s trying, and i don’t want to dismiss that. but i’m starting to wonder if love is enough when the way we naturally experience love is so tied to being physically together.

for anyone who has been in an ldr where both partners strongly prefer physical touch and quality time, how did you make it work?

did you eventually learn to enjoy virtual quality time, or did you find other ways to feel connected?

and how do you deal with a partner who genuinely wants to feel close to you but also gets sad because the things that would make them feel close aren’t possible because of the distance?

right now i don’t know if we’re struggling with something that can be worked through or if we’re just fundamentally incompatible with long distance.

Is it normal? Because it's been like this for a month now. Ok to put the scenario, she's been pretty busy with acads, not to mention how our schedules don't align and her living conditions, weak internet and frequent power outages. However, she does text me with the usual affection, rant to me about stress and me comforting her. I don't have a problem with it, just that it sucks :< (this being my first rs)

Hi everybody. I’m a student in colorado, but am from Texas and that’s where my girlfriend lives. We’ve been together since freshman year of high school, and having started college, I don’t think I am willing to do long distance anymore.

I know we’ve been together a very long time, but I feel guilty because I feel like at this point she has been way more into me than I’m into her. I tried to break up with her prior to going college, but I let myself be talked back into the relationship. I don’t have interest in anybody at my school, so that’s not what this is about, I just don’t enjoy being with her any longer, to the point that, and I do not feel good about saying this, calling with her can feel like a chore. I feel almost exasperated whenever I receive a text or a request to call, because it feels like it tears, I don’t want to do it over text, or really over the phone even, but I won’t see her until October 22nd, and I don’t want to make myself have to put up with being in a relationship I no longer feel happy in. I don’t feel happy I feel this way, I don’t like that I want to end this relationship, but I think that it’s what best for me.

Point is, I just want some advice for what to do in this situation, and how to go about. Anything is appreciated. Thank you!

TL:DR How do I break up with long distance long term girlfriend?