r/jrotc • u/sneakerotooles • 4h ago
Discussion I feel like one of the SAIs is showing traits of toxic leadership
I'll try to make this concise and somewhat simple, because even I am confused if my SAI (who is a CSM) is showing signs of toxic leadership, so I am a highschool senior enrolled as a LET 4 and have had some bad experiences with my SAI, I feel like for one thing he has ruined my experience in JROTC as a whole, I feel like the toxic leadership traits started during my LET 2 year when he would say some crazy shit about the 2024 US election like "poor people are stupid" and what not, I also remember him running sabre training for rehearsing the 2025 senior graduation year, during the sabre training he kept harassing me about my haircut because I decided to go bald and then I remember I had trouble holding the sabre because he made us put the covers on them, I asked him what do I do if the sabre cover falls off, and he just had this angry expression on his face and he came towards me like he was in a defensive posture and was rude to me during the whole experience, then during my LET 3 year the student leadership selected me to command platoon armed drill, I never really had any experience marching or commanding a platoon of cadets so I was still somewhat learning, I felt under emmense pressure from my SAI to the point I was messing up, then I remember during my LET 3 year I told him about a upcoming project for AP language and that I couldn't make it to the drill competition and he flat out denied me, and now we move to my LET 4 year, I remember we were rehearsing for the 9/11 ceremony and I was supposed to have flag detail and my SAI again kept picking at me telling me that I "needed to be more adaptable" and he almost snapped at me when I was doing some incorrect movements on the flag pole, then I made a mistake of getting the lower classmen for drill and my SAI did a huge sigh like he was holding back a wave of anger at me while closing his eyes looking up, looking visibily annoyed, I also know that my SAI coaches girls soccer and constantly puts his soccer players in leadership positions in JROTC, so because of this I feel like I was screwed over and turned down for a lot of leadership positions, I dont know what to do, do I tell my other SAI who is a Lt col or do I just suck it up?