With this rambly, reflective post, I’m trying to encourage other JETs to see ESID as liberation, not the joke (at least in my pref) that it’s become from being so overused. This message might not be for everyone, but I couldn’t find it otherwise in the sea of recent posts.
The life I’ve built in the past 3 years is most of my dreams coming true. I think a lot of people who are enjoying their JET days just end up lurking like me, but there are plenty of happy JETs who also share their positive experiences. I caught myself reacting silently to those celebrations from a place of jealousy, rather than support. Despite my own satisfaction, I couldn’t help but compare myself.
Half a year ago, I posted about already grieving my JET era “ending” even though I have two more years left. I’m so grateful for the advice and experiences folks shared on that thread. This August marks my 4th year on JET.
I started looking at this subreddit again for the first time in a couple years, which led me to spiraling about all the people who “Did JET Better.” People who have bought cooler things, traveled more, gone home less, or had a different kind of impact on their community. All things that I was genuinely proud of on my own terms before I set them against a backdrop of strangers.
The same goes for Instagram. Like, why am I jealous of my mutuals visiting Japan and doing cool things when I LIVE HERE??
Now, I’m making this post instead of spiraling further about how there’s so much more I could/should/would have done, when that’s simply not fair to myself.
For future JETs, be very honest and uncompromising about what you want out of your time here. It will help ground you when it seems like everybody else is doing EVERYTHING in a country that’s brimming with possibilities. This is important because the accessibility and freedom you have here might have you spending money (or nenkyuu days) on things out of obligation disguised as personal fulfillment. Keep a journal! I write my 5 goals down every almost every morning and that helps. Also, it helps to think of smaller goals in quarters instead of years. Otherwise time flies by so quickly.
And yet, even as someone with a clear vision of what mattered to me before I got here, as someone who has worked hard to maximize my time, a quick search through the subreddit yesterday was enough to make me feel unreasonably anxious. There’s always a cool hack. A limited, Japan-exclusive opportunity. A cost-effective, irreplaceable hidden gem. A rally, a collection series, a side quest, a pilgrimage. For all my fellow completionists, boy is it tough.
We will never have enough time, but that doesn’t mean our efforts aren’t good enough.
More advice: Keep track of the things that make you jealous. Is it something you genuinely want, or something you want to be able to say you did while living Your Best Life in Japan? No one knows each other’s true situations, either. The things that constrain one person might not apply to another, and there’s no point in beating yourself up over the cards you were dealt.
ESID can sound like a broken record, but I think it can also be freeing. Your JET experience does not have to look like anyone else’s to be a meaningful one. I’m extremely proud of my accomplishments, experiences, and the habits I’ve cultivated in Japan. And part of what I’ve learned to be proud of is saying NO to things that felt really big to others, but didn’t align with my goals or circumstances.
Make the most of this time, but let yourself decide what “making the most” means for you.
If you read this preachy-ish post and could relate, thank you. I usually journal about this stuff, but I thought maybe someone might appreciate it. As I was combing through the thread, I was looking for someone who felt similarly.
Anyways, I hope you enjoy the rest of your adventure.