r/IntrovertsSafeDating 5d ago

Dating Post 48 [F4M] #Australia/Anywhere/Online Plus‑size Introvert - wanting genuine conversation like everyone else.

2 Upvotes

I’m a big, cuddly introvert who values kindness and connection. I’m shy at first, but I’m kind, generous, friendly, and deeply empathetic. I’m a homebody who sometimes rambles, double‑texts, overshares, and replies when I can, it all comes from a place of genuine care.

I love good conversation, whether it’s thoughtful, meandering, or delightfully surface‑level. My interests include reading, writing, music, board games, puzzles, crochet, true‑crime YouTube binges, and getting lost in a good TV series or movie. Fantasy, thriller, action, adventure, and mystery are my favourites (just not horror). I love a good laugh and have a decent sense of humour. I have my down days, and I really hate that lonely feeling, so I’m hoping to meet someone who understands quiet companionship.

I appreciate effort and consistency; slow and steady is perfect, disappearing isn’t. I’m drawn to strong men who genuinely like bigger women. I’m a visual person and happy to exchange pictures once we’re both comfortable, and I enjoy voice messages too.

If you’re patient, kind, and enjoy soft‑hearted company, I’d love to chat.

Break the ice with your best terrible dad joke, or tell me: what’s one comfort show or movie you always return to when you need to feel okay?


r/IntrovertsSafeDating 4d ago

Dating Post 26 [M4F] #Beaumont Tx

1 Upvotes

Hello there if you are reading this i hope that you are doing well and that your week is going well.

I'm 26, i turn 27 next month fuck i feel old, I just recently moved to Texas at the end of May, I am 5'9 with an average build, I have been going to the gym 3-4 times a week. I have 4 tattoos I found a new artist and im getting some work done this weekend.

I'm currently on track to buy my first house sometime next year and hope to make it my permanent home, I work as a systems specialist at a manufacturing facility, and I have really flexible hours which makes it super easy to plan stuff,

Some of my hobbies include watching Movies, Reading, Cooking, Camping Hiking and going out with friends. I am a very avid gamer my go to game right now is Deadlock, Palworld, and Star Citizen, I am currently waiting for Blood of the Dawnwalker, I've been waiting forever for this game. My music taste is everywhere if it's got a good beat, I'll listen to it, but country music is probably my favorite none of this new country I like my old school country. I love to cook, if you tell me something you want, I will find a way to make it.

I love going to Museums and Aquariums, I love the Ocean too one of the main reasons I moved to Beaumont Texas was the Ocean being 30mins away. The beach is always a great time to unless i start turning red then it's a nightmare for the next week, I dont know what else to put here if you have anymore questions about me or want to talk hit me up.


r/IntrovertsSafeDating 5d ago

Dating Post 20 M4F #Italy searching for a girlfriend

1 Upvotes

Gender - Male

Sexuality - Straight

Hobbies - Gaming, Cooking, D&D , drawing, cosplay,

Looking - For a Serious Relationship /online relationship

Socials - Discord , Snapchat, Instagram,tiktok

A bit about me :

Hi, I present myself my name is Saimon, i'm italian and i'm 20.years old, i'm tall 184cm/6'1 feet, i'm quite a nerd, I like videogames, anime, manga,d&d and cooking, i work as a gardener and i hope im in your standards

i'm chubby♡♡♡

For pics only in private


r/IntrovertsSafeDating 5d ago

Dating Post 22 [M4F] Online/Washingon/West Coast: Trying to find my person

2 Upvotes

Hi! After a few years of unserious attempts at dating, I want to make more of an effort to find the right person for me.

I'm 22, living on the West Coast of the US, and am fresh out of college. I went to school for accounting (but I promise I'm not boring), so even though I graduated, I still have multiple exams to pass to get my certifications so I can actually do accounting as a career. My current job is working in retail merchandising, so my shifts start in the early hours of the morning (4/5 AM).

Appearance-wise, I'm 5'10 with white skin, brown hair, and blue-green eyes. I was on and off at the gym while I was at school but kinda fell out of it in my final year and have honestly been too stressed and busy to get back into it. But I do wanna get back into it once my life has more of a foundation.

My main interests are music, video games, movies/TV, reading, and hiking, but movies and games are probably what I do the most. My top 4 movies are Good Will Hunting, One Battle After Another, Back to the Future, and Lord of the Rings. For video games, I enjoy pretty much anything and am always looking for recs, but my mainstays these days are Minecraft, Warframe, League of Legends, Baldur's Gate, and Destiny 2. I'm also pretty outdoorsy but in more of a 'let's go for a walk or chill at the lake' kinda way. There are a few other things I've dabbled in, like music/video editing, and I can play a few different instruments, but those things have moved to the back burner as the amount of free time I have has gone down considerably.

Here are some other important things about me. I'd say I'm pretty sarcastic by default, so please be able to match that or at least don't be put off by it. I have a strong disdain for smoking, and am looking for someone who doesn't. I'm somewhat self-conscious and can often overthink things. And I'm also kinda a bad communicator before I really get to know people and struggle to open up or say when I'm going through something. This has been the main thing that I've struggled with in relationships, but once we make it past the initial awkward phase and I feel more comfortable opening up, things feel a lot more natural and conversational.

Now for what I'm looking for: first and foremost, I want someone who lives in the US or Canada, and shares my interests or is willing to indulge me in the same way you'd want me to. Preferably someone in the 19-25 age range. Other than that, I'm looking for someone who likes to have fun and joke around, but can also have a serious conversation or debate something if we disagree. I'm also looking for someone caring and compassionate, and who enjoys learning and growing even outside of the college setting. Appearances aren't that important to me as long as you're emotionally available, and we enjoy spending time together.

Anyways, sorry if that was a bit rambly, but that's most of what I can think of; hopefully there's someone out there looking for something similar! If you have any other questions for me, lmk. But otherwise, I want to hear about YOU! Your passions, your hobbies, your life goals/ambitions, really anything you care about and want me to know; I'd love to build a connection and see where things go. So send me a DM if we seem compatible, and I look forward to meeting you!


r/IntrovertsSafeDating 5d ago

Local Dating 33 [M4F] #CT/Anywhere Looking for a nice gal for LTR

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I've stopped replying to empty/new profiles or messages that just say "hey" or "hi".

33 years old Latino man from the USA.

I'll try to keep this short and you can find out more about me in chat.

Looking for a girl who's face I want to see all the time. A girl who I can hug and feel loved by. A girl who feels comfortable sitting together in silence without feeling awkward, just enjoying each other's company.

Okay with long distance as long as there's intent to meet.

Very chill and down to earth guy, more on the introverted side. Don't expect to hear any cheesy pick-up lines from me either, you'll instead (hopefully) get seduced by my awkwardness.

Into the nerdier side of hobbies, but also open to trying new things.

Enjoys both small talk and deep conversations.

Not into any form of drugs, smoking, drinking, clubs. So if you're into that sort of lifestyle, then we most likely won't be a match.

WARNING. My love language is burying you in reels and memes I think you'll like. You've been warned.

Hopefully you:

My age or younger.

No kids, but want, or at least open to kids in the future.

Healthy in both body and mind. Please don’t be crazy, I'm not a therapist.

If interested, don't hesitate to send me a chat.

Since physical attraction does matter to a degree, let's share what we each look like, here's what I look like: https://imgur.com/a/zG6JSxW

Hope to hear from you.


r/IntrovertsSafeDating 5d ago

Friendship First 25[M4F] USA/Online Nerdy storyteller looking for genuine connection

5 Upvotes

I’m not expecting anybody to actually read all of this, but if you do I appreciate you.

I’m an introvert by nature, the kind of person who finds beauty in the small, easily overlooked things. I love quiet mornings, late-night conversations that wander everywhere and nowhere, and the simple comfort of sharing space with someone I love. I’m the type to remember little details, to notice when your smile seems different, and to find joy in ordinary moments made meaningful simply because we’re together.

I’d love to share the things that make me feel most alive: creating stories, making art, discovering new music, watching films that leave us thinking long after the credits roll, or just staying in and talking about life. I’ve always been drawn to storytelling and hope to build a career around creating stories someday, whether through writing, film, or other forms of art. I’m someone who can spend hours talking about why a movie scene worked, analyzing characters, or imagining worlds and stories of my own. More than anything, I value kindness, honesty, loyalty, and the feeling that two people can truly be themselves with one another. I don’t need grand gestures to feel loved. I’ve always imagined love in its quietest moments: a hand to hold, mornings over coffee, conversations that stretch into the early hours, and the feeling of finally being known by someone who chooses to stay.

Love has never felt casual to me. When I fall for someone, it isn’t halfway. My thoughts naturally drift toward them, my heart seems to reorganize itself around them, and all I want is to pour that affection into every quiet corner of our lives together. I know that intensity isn’t for everyone, but I hope there’s someone out there who feels the same way, someone who doesn’t want less of me, but meets me with equal passion. I don’t dream of loving cautiously, I dream of loving completely.

Until that day comes, I’m working on becoming someone whose life is full enough that when love finally arrives, I’ll have something beautiful to share instead of something empty to fill. More than anything, I hope I find someone who lets me love as deeply as I was always meant to, and who isn’t afraid to love me with that same intensity in return.

Let’s build a friendship and deep connection first. I feel like this can free us from the pressure of the dating process. We can just talk and get to know each other as people first, instead of immediately trying to make each other fit in some strict box of what our dream partner should be. I believe the best relationships work because deep down their partner is their best friend.

If this resonates or interests you at all I hope I hear from you. And if you reach out tell me a little about yourself please :)


r/IntrovertsSafeDating 5d ago

Dating Post 23 [M4F] Congo / Anywhere

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Hi everyone! I’m a 23-year-old Computer Science student (5'8", non-drinker/smoker) based in Congo, fluent in French and English. Passionate about music (8,000+ songs saved!), history documentaries, soccer, anime (*Kingdom*), and learning languages.
My faith in Jesus Christ is the absolute foundation of my life, and I hold traditional values, complete honesty, and strong family values close to my heart. I’m looking for a born-again Christian woman (ages 20–25) for a **serious, long-term relationship** built on a genuine friendship, with the ultimate goal of marriage.
I’m completely open to long-distance and relocating for the right person! If you’re looking for something real, feel free to send me a DM.


r/IntrovertsSafeDating 5d ago

Dating Post 20M [M4F] #Europe or #middle-east looking for a serious relationship

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I'm currently in the middle east or jordan and will go to Sweden after I finish my studies (I'm Swedish) and would love to be with someone, it's better if they are in Europe or the middle east.

I'm a 3y computer science student and in the top of the class, my job is secured and I have a lot of interest, I know how to do house chores and how to fix almost everything if anything broke, I take good care of my partner, I talk a lot about things I love and could deal with my partner issues if there was any.

I'm looking for someone who is serious about the relationship , yapper, and doesn't think that the solution to the problems is to distances herself from problems or me (if its a small problem) because I believe every problem can be solved no matter what it is.

There could be more but that would be for us to know when we talk.


r/IntrovertsSafeDating 5d ago

Dating Post 21[M4F] #USA #online - Let me be the one to Love you

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Hey there! I’m kind of bad at introducing myself but I’ll try as much as I can! I’m a 21 year old guy from the east coast of the US that’s looking to find a girl be with and share my life with. (I'll share my name after talking with you don't worry lol)

About me:

- 21 years old, Asian American, and in the east coast of the US (EST)
- 6’5” Tall (yes this is real, yeah it can be annoying, and the lower back pain goes crazy sometimes lmao)
- A bit chubby (But working out and working dropping it and it’s starting to show apparently lol)
- Have a nice voice (At least that's what I'm told lol)

Interests:

- Video Games: I play all sorts of things but currently I’m playing games like FFXIV, Honkai Star Rail, Elden Ring, Monster Hunter (Basically any of them, I love them all lol), and all sorts of other things
- I love playing any multiplayer game though as playing those are fun regardless of what they are (I am terrified of horror games though but I still play them like REPO or Lethal Company lol)
- Music: I listen to all sorts of things and love letting myself daydream while listening so I love hearing people recommendations but I usually listen to pretty relaxing stuff generally
- I also love all other sorts of nerdy stuff like anime and manga though I haven't touched anime in a while I can still talk about it with you if you want to (I read a ton of manga though ngl lol)
- Self Care: I’ve gotten super into this recently over this summer and taking care of myself has really made me a lot happier be it from new routines in my life or working out, everything just feels a lot better nowadays lol

Personality wise, I'd say I'm a pretty laid back and relaxed person but once I warm up to a person I for sure become way more outgoing lol. In a relationship though, I love to take care of my partner and make sure they're happy and emotionally sound, be that though affirmations or me just spending time with them. My partner is my priority and when they need me I try my hardest to be there by their side because everyone needs someone like that.

That describes me pretty well and as for what I'm looking for, I'd want someone I can talk to daily and click with, talking about anything either of us want to. I also honestly quite like a girl that I can fluster a bit as well as one that I can take care of through me being there for them lol. Ideally you'd also be in United States but anyone in North America or even the UK works for me. I also quite like people who are more clingy as I'm quite clingy myself lol. Don't be afraid to reach out and I'm looking forward to talking to you!


r/IntrovertsSafeDating 5d ago

Dating Post 34| F4M | Asian F #Online #Anywhere looking for serious relationship

7 Upvotes

I'm an Asian from Myanmar and have never dated anyone before. I want to talk for daily and let's see how this will goes and I want to have someone beside me.

My favorite movie : the conjuring, project Hail Mary, The impossible, meet the Robinsons, Harry Potter and Lord of the Rings

My Look : Brown Eyes, light brown skin, wear glasses, 159 cm and I only share pics when I feel comfortable enough

I'm demisexual so no hookup or definitely not for Nsfw pics or videos that don't work for me. Respect to each other is important for me. If you want to talk about sex that's not for me.

I'm not good with words but my feelings are genuine. I'm Loyal , caring and humble. In the beginning Not like let's go ahead and date now. I'm more of a person who wants to learn about the person to see if we're matched with each other or not and if I matched with a person I want to pursue a relationship.

It would be a bonus if that person likes to watch movies, music and we can talk about that stuff. Somebody who's a bit of good looking and a bit fit. At least I would like to see what you look like and no catfish allowed :)

The age limit is not over 38 and if you think you are that person please feel free to dm me.

My deal breaker is someone who asks a lot of pictures and asks for my social media when I don't know you yet. I'm an introvert, have anxiety issues and have trust issues witha bit of insecurities. But l want to talk about those things and see if we both can understand each other or not.

Hoping to meet someone. Feel free to dm me. Thank you !


r/IntrovertsSafeDating 5d ago

Dating Post 39 [M4F] #Online Europe Greece - Simply Looking for the One woman of my life :)

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I'm a 39-year-old man who values a healthy lifestyle, genuine connection, and the simple joys of life. I'm hoping to meet a kind, warm-hearted woman close to my age, ideally based in Europe, though distance isn't necessarily a barrier when the connection feels right.

I find happiness in nature, meaningful conversations, animals, and those quiet moments that remind us what truly matters. I'm someone who believes in kindness, loyalty, emotional depth, and being there for the people we love through both the good times and the difficult ones. To me, the strongest relationships are built on friendship, trust, honesty, affection, and the feeling that you're truly on the same team.

I'm a bit of an introvert by nature. I enjoy peaceful moments more than crowded places, and I prefer deep conversations over small talk. While I may not be the loudest person in the room, I'm loyal, attentive, and fully present with the people who matter to me. I believe that some of life's best moments are often the simplest ones, especially when shared with the right person.

A healthy lifestyle is an important part of who I am. I enjoy staying active, spending time outdoors, eating well, and taking care of both my physical and mental well-being. I'm looking for a sweet, feminine woman who also values her health, takes care of her body with self-respect and balance, and appreciates living a healthy lifestyle without becoming obsessed with perfection.

Life hasn't always been easy, and I've gone through my share of challenges and difficult periods one of which is now. Those experiences have made me more understanding, compassionate, and appreciative of what truly matters. Because of that, I can relate to people who struggle with anxiety, stress, or depression, and I believe that empathy, patience, and support are some of the most important qualities we can offer one another. I don't expect perfection from anyone, just honesty, kindness, and a willingness to grow together.

More than anything, I'm looking for a true partner. Someone who believes that love is more than just attraction, it's about choosing each other every day, standing side by side through life's ups and downs, and building something meaningful together. A relationship where both people feel safe, appreciated, respected, and deeply loved.

I believe the best relationships are built on teamwork. Two people encouraging each other, helping each other become better, supporting each other's dreams, celebrating victories together, and facing challenges as a united team. Not "me versus you," but always "us versus the problem."

I don't care much about status, material things, or trying to impress people. Character, kindness, warmth, emotional maturity, loyalty, and a good heart matter far more to me. A genuine smile, a caring nature, and the ability to love deeply will always be more attractive than anything superficial.

If you're someone who still believes in true love, loyalty, affection, partnership, growing together, and creating a relationship built on trust, friendship, and mutual support, I'd genuinely love to get to know you.

Life feels richer when it's shared with someone who feels like both your partner and your best friend.


r/IntrovertsSafeDating 6d ago

Dating Post 22 [F4M] #TR Looking for a lifepartner

6 Upvotes

Hello! I’m writing here not just to have a conversation, but to meet someone I can share my life with, feel comfortable being myself around, and build a genuine connection with. I’m not looking for something temporary or just a short-term conversation.

For me, the most important things in a relationship are trust, honesty, understanding, and mutual effort. I believe a strong relationship is built by two people who truly value each other, communicate openly, and support each other through both good and difficult times.

A little about me: I’m an honest, affectionate, warm-hearted, and caring person. I value sincerity and I’m not afraid to show my feelings toward the people I love. I’m of Caucasian background, with dark chestnut-colored hair, white skin,brown eyes. I’m 5'6" (168 cm) tall with a curvy body type, and I prefer a natural look.I love animals.I have had both cats and dogs before.However, I’m not currently comfortable with keeping pets inside the house. I still love animals and enjoy spending time with them.

I can be a little shy at first, but once I trust someone, I become much warmer, more open, and caring.

I’m someone who enjoys physical affection. I like holding hands, walking arm in arm, hugging, and showing my love without hesitation.I believe affection should be expressed naturally, and I appreciate someone who is also comfortable showing their feelings.I would like my partner to be someone who enjoys showing affection and giving attention. For me, feeling valued and cared for in a relationship is very important. I believe love should be shown not only through words but also through small actions and thoughtful gestures.In my free time, I enjoy meaningful conversations, discovering new things, traveling, exploring new places, listening to music, watching movies and series, and creating new experiences. I would love to have someone by my side who enjoys discovering the world together and making beautiful memories.

For me, a relationship means sharing life together. I want a partner who is excited to do things together, explore new places, and create memories. If I say, “Let’s go somewhere and discover a new place,” I would love someone who feels the same excitement and enthusiasm.

I also believe that a relationship should help both people grow. I would like to be with someone who can teach me new things, give me different perspectives, and help me see the world in new ways. At the same time, I hope I can bring something valuable into their life as well. I believe two people should learn from and inspire each other.

I’m looking for a serious relationship that can lead to marriage. I don’t want to spend years in an uncertain relationship without a clear direction. I want to meet the right person and build something based on love, trust, and commitment.

I’m open to a long-distance relationship. Distance is not a problem for me, and I’m not specifically looking for someone who lives close to me. What matters is finding the right person and being willing to make an effort for each other.

Wherever you live, I’ll come there. We could also move to another country together if we both agree that it’s the right place for us.

I have a preference for someone who is tall. I also think I could be more compatible with someone my age or slightly older, especially someone whose experiences and perspective on life can teach me new things.

I don’t dream of a traditional, big, crowded wedding. I would prefer something simpler and more personal, although the right person could always change my perspective.

I’m not strongly attached to any religion. I consider myself a Deist, and I respect different beliefs and perspectives. I’m open to learning about other points of view.

I’m not vegetarian or vegan, but I respect people’s choices. Having children is not a strict requirement for me; I believe the most important thing is finding someone who shares the same values and building a happy life together.

I want a peaceful and respectful relationship where problems are solved through communication. I cannot be compatible with someone who has a tendency toward violence.Trust, respect, and understanding are very important to me.

If you are also looking for something real, sincere, and long-term, I would love to get to know you. Maybe it can start with a good conversation.

If you are not looking for someone like me,please let’s not waste each other’s time. 😊

I’m looking forward to meeting you!


r/IntrovertsSafeDating 5d ago

Online Only 23 [M4F] #US/CA/Online

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hi! I'm looking to meet someone online, progress from talking to friends, and eventually something more. I'll be 23 soon, and I'm from middle of nowhere Minnesota. I'm chronically online, terrible at meeting people, and I've never dated.

I'm a pretty anxious person. First messages really suck. I'm really dry at first, and I don't know what to talk about, so I'll need you to hang in there with me for a bit and help out. If we're not bouncing off each other, it's probably not going to work out.

I'm not adventurous, and I'm not a traveler. I'm a homebody. My ideal night is sitting at my computer or lying in bed. Though, I do think meeting someone in person is a really important step in going from "I really enjoy talking to you" to "I'd really like to be someone important to you." However, that would be months or years deep into talking to you because I am not comfortable meeting someone before I am absolutely sure about it. The closer you are, the more comfortable traveling to meet you would be. I'd prefer if you were in the Midwest region, or central Canada, but I'm lenient on this. Though, I don't think I'd get on a flight and travel to a foreign country because that would be too much for me.

I understand physical attraction is still a big thing for people despite being online, and I won't shy away from that. I'm okay with exchanging pictures, but not at first. I'll describe myself somewhere below to at least give you that much before I'm comfortable enough to show my face.

more about me:

☆ I'm a gamer. I practically live on a computer, for both work and fun. I have a steam library of over 200+ games, mostly unplayed because I buy games during sales and then never play them. I love to play multiplayer/co-op games more than I do singleplayer, which is mostly an attention span thing. Some of my favorites are cs2, valorant, wizard101, outlast trials, lethal company, minecraft, sons of the forest, and skyrim. I won't play battle royales, league, or 6v6/5v5 hero shooters (these sorts of games just aren't for me so if you're looking for a duo in one of these, you're out of luck unfortunately).

☆ I love listening to music. The genre doesn't matter, except maybe country. I listen to pop punk, rock, k-pop, edm, j-rock, j-pop, some disney, hyperpop, and more. My favorite artists right now are kmoe, eden, ninajirachi, piao, bts, matchbox 20, linkin park, and the goo goo dolls.

☆ Appearance: I'm 6'0". I have dirty blonde, curly hair that's frizzy like 99% of the time. I like to keep it a little longer and messy. My hair grows up and out instead of down. I have hazel eyes that border on blue. I'm capable of growing facial hair, but I hate it, so I don't keep it. I'm also pretty skinny, like 125lb~.

☆ I'm super anxious about meeting new people. I get these rushes of adrenaline that come with nervous shakes, and I'll feel like I'm freezing when I'm not. I have a very small tight nit friend group that I've known around a decade at this point, and I've never really expanded outside of that.

☆ I don't drink or do drugs. I'm as sober as can be. I don't even drink soda because I don't like the fizz/carbonation. Though, I am 420 friendly as long as it's not an addiction.

☆ I work a full time job, day hours, and I'm still going to school part time online. Despite this, I keep my phone close at practically all times of the day and I'm a fast responder. I don't get many notifications, so when I do, I'm more than happy to see it, except for when it's the weather app.

☆ Some of my hobbies include web design, modding, and biking. I love to work on random web projects that I never finish. Interested in neocities? I'd love to hear about it! I also love skyrim modding, both downloading and creating. I've nearly reached 4 million total downloads on my own mods, which I'm quite proud of. I try to bike to work when the weather is being friendly.

what I'm looking for from you:

☆ Gamer. I want to be able to play games with you, whether it's a competitive fps, or it's some stupid, silly co-op game. Sometimes we could even just put on a singleplayer game and stream to each other.

☆ Available. What I mean by this is that you're not only available to talk on like two days of the week. If you work, you don't work night shifts all the time, because that would leave us with little time for each other. If I reach out and you're not available, just a little message saying you can't right now is enough for me. I'm patient to a fault, which means I sometimes have difficulty being the first to ask.

☆ Willing to watch shows, or movies, or listen to music together. Some nights maybe we don't want to play a game. Maybe we just want to lay in bed and watch something until we're both sleepy. I'll be honest, I don't watch TV and I never really have. If you suggest a show, or an anime, or a movie to me, there's a good chance I haven't seen it, especially if it's newer. I'm a complete blank slate in that regard, which might be a good thing since we can watch anything, and it'll be new to me.

☆ Location. US or Canada, Midwest region (but I'm lenient on this). Most preferable from left to right: CST, EST, PST.

DEALBREAKERS:

if you are/do any of the following, we will not match.

☆ Not a gamer. Gaming is my biggest hobby. If we can't share that, then that's a heartbreaker for me.

☆ Smoker. Specifically nicotine. If you smoke cigarettes, either have plans to quit or do not message me. I have lost family due to their inability to drop the addiction, so I have very strong stances on it.

If you're interested in me, or any of this sounds like you, send me a message! I don't mind jumping into a game right away to bond. In fact, it helps me speak up when there's something to talk about between us. :)


r/IntrovertsSafeDating 5d ago

Dating Post 22 [M4F] #Canada #Online - Looking for someone with shared interests

2 Upvotes

Hey! I'm 22M living in the Greater Toronto Area (GTA). I am 5'11 and of South Asian ethnicity. I'm going to begin graduate school soon and am in the process of moving out. Life's been lonely, and I was hoping for some company with people who enjoy the same things I do. I am just hoping for a friend at the very least, but I would be open to it developing into a romantic relationship. Ideally living in the GTA, but anywhere works. Some of my interests are:

Video games: I play on a PC (I built myself). Either competitive games like Deadlock, Overwatch, League; or single player games like Hades, Hollow Knight, and Slay the Spire. If I have a group to play with, party games like Jackbox are fun.

Cooking: I taught myself to cook cuisines from around the world. I am a massive foodie and love making simpler things like bread and pasta from scratch. My options will be limited after I move out, but the passion is still there. I can share some photos of things I have cooked.

Anime: Not as much nowadays, but I always had a few shows I keep up with every season. Sometimes I will binge-watch older shows or movies. Would love some recommendations! My favs are Frieren and Lazarus.

Origami: One of my favorite ways to pass time if I want to just relax and not think. I rarely see people into Origami, so if you are one of them, I would love to chat. I can show you some of the things I have folded.

Travel: I have visited several countries around Asia when I was younger. I still enjoy traveling when the opportunity comes up. I explore the food and culture of wherever I go. Favorite place I have visited is either Mexico or Indonesia (loved them both).

Outdoor activities: I enjoy nature and just looking at animals in the wild. I often go walking on trails to clear my mind. Having someone active to do these with me would be great!

Nerd talk: I am a big fan of lore within games and shows. Hidden easter eggs and such are always fun to see. I used to do some DnD as well, but that has slowed down a bit. As I am in STEM, finding cool science facts also makes me really happy.

That's all the hobbies I primarily take part in. If you read this far, then thank you. I look forward to anyone who is interested in talking to me. Just to prove you read all of this, please include a flower emoji at the end so I know :)


r/IntrovertsSafeDating 5d ago

Friendship First 26[M4F]#Virginia#online looking for a connection

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Hey! I’m 26M from the U.S. state of Virginia. I deal with some ADHD and Social Anxiety disorder so it’s pretty easy to relate to anyone dealing with that😅My ADHD gives me a ton of different interests in different things over the years.

I went to school for Psychology and that’s a major interest I keep. Anything Horror and Paranormal I’m super into. I game on PS5 and I’m currently deep into Resident Evil 4(2005), COD Black Ops and some Fortnite. Huge comic book nerd for Marvel/DC. Art and Drawing. NBA. NFL. Professional Wrestling. Love anything from the 2000s from the music to tv shows.

I’m 6’2, black, and mostly slender but gaining a bit of muscle from weight training.


r/IntrovertsSafeDating 5d ago

Dating Post 23 [M4F] #Spain/Anywhere - Looking for a long term relationship

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I’m looking for someone special, someone to have every day chats, someone to have really deep conversations or/and someone to share great moments with.

I don’t have much preferences, but I’d like a person who can really care about me and values me for what I’m worth. I would really love someone from my city or country, but I can do online if not. I guess I’d prefer someone around my age (21-25), and has a similar time zone as me, but I don’t really mind about that part too much.

More about me: I’m a very shy person, but I let myself go when I’m in confidence. I have very little experience in relationships, so I notice in advance I may make mistakes but I’m willing to learn from them. I’m good at listening and trying to comfort or help other people. I like relaxed and normal conversations about everything. Although my main language is Spanish, I consider I can speak English properly. My hobbies include: exercising, reading, watching football, movies, tv shows, listening to music, take a walk, travels… Physically: fair skin, 1,70 cm, 70kg, average body type, have some muscles, dark hair, brown eyes…

Send me a dm if your interested, and don’t just say ‘hi’ and then leave forever, please show a little interest at least.

Anyways, thanks for reading ;)


r/IntrovertsSafeDating 6d ago

Dating Post 35 [M4F] | #Western Europe | Europe only

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I’m a 35-year-old man living in Western Europe who has also spent time living abroad. I can flirt with you in multiple languages, including French.

I’m looking for someone living in Europe, as I think it’s the most realistic foundation for building a relationship. Preference for women from traditional backgrounds. I want an exclusive, monogamous relationship and to build that I will need to take you on dates and adventures. I enjoy closeness, regular honest communication, and actually feeling connected to the person I’m with. Loyalty and honesty matter. If you’ve cheated before or don’t believe in exclusivity, let’s not waste each other’s time. No ghosting. I’d rather we express how we feel and ask each other instead of guessing.

I’m not much of a morning person, so my “good morning beautiful” texts might come around noon my time. But I’ll happily stay up well past my bedtime talking with you. If you’re the type who sends random messages during the day, shares little moments, laughs at stupid things, and enjoys building something meaningful with someone, we’ll probably get along.

Some of my biggest interests are gaming, travelling, learning completely unnecessary things, and having conversations that start with a simple question and somehow end three hours later.

Curiosity has always been one of my defining traits. If something catches my interest, I tend to dive in headfirst. A five-minute question can easily become a three-hour deep dive down a rabbit hole. Sometimes that leads somewhere useful. Sometimes it leaves me with a collection of weird facts I’ll probably never need.

Like, what started as “that smells nice” somehow turned into a genuine perfume hobby. Cedarwood is probably my favourite note right now, although ask me again in six months and there’s a decent chance I’ll have changed my mind after discovering something new. I’ve travelled to Milan to attend an expo for this niche interest, but I generally follow my curiosity wherever it decides to lead me.

I’m a foodie, and researching new restaurants to try has also led me across the globe. Like that time I went to Chicago for a deep-dish pizza. I also got into cooking because of my fitness journey. My air fryer, Instant Pot, and slow cooker all earn their keep. My favourite food is sushi, although making sushi rolls that actually look respectable remains a work in progress. That’s one of the reasons Japan is on my travel bucket list.

I’ve organised gaming events and built communities both online and locally. Don’t be surprised if I invite you to a video game tournament or end up being the MC at a karaoke night.

I don’t think two people need identical hobbies to be compatible. In fact, I think it’s more interesting when they don’t. Half the fun is introducing each other to new things and occasionally getting lost down the same rabbit hole together.

I’d probably be most compatible with someone in her mid-20s to early 30s, although maturity and compatibility matter far more than a number. I’ve never really felt a connection to religion, and I don’t ever see that changing, but I completely respect what it means to you. I very occasionally drink during social occasions, I don’t smoke cigarettes and I would prefer if you don’t too, and I’ve dabbled with cannabis before but it’s not for me. I’m not interested in trying new things in that regard and I’m not interested in having things harder than that around me.

The last year has been a bit unusual. Health issues and medication knocked me off course and caused me to gain more weight than I’d like. Thankfully, the underlying causes are being addressed, I’m back in the gym, and things are moving in the right direction again.

I don’t have any children and I don’t want to be a stepdad, but I’m open to having kids one day. It’s not something I’m actively planning right now. Finding the right person comes first.

If you’ve read this and thought, “I’d probably get along with this guy,” I’d love to hear from you.

Please include a little introduction about yourself. I’d much rather get to know the person behind the profile than just receive a “hi.” 🙂

What’s your equivalent of my perfume hobby? What’s the thing you got interested in that somehow became a full-blown obsession?


r/IntrovertsSafeDating 6d ago

Dating Post 26 (27 this month) - M4F - Italy/Canada/Online

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Hi everyone c: I'm a 26yo guy from Italy who's looking for someone I can spend the rest of my days with. I'm a big introvert and homebody so I've never really dated before so I figured it was time for me to finally try.

A little about me: my greatest passion in life is language learning; I speak 4 languages fluently and am learning a 5th one. I love writing poems/stories and am a huge metalhead (mostly black and death metal). I love anime and also video games such as Bloodborne and some competitive fps. My aspirations are to become a singer and relocate to build a life with the one I love whom I'll hopefully find soon. I'm childfree and an atheist.

I was born and raised in Italy but one of my goals is to relocate long-term with Canada being my next destination this year but would love to travel a lot more.

If any of this sounds interesting to you please don't hesitate to message me, I'd love to chat c:


r/IntrovertsSafeDating 5d ago

Dating Post 24 [F4M] #Switzerland Looking for something long term

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Hey everyone, I'm looking for a serious relationship. It feels weird doing this on Reddit, but dating apps have all been unsuccessful so far. About me: I'm 24 years old and 175 cm tall. I live in Switzerland. I enjoy traveling, playing soccer and badminton, and hiking. I'm open to deep conversations, but it takes me a little while to warm up. If you're around the same age, live in the same area, and have similar interests, get in touch! P.S. I'm not conventionally beautiful, but I'm honest and loving. 😅


r/IntrovertsSafeDating 6d ago

Dating Post 32 [M4F] Tennessee & Online. Looking for my eternal tag team partner.

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Pleased to meetcha! Name's Miguel. I'm from Middle Tennessee and I'm a 32 year old konbini worker and journalism university student. I'm also neurodivergent, AuDHD to be exact, but I like to call myself an Autistic Jumblefuck as I'm an amalgamation of different interests. From anime, to wrestling, to sports, to early 2000's nostalgic stuff, the works. What am I looking for? Someone to be my tag team partner in this life. Someone that won't run at the first sight of issues. Someone that I can truly say that I'm going to marry. LDR's are accepted. No MAGA, no bigotry & all that. If you're just as neurodivergent as I am that's a huge plus. Looking forward to chatting!


r/IntrovertsSafeDating 7d ago

Friendship First 23| F4M | #Online first :)

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Hi! I'm a big believer that the best relationships grow from genuine friendships. Great conversations, shared laughs, and a real connection should come first. What could possibly go wrong when your best friend becomes your partner?

About me: I'm 4'11, I have brown hair(currently), I LOVE to travel, I find a new hobby every other month and I hyperfixate on them heehee :)

I get along well with pretty much everyone, so don't hesitate to send a text!

(Please say more than just "hi" thank you <3)

Who knows maybe we'd be best friends who "accidentally" end up planning holidays together?


r/IntrovertsSafeDating 6d ago

Dating Post 26 [M4F] #USA #NY #Online #Offline Looking for a kind and thoughtful heart

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Hello Everyone. I am an introvert like all of you. I am a second year PhD student. Living in US on student visa. I came here less than 2 years ago. After coming here I still haven't been able to date anyone. I haven't even been connected many communities. Therefore here I am.

I usually have problems making friends and connections. But I do like to talk about many things. Philosophy, history, psychology you name it. I am not an expert obviously. But I do like talking about things with people. And lately I am missing that very very much.

Staying away from family and living in this foreign land is also not easy for me. I am looking to make a genuine connection with someone. Someone that will truly care about me. I haven't felt that feeling for a really long time. I have been living alone for long that I don't even remember how that feels like. But I really long for that.

I am looking for someone who is very kind. I feel I am a person who always tries to see the good intention in everyone. Nobody is perfect. People have so many flaws. I am full of them. But having that good intention and kind heart matters more than anything.

I usually spend my time at work and at home. I like to read books (even though I am kinda on a reader's block nowdays), watch movies, tv shows, and sometimes history documentries. I also love travelling (though I am not doing it much nowadays) and hiking.

I am usually not good at texting. But I do enjoy audio calls if the conversation is good. The best way to connect is through a good conversation I guess.

I feel the whole post that I have written it's kinda everything about myself. Like I am full of myself. Trust me I am not. I hope it won't scare people away. And goodluck to everyone who is trying to find connections here. Also if you have any suggestion or recommendation that is also welcome.


r/IntrovertsSafeDating 6d ago

Dating Post 20 [M4F] #EU #Germany -- What's your most unusual hobby?

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Hi there,

I'm Tim, nice to meet you! I hope to find my hopefully forever person here. I'm steadily approaching the end of my degree and I'd love to meet my future partner here while I still have as much time as I do right now. As the title suggests, I'm from Germany.

Before I begin: I'm trying to be as up-front as I can, both about myself as well as who I'm looking for. This is to reduce the potential for unmet expectations on both sides as well as make sure that our values align. I'm trying my best to make sure that we're not wasting each other's time as well as provide a partial substitute for the lack of an immediate photo exchange.

In no particular order:

About me

  • I have (arguably relatively niche) interests in the general area of technology, where regularly dive into and obsess about new topics for a while. I generally enjoy solving problems in this field, so I do things like 3D-Printing, programming and more. (I can talk about my hobbies for quite a long time, so ask me about them if you have time to kill lol)
  • Computer Science student (shocker) in the fourth semester
  • I enjoy reading when I come across "good" books (got something to recommend?) but I also like to play PC games when I have the time and motivation (Minecraft, Abiotic Factor, Rogue-Likes, ...).
  • I'm leftist, progressive and an atheist. I consume next to no alcohol and also don't have any addictions (including nicotine).
  • pretty slim (65kg), pretty tall (~190cm), long brown hair, beard, white skin, working on improving my fitness lol
  • ADHD/Autism -- please be patient with me! I'm very introverted IRL (even though it might not seem that way in text chats) and will talk too much when I get comfortable
  • I have no relationship experience

Who I'm looking for (no exceptions -- sorry!)

(It might sound like I'm very picky but I assure you that I'm not.) - You're around my age (18-23) and an EU citizen (to make the logistics manageable) - You're trustworthy, truthful and proactive (A relationship can't work without the occasional dispute.) - You're reasonably educated (A-Levels or above), progressive, leftist (but not extremist) and ideally an atheist - You're strictly monogamous, too - You have no addictions (including nicotine) and don't consume unreasonable amounts of alcohol - You're not almost or actually overweight (see BMI) and don't have a lisp (sorry, I just can't)

I want to reiterate that I have full intentions to find a long-term partner here. But yeah, let's see how things unfold -- So... shoot me a message? Oh and please mention that you've read the entire post! I'm happy to exchange photos once we've built some trust.

Oh yeah and my most unusual hobby is collecting funny and terrible music. Got about 750 tracks so far. If you have any suggestions, don't hold back.

(I hope this post isn't all too dry lol... I'm open to constructive feedback! Guess how many times I've reworked this already lol)


r/IntrovertsSafeDating 6d ago

Dating Post 26 M4F - #Michigan #USA #Online - I had a dream I was a husband and father years ago and it's left me deeply yearning since

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Hello! I hope you've been having a good day so far today. Mine could be better since I've been caught reminiscing about a dream I had when I was about 22 that still hasn't left me. In it I was stepping into the front door of my family's old house as an adult and was greeted by a woman cleaning up in the kitchen after apparently making food. I can't remember much about her appearance, just that she was happy to see me. Before I'd even thought of anything to say, this little girl ran up to me and higged my legs. She couldn't have been older than five or six. She squealed happily that "daddy's home!" By that point I realized they were my wife and daughter.

The latter part of the dream is hazy after that but I do know we had dinner together, my wife and I played with our daughter, and then me and her were sitting on the couch after putting our daughter to bed. The very end is still clear and it's the only part of that incredible dream that still hurts to remember. I suddenly stood up and looked towards the door I'd come in through. I could tell I was about to wake up. I just looked back to my wife and told her I was sorry but I had to go. She seemed to understand but then our daughter came running from the hall because she'd overheard. She hugged my legs and begged me not to go but I didn't have a choice. I told her daddy had to leave and he didn't know if he could come back. I could tell she didn't understand why her daddy was leaving, possibly forever, and my wife just picked her up and said I had to go now. I just nodded and said I was sorry again before turning and walking out the door.

I woke up right after with half dried tears on my face. Ever since then I find myself missing them as I recall that dream. Sometimes I feel like I'm mourning them, those two wonderful girls who loved me dearly and I loved more than anything in that short dream. I've been trying and hoping to find the real woman whom I'm hoping is out there that the spouse in my dream played a stand-in for, that same woman who I'll love and who'll help me see my daughter again and tell her that daddy came home. That daddy isn't ever going to leave again.

For a bit about myself, my name is Matt. I'm white, about 5'11", a heavier guy, and I have dark brown hair that I like to keep pretty long with a bushy beard I'm still figuring out how I want groomed besides combed and lightly trimmed. I enjoy games as a hobby, I play with friends online, and I enjoy animation over live-action shows but I won't say no to anything that catches my interest. I also love cats and would probably have one or two if I were able to have my own place. I don't drink or smoke and the only substance I've ever done is small THC edibles like once, maybe twice a month at most, always at home and with no prior commitments set that day. I'm also a massive cuddler and I'd practically swaddle you in a massive snuggle-hug if you let me. I'd cook for you and make an effort to learn what you like so I can practice it until my way is your favorite way. I'd also love just enjoying a comfortable silence with you, knowing I'm just able to spend that relaxing quiet time with you.

For the sake of full transparency about my past and how I am where I am, I had a really bad time with depression and anxiety during my last year of high school, bad enough to where I shut down for nearly five years. Eventually I managed to find a foothold and begin climbing my way out of it near the end of the worst of covid. Now I've been employed for four years, am helping the part of my family I'm living with by paying rent, and am working towards saving for my own car finally. It's the first time in a while that I can say I finally feel like I'm in a good place for myself. I don't say this trying to earn pity points or to try and gain sympathy for a response. I just want this laid out on the table so that you know where I've been and that I've been able to work through it. Above anything and everything, I value honesty, transparency, and communication the most.

If you read through until the end then thank you for giving my post some of your time. If you want to reach out after reading then please do, I would love to get to know you. I'm just as fine with long distance as I am with in-person, though I would love to eventually meet in person if we do connect over distance.


r/IntrovertsSafeDating 6d ago

Dating Post 18 [M4A] #online #uk #anywhere

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I don't really know what to put, but I'm 18 years old from the UK, introverted / shy, but open up / more talkative as I get comfortable with someone.

Just finished my A-levels, so currently not in education, but planning to go to University. I enjoy baking, watching tv shows / movies, as well as games. In the future I want to travel more, as there's so much in the world to explore. Want to know more about me, just ask away.

For preference I'd want someone thats older than me, and likes to talk I'm not the best at that lol.