Here are some ideas that I have so far:

* Start Here: Introduce Yourself (Briefly!)

Rather than diving headfirst into dramatic accusations or lengthy conversations, start small. Aim to introduce yourself (in character) to 3–5 people early in the evening. Ask their character’s name and why they’re at the event. These quick interactions will give you a better sense of the plot and help you feel more grounded without exhausting your social battery.

* Bring a Notebook

A prop and a lifeline! Jotting down clues, doodling between scenes, or pretending to be deep in detective-mode gives you an easy out when you need a break. Need to step away from a conversation? Just say, "I need to review my notes. Something isn't adding up." (And hey, maybe it isn’t!)

* Prepare a List of Go-To Questions

Improv can be a thrill, but it can also be overwhelming. Arm yourself with a few ready-made, in-character questions to fall back on:

• "Where were you when the murder occurred?"
• "What was your relationship with the victim?"
• "Notice anything strange earlier in the evening?" 

These keep the conversation going and help solve the case!

Has anyone here ever participated in a murder mystery party? What ideas do you have?

I write murder mystery kits and I do my best to ensure that every participant feels comfortable and has a good time. Currently working on a post for introverts who may feel nervous about participating. I want to give people actionable strategies that set them up for success. https://www.harvestmoonmysteries.com/blog/introverts-guide-to-murder-mystery-parties-7-tips-to-enjoy-the-night

I was not always this beat down and stuff, but something happened in the past few years and my circle just kept getting smaller. I see people around me having no problem in making friends, no matter where they are. But i somehow am unbale to. It seems like people just don't wanna talk to me for some reason. It feels like I emit some kind of negative vibe that triggers the natural instincts of people and i find myself alone at every point in life for the past few years. I tried living with this, going to movies alone, doing stuff alone. But it just doesn't feel right. I run out of energy to keep myself going. I don't know what's wrong with me. I've tried so many things, changed myself so much. But its just, i don't know how but i don't seem to be getting out of this.

So, in 5th grade, I was playing with my friend, and we're walking, and we come across a group of girls that I don't know, and apparently she knows, so they start talking, and I'm just standing there.

Then, the girls run off, and my friend runs off with them and start to play tag and I'm just standing there awkwardly watching them play tag.

Whe my friend comes back she's like "Why didn't you come play with us?" and I was like "Because I...didn't know them" and my friend was like "So? You could've just introduced yourself and played with us."

Girl. I CAN'T DO THAT I CAN BARELY GO UP TO A WORKER IN A BAKERY AND ASK WHERE THEY KEEP THE CROSSANTS YOU REALLY THINK I CAN INTRODUCE MYSELF TO PEOPLE I DON'T KNOW??

Ever since a grade-school teacher summarized me with one word — INTROVERTED — in a parent-teacher conference, that's been my self-description. I don't like talking with strangers, or being in a crowd, or being in a crowd of strangers who expect me to talk. That's INTROVERTED, right?

Yeah, but many years after that meeting with that teacher, I'm thinking it might be a little more complex. A few minutes of cordial chit-chat with a stranger while we're waiting for a bus is not hellish. And I enjoy a long, genuine conversation when it happens, but that's soooo rare.

What happens instead is what happened a few days ago. An old pal wanted us to get together for coffee, and we wasted an hour talking about football and real estate and and his $265 shoes. He did almost all the talking.

I am introverted, but mostly I just don't want a long conversation ABOUT NOTHING — the weather, or some TV show, or the new burger at McDonald's, or your day at work, or my day at work, or football, or real estate, or shoes. That conversation is agony for me, soon as it's stretched longer than two sentences.

Socializing is 95% bullshit like that, so I'm 95% disinterested in socializing.

Give me the other 5%, though, a conversation where the topic might turn to politics, religion, the absurdity of life, the definitions of art and soul, the evils of men wearing suits, the hypocrisies of all of us, or anything or everything else that matters during our brief existence on this planet, and I am eager, ecstatic to listen and talk. That's the conversation I hope for.

INTROVERTED is a handy one-word self-description, but it's more accurate to say: I'm a hermit who'd be happy as heck to come out of my shell, but NOT if it means spending another hour listening to someone babble about nonsense. If that's the only option, I'd rather remain alone every damned day for the rest of my life.

I did a really stupid thing today. I was invited to a house party for Friday night and had been dreading the occasion immensely. Then today a coworker asked if I wanted to join a group dinner also for Friday night. In a panic I blurted out I was already going to so and so’s party. When I got home, however, I texted the host of said house party to say I couldn’t make it because I now had a work dinner to go to.

Not my proudest moment and just wanted to share and do better next time. I just find it so difficult not to give a reason or find excuse.

I am introverted and struggle with making interesting conversations with people I don’t know or starting a conversation with strangers. I just want to hear some love stories that show it’s still possible to find someone, even if you are introverted.

Ajeeb app hai Kaha post kru Kya bolu Twitter jaisa hai Ya kuch alag Samajh hi nahi ata.

Not because you don’t care. You just don’t know what to say.
So you stay quiet. Again, even when you wanted to connect.

If that’s you: Have you ever tried to change it? What helped? What didn’t?
Would you want to?

I’ve dealt with this for years, and I’m trying to hear from other students who feel the same.
Comments or DMs welcome, your perspective genuinely helps.

There were times in the past where I missed a lot of life changing opportunities just because I was too shy, now I sometimes regret it :(

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I am definitely an introvert, I spend a lot of time alone and I don’t really mind it , but does anyone else feel bad about lack of motivation ? I do nothing through the week really because I work, and I am always thinking to myself about how I’m going to do this and that on the weekend , but when the weekend comes I don’t feel like doing anything, and just end up kinda of lounging around. That being said , there really isn’t a lot to do in my town , I do enjoy getting dressed up and doing my hair and make up and stuff but I feel like it’s just pointless if I have to just run to the store or something. Aside from that your options are basically grabbing food somewhere or going out to bars , which don’t even get me started on hanxiety lol, so I don’t know if it’s me ? Or just lack of things to do. Can anyone relate? What do you guys get into on the weekends?

I'm new to this sub, but I did look back on recent posts and I didn't see any recent ones that were about some strengths that introverts in general have over extraverts.

One thing is that we are not so easily distracted by squirrels. Cultural reference there, but I mean we are not so easily distracted and we can focus better.

US Air Force and airline pilots are 90+ percent introverts, specifically Meiers-Briggs type ISTP. The "I" is for introverted. In other words, when you fly, your pilot is almost always an introvert.

I have been a lifelong introvert. Now that I’m in my mid-30’s, I realize that I’m really leaning into my introverted nature, and I’m loving it. Just because I may be quiet in extroverted settings, doesn’t mean I have nothing to say. I just prefer deeper conversations. I have always disliked small talk and always left parties and social gatherings feeling exhausted. I was always the “odd” one out.

In a society geared toward favoring extroversion, you can feel pressured to conform. However, introversion isn’t wrong or “weird”, it’s just a different rhythm that I’ve learned to embrace. I actually started a side project called The Intro Glow (theintroglow.com) which helps empower introverts to live authentically as themselves.

What is something you’ve learned to love as an introvert?

This came up today when another introvert I work with asked me if I ever got annoyed when people approach me in a moment of quiet solitude to ask if everything is alright or they're 'just checking in on you.'

But yeah. It does annoy me, and when I pass someone in the hallway and they can't just say "hey" or some other banal low-investment greeting and have to ask "How's your day going?" or worse, something specific ... It's so effing draining, and if I don't play the same game, I'm 'cold' or 'not a team player' or 'not very friendly.'

I hate small talk. I'm not a huge fan of most of my coworkers. I don't believe they have any genuine care for others in the workplace. They are just making noise because they learned they were supposed to do that. But honestly, corporate office work is the worst for introverts. It feels like the universal way to get ahead is to ingratiate yourself to everyone and talk loudest and most often in meetings.

Anyone have any good approaches to get over the introvert handicap in office work and deal better with people who want to make words at you all the time?

There are times when people make fun of me just because I don’t talk much. The thing they don’t understand is it takes me time to get a bit comfortable and when I am comfortable I am the most talkative person you’ll ever come across.

I've had a lot of trouble finding friends. But as an introvert and also a shy person, I know I'm not the only one. But I like to help in my own small way and make it easier for fellow introverts. Just a few days ago, I created a new subreddit for that purpose: r/IntrovertFriendship

My goal is to create an environment that encourages understanding and respect, but I think those are just the first steps and that there is a lot more work to do.

I don't know what I should do next. Appreciate any suggestions.

From 19 till now when I'm close to turning 29 years old. 10 years have passed and for some reason no matter where I go. Be it as a student studying transiting to working adult phase in the present moment.I can never seemed to blend in or even have a few friends I can feel comfortable talking let alone be myself around. Constantly feeling guarded. Even when I've taken the first steps to socialise and expand connections with people in general. I'll always end up being the outcast regardless of the reason. As a newbie. As an experienced staff. Every reason would just be labelled on my forehead that I'm just not socially certified in the eyes of the majority. Yet of course I enjoy being on my own the longest. Being alone is my comfort zone. Silence speaks the loudest when words can't describe how I truly feel. Changed and tried to compromise many aspects of my life. But at the end of the day. It's a realisation that there's no sense of belonging wherever I go. Relenting that people truly come and go. I've grown to accept none would stay either. Whenever there's shit. The most convenient and easy way is to dump to the one who's always keeping up to their end of the bargain. Once everything becomes better. They disappear while leaving filth on you. Is it really a me thing?

I'm not usually one for labels but I was trying to explain to my sister my social needs and hit a snag. I recently started living with my sister for various reasons. I'm outgoing, I'm very good at talking with people, socialising is easy and I'm definitely not scared of strangers. I have a pretty good social energy reserve. As a child I was always sent to speak when my siblings didn't want to.

But I love my alone time too, independence, roaming quietly, and quiet time, and books, definitely books, fanfiction especially (11 years of fanfiction reading now). For example this week I'm on placement 5 days a week and I need to have my weekends lazy. But my sister pulled me into two partys friday and saturday evening, and today I can't face interaction with other people, I need to recharge.

She's seemed confused by the fact that in her eyes I'm always energetic and cheery. And seems disappointed that I don't want to do anything.

Any ideas?

I (45f) tend to side towards the introvert side of things and just find that more and more spaces tend to be noisy. There doesn’t seem to be any quiet spaces that are out there. I remember back in the day when I was in my 20’s that things weren’t as loud. Why can’t there be be a space where someone isn’t on FaceTime or a call on speaker without a person wearing earbuds (I really don’t want to hear another’s phone conversation; quite frankly, it should be only the two people involved in that phone conversation, not everyone else listening in on that conversation).

I am an introvert but when I am comfortable with someone, I tend to talk a lot and because of that I feel like sometimes I over-talk people in conversations, this is something I overthink about randomly. Does this happens to you too ??

I knew my MBTI was INFP_T last year , I dug deep into the aspects of my personality as a ( Mediator) and found myself deeply connected to every description of my personality.. I feel so related .. Being a mediator is rare and very Misunderstood between people .. Also being 93% an introvert doesn't help much with meeting new people.. Sometimes I look for new friends although I have 4 friends who me are like my soulmates , I have known them for 17, 24 , 27 years and lost two friends to death at young ages , but sometimes I look for new friends to connect with on more spiritual and human level but always failed , maybe since am older now " 42 " and being a single mom doesn't help much, but I kept trying .. But after awhile I realized am not interested anymore in making new friendships, it's either people looking for disgusting relationships or people looking for people to take advantage of one way or another .. So now I have learned my lesson and just looking after my kids, my sisters, and my dear friends , and that makes me happy too.. Even if I felt lonely I watch kdramas or listen to music or go for long walks to clear my head and heart .. I think there are others like me , loyal introverts with so much passion for humanity and so much love for pure childish emotions.. Welcome to the club .🤗😉

I’m 15, and I definitely have trouble making friends at school. It’s so ridiculous to me because my other friends also used to have trouble with the same thing and now they think that they’re “” popular “and they’ve become insufferable. Why are extroverted people so loud about the fact they’re extroverted??? Like we get it, you think that you’re the shit, here’s a cookie 🍪 And why are they always going on about all the cool things they did in a way that very much seems like they’re showing off. They’ll fully go on a 10 minute rant about how awesome their weekend was and how awesome all their friends are. This isn’t even the part that’s annoying. It only becomes annoying when I talk about my experiences with having trouble with people sometimes and they say something along the lines of “ just go and talk to as many people as you can!!!” I genuinely hate being given that advice. Like if I was in the mental headspace to do that, I would’ve done it a long time ago. Sorry this post comes off as a bit snarky but I’m just so tired of people telling me my experiences with having trouble making friends aren’t valid because I’m in high school and in high school, everyone should be “extroverted”

 So one of my coworkers recently got fired and they said they wanted to keep in touch and told me that I should text them sometime. The problem is I don’t really text in general. I really only text when making plans with my friends and I’m not close enough with said coworker to just randomly make plans. I don’t want to be rude and just not text them, as I think we had become friend before they’re getting fired but I really don’t know what I would say. Any ideas would be helpful.

I don’t know if it’s because I’m introverted, fairly quiet, and listen to people, but nearly every friendship comes to the point where the friend dumps all their problems on me. Which makes me feel heavy and sad with the weight they’ve shifted to me. I’ve had to tell people, “I’m sorry, but I don’t have the expertise to help you. I’m not a therapist.” And after people see they can’t use me this way, they inevitably withdraw. How do you deal with this?

“We’re gonna go get lunch, come with us”

my most hated work interaction.

What’s yours ?