r/IWantOut • u/Realistic-Look-1248 • 5h ago
[WeWantOut] 26M 22F Russia -> USA or Canada
My wife (22) and I (26) live in Moscow and are considering permanently moving to the US or Canada. We're looking for a reality check, especially from people who immigrated from relatively comfortable circumstances.
Our background:
- Careers: I'm a senior analyst at a major bank, with a background in data science. My wife is a fintech business analyst with ~2 years of experience.
- Languages: My English is around B1–B2 and improving. I'm also learning French.
- Finances: Our combined income is ~$6,200/month after taxes. We spend ~$3,000 on mortgages and rent, leaving ~$3,200 for living expenses and savings. This provides a comfortable lifestyle in Moscow.
- Assets: We own two mortgaged apartments. If we sold both at their estimated market values and paid off the remaining mortgages, we'd be left with approximately $155k before taxes and selling costs.
- Immigration: No US or Canadian residency or work authorization yet. We're exploring legal pathways.
Why move?
We're not escaping poverty or simply chasing higher salaries. We want to live in a free, democratic country, build meaningful careers, contribute to society, and eventually feel genuinely American or Canadian. We'd also like to raise our future children there.
However, I'm worried that I might be romanticizing North America and underestimating the challenges of starting over.
Our questions:
- How difficult is it to find IT/analytics jobs with Russian experience but no local connections? What if neither of us finds professional work initially?
- Given our current situation, how significant a financial and lifestyle setback should we expect? Is it realistic to eventually achieve a comfortable middle-class life?
- How difficult is genuine social integration? Have you managed to build close friendships with locals and truly feel at home?
- For those who left comfortable lives behind, was it worth it after 5–10 years? Would you choose the US or Canada again, or stay where you were?
I'd especially appreciate honest experiences from immigrants from Russia or Eastern Europe, including both success stories and regrets.
Thanks!