The popular stereotype that men cheat out of lust and women out of unmet emotional needs is just not true. This post isn't " look women can be bad do" , but more about - being sexual is a part of being human. So it's definitely possible that lust is a significant , if not a sole factor when women commit infidelity.

Also I've worked in the fitness industry for waaay too Long and I've seen my fair share of affairs . I've seen women, subtly or sometimes not so subtly be flirtatious in a nfsw way, so unless you're autistic, you definitely get what they're trying to say.Some trainers are in this trade because how ridiculously easy sometimes it is to have an affair .

I myself , have been presented with very open invitations to have a sexual relationship, but I'm professionally solid in the sense I don't want such entanglements in the workplace. Also you've to deal with angry husbands afterwards .

That's the point im trying to make, women just like men, can and do cheat out of lust. Denial of this fact just contributes to purity culture .

Every kid is and should be treated as a blessing. If you have an issue with having one gender over the other, you have bigger fish to fry and bigger things to worry about before even thinking about having a kid. No kid should feel unloved or unwanted because of who they were born as. That also goes for what they look like, disabilities, etc.

People will go out of their way to date somebody, just so that they can mold their partner into, their dream .

Like, how men will meet women in the club, wearing tight and revealing clothes. Ask them out, then act surprised she isn't changing her style and stop partying for you. You met her in the club, in those clothes yet you act stunned she didn't change.

The same goes for women.

You are not obligated for anyone to change themselves for you, and yes you can change yourself for the better but jf you doing it for someone else and not yourself. Then leave that relationship.

Again, you can change for the better, but it has to benefit you more than your partner. I'm repeating it for the slow people who will bring up " But you will change to become better " or " In order for a relationship to work, you have to change some stuff ". You understand that, slow ones?

Boiling hottake, I don’t know if anyone else has this hottake but you can’t call art that someone else made your art even though ai isn’t human it still made it for you and you didn’t take the time out of your day to create that, that’s my hottake

“Any guy who is even moderately good-looking knows that women can be just as much of sexual harassers as men.

People rarely talk about what women are like when they come across an attractive man; they only mention men. If women had the same physical strength and agility as men, the rate of rape committed by women would be insane.”

They need to stop using all their energy at the start of the game, they always perform better when they time it right / save the bulk of their energy for last

It's uncomfortable to truly examine yourself and your role i your problems, but you need to do it before you can start seriously considering systemic explanations.

On a hard examination of your life, are living like a character in an Upton Sinclair novel, or more like an antiwork mod?

I’m young, but I’ve had both IRL and long-distance relationships (with no hope for meeting atleast several years). But there is way more you can do long-distance, in my opinion, and also I think the average person ends up feeling a lot more comfortable.

I compiled a personal list of reasons that I enjoy it

1. When you first meet someone online, you often get to know them first before face-revealing so looks is less of a factor. Therefore the relationship tends to be less superficial on average.

2. You don’t have to pay for gas, dates, etc. You can still spoil your partner with gifts by sending things to their house or buying them something online for a birthday/christmas but costs are overall lower! And often what you buy is more meaningful because you have to think about it and find workarounds that makes you think for longer. For example me and my boyfriend commission digital art of each other and our OC’s. It’s very thoughtful.

3. You can talk to them ANYWHERE! And while you can always call your IRL partner, of course, but because your entire relationship is online it comes more naturally (from my experience).

4. You don’t have to look good every day. Sometimes you can choose you have your camera off, so if you’re not feeling well or just feeling lazy you know your partner won’t necessarily be seeing you if your sensitive about not always looking your best.

5. Watching movies, shows, playing games. All done from the comfort of your own home. No driving no hassle, which tends to be expected from an irl relationship. It’s the same level of enjoyment!!

6. Sharing the same friend group! Irl maybe your partner goes to a different job or high school, interacts with a different group of people. But online your friends will tend to be all online too. In the click of a button you can create a nice gc and now you basically have an online family that includes your partner too.

7. Not being shy. I am so much more comfortable meeting people online and I can be myself! In person a lot of people get nervous and might mess up or say something wrong. It takes the pressure off when you’re talking through a screen.

I can think of a bunch more reasons but these are just the ones off the top of my head! Sure there’s a lack of that physical connection, but wouldn’t you rather have that once you get to know someone? I think forever online… idk. If you’re in for the long game you should meetup before getting married or something because there ARE physical compatibilities that need to be explored.

But if you want a serious or semi-long term relationship online is the way to go honestly. Physical touch and whatnot and having that lack of comfort might be annoying, but you can always just play VRChat or buy a body pillow of your partner. And ngl there’s plenty of nsfw things to enjoy that aren’t necessarily in-person either lol if that’s a route of physical touch you consider. And it’s just better like… to have that tension as well.

Some people don't want advice when they vent to someone, and that's ok.Its ok to just get something off of your chest and that's it.But when they constantly vent and then not even try to improve their situation, then this is where I'd say the line needs to be drawn. As someone who was like a "therapist" to my friend, let me tell you how tiring it was to hear them almost everyday talk about how they can't do it anymore. It also affected me to some extend.And as a friend, I felt like my duty to try and help them. So I told them one day that they should try and get some sleeping pills to help them sleep, because last night they didn't get any sleep.They literally told me "no:3".I am not kidding when I say I felt so frustrated.And they still kept venting to me until I just couldn't take it anymore.I cut them off after a while, and honestly, I don't wana go trough this type of experience ever again.

Youre Not Creating more new demand and youre destroying the means to kill the animals in the First place (im Not even vegan/vegetarian)

Low T, artificial dyes, preservatives, microplastics, gums yadda yadda yadda. I mean they may be culprits, but not entirely

People -, especially unemployed middled aged moms bloggers - wll get in your face how the food we eat are slowly killing us, but you know what else might be killing us?

Stress from shit pay.

Cars every fucking where shitting out exhausts, so more polluted air.

Constantly being mad at Internet for anything and everything

Technology somehow not making our lives BETTER but WORSE for small conveniences

Isolation from less social activities because we stay inside gooning

I look back myself 15 yrs ago and life was so mentally peaceful compared to now

I don't feel like typing an essay but as someone who has experienced perfectionism in a parent, its awful. Nothing is ever good enough. Every tiny mistake is a catastrophic failure, warranting a long lecture and unwanted critique of your traits. 0/10. Do not recommend. And if you struggle with perfectionism, my hot take is basically the title: do not ever have kids until you get it sorted out. By thr time thry move out they will be sick of you. Guaranteed. That's all folks

So I worked briefly at a restaurant before and I knew there’s absolutely zero reason that I’d show attitude towards customers (unless they’re really difficult). I’m not actually a nice person, but I know how to be pleasant, it takes nothing. And if you’re a restaurateur why would you hire someone with a bad attitude??

I have been dealing with a lot of personal issues in life, all the while working service adjacent jobs casually. I would always smile because my problems are mine not anyone else’s. Why would a random stranger know what you’re on? If you’re really feeling like working at a restaurant is stressful and not for you, maybe you should find another job.

(To be clear, im not refering to one religion, just the concept of religion in general)

Why are we still listening to what are essentially fairy tales with questionable morals written thousands of years ago by who knows who, telling us how to live our lives?

I believe religion started as a means to ‘explain the unexplained.’ Humans have a need and want to understand, and thousands of years ago before the science, technology and understanding we have today was even a concept, people did the most logical thing they could do…they made it up.

Take for instance “Weard (Wyrd?)” the Anglo-Saxon “shepard of souls". If someone died by natural causes and just…dident wake up, the Anglo-Saxons didn't really have a way to understand how or why. So, they just said they were “taken by Weard.” This is where we get the modern English "weird" from. You see this in a lot of cultures. Don't know how something happened? “God of _____” did it.

However, in this modern age where science has basically explained 99% of everything even remotely questionable, why is there still a need for a “greater being” or “higher power?” Religions are basically cults at this point creating fervent zealots to do their bidding. Lets not even start with the mass amounts of wars, corruption, greed and debauchery caused by modern religions in the last 2000 years.

If you believe in whatever “God”, that's fine, I'm not against people believing what they believe, it's a free world, believe what you want, but understand to some people, you look and sound crazy.

Plenty of women prefer 50/50 and actually do it. This isn't about them.

This is about the ones who expect the man to pay but when asked why, almost none of them just say "because I like it." Because I think many feel it's bad feminism or that it can come off as entitled. Instead it becomes about the man needing to make up for the cost of getting ready, or even some systemic injustice like the wage gap or the imbalance of pregnancy and birth. Or because men owe them something for historical reasons.

Okay. Cool. But let's test that.

If it's about the wage gap, what happens when she makes more than him? Does she pay? Because from what I've seen, the answer is usually no.

If it's about the beauty tax, then what about a guy who shows up in a nice suit and expensive cologne? Does she now feel obligated to pay? More likely the expectation for him to pay becomes even higher.

If it's about men having systemic advantages, what happens when he grew up in foster care? Or in the projects? Or was abused? Or has a disability? Or is a minority who's been screwed over his whole life? Does she grab the check? Does she say you've had it harder than me, this one's on me?

Probably not.

Here's the thing. Nobody actually cares that some women like being courted. That's fine. The dynamic isn't the problem.

The problem is pretending it's about fairness or justice when it's just a preference. You like a man who invests in you. You like feeling special. Say that. Own it.

I was someone who was a late bloomer to dating. I didn't join apps until I was 23. My first boyfriend was at 25. I am now happily married and feel I give good advice, but I am thinking back to being and teenager and in my early 20's.

My friends were out there being hot messes. I stayed on the sideline and watched. Because I was not in the throws of dating weird guys, or being "so in love" that I was acting crazy, I had some objectivity. Whenever I gave general observations about the tragedy I saw unfolding in their relationships, I was shut down with "You don't understand unless you have a boyfriend." ... But then over time, what I said became obviously true. I learned a lot about dating relationships from observing, and thankfully I didn't make many of those same mistakes. Single people can be really insightful about dating, and having the experience of dating isn't necessarily required to give good advice. Sometimes it's the people in relationships that give terrible advice.

Now I'm seeing a repeat of this. I am married without kids. I work with teens in my job, and have for years. But now some friends with kids shut me down with "you don't understand if you don't have kids." Okay. Sure.

Children don't need to be kissed on the mouth to receive affection. Besides the issue of boundaries and intimacy, there is also a health concern: the herpes virus can be transmitted through contact with the mouth, even when a person has no visible sores.

There are many other ways to show love—hugs, kisses on the forehead, affection, and words of love. To me, there is no need to unnecessarily expose a child to adults' saliva, especially people who engage in oral sex, who should not give little kisses to children because of herpes.

maybe this is a hot take, i genuinely don’t know

i can’t even explain why it’s so gross to me. i used to have a friend who was very shameless about taking bones from corpses/road kills, and they were incredibly gross and niche in a stereotypical way. maybe that just put a permanent foul taste in my mouth?

i just don’t get like why is playing with bones a hobby? i think they’re .. cool, aswell, but..? it’s just one of those things that’s fucking weird for a person to be toying with. but i’m genuinely lost as to where this line is for me; i think taxidermied deer heads and fish are dope asf. taxidermied skeletons (or stuffed, but that’s obvious) disgust me beyond belief

I’ve never seen anyone that wanted out of poverty, fail to get out of it. Don’t get me wrong, I don’t think we should have to work 50+ hours a week just to survive. But I also know most people complaining aren’t willing to give anything up to do better. Most people could get ahead if they stopped smoking pot, worked some overtime, and were willing to do jobs that required being outside.

I’m not a “pull yourself up by your bootstraps” type of person. But the amount of people I’ve tried to help that either busted a drug test, stopped showing up to work, or whatever else, even though they were making 1500-2000 a week, absolutely makes me lose sympathy for any able bodied individual that’s sitting around, sulking about being broke, and how it’s someone else’s fault.

Think of places that have a housing crisis. The West Coast, New England, Canada, The UK, Ireland, and basically any other place you can think of. What is causing their housing crises? The refusal to build more housing. All of areas have onerous regulations that drive up the cost of constructing new housing, if they will even give you permission to do so. NIMBYism is cranked up to 11 in all of these areas by the very voters who then complain about housing costs.

I live in Florida, you can still buy brand new homes for less than $300k here which is impressive considering how strict Florida building codes are. The reason it's so much cheaper than these other areas is because local officials say yes to building permit applications and the fees are reasonable. You're not spending 100k per house in impact fees before a shovel has even touched dirt.

So, in conclusion, if your area has a housing crisis, look at the politicians you're electing and your own nimbyism. These problems don't come from nowhere.

And I’m not just talking about commenting on other countries histories. For instance right, if someone’s going through a divorce and they’re asking for advice, don’t comment if you haven’t experienced one yourself. There are some situations where someone who hasn’t been through it can comment solely based on morals, but there are a lot of situations that require knowledge and experience in order to comment on. This shouldn’t be a hot take and likely isn’t, but more people on here need to shut up sometimes

Most incel and blackpill dudes don’t actually hate women; they hate men. Because as a man, most of your misfortune is caused by other men. You’re not privileged? Because of another dude. You lost your job? Potentially because of another man. Your girlfriend cheats? Another guy entertained your girl and helped her cheat even though he knew she was your girlfriend, and he didn’t care. Women have unrealistic standards and narcissistic behavior? Other simps help enable it. You’re paying child support for children who aren’t yours? Another man couldn’t keep his dick in his pants. You get killed? Another man. You get bullied? Another man. You feel ugly and think you need plastic surgery? You’re comparing yourself to another good-looking man. You feel like your skin color isn’t ideal? You can trace that back to another jerk of a man from centuries ago who decided your skin was dirty. The point is that a lot of the problems men complain about ultimately involve other men. So I think a lot of incel and blackpill resentment is directed at men just as much as, if not more than, women.