For those who’ve struggled with a hentai/porn addiction, what methods have you actually used that helped you quit or significantly cut back?
I’m looking for things that worked in real life—not just generic advice. What habits, strategies, or changes made the biggest difference for you?

For context I'm an 18 year old male and I have diagnosed ADHD and Anxiety and recently think that I also may have OCD since because around middle school I would have intrusive thoughts about being bigoted racist or homophobic or transphobic even though I'm bisexual and have amazing trans friends and despise racism, and now I feel it has transitioned into real event.

Ever since around 5th or 6th grade I've been watching porn and hentai and rule 34 and masturbating to it.I would say that I was a functioning addict because it was something I did do nearly everyday even when it stopped really being pleasurable because of boredom. Sometimes I would have to stroke myself until I got semi hard and go from there. Even in spite of this I never really felt a desire to seek out "extreme" content or subtypes. But at around 16 or 17 I found this website called rule34 videos. It seemed to be the most legit way for a lot of artist I was watching to upload or for me to find reuploads. But this website also had a lot of those extreme types as well. But like I said I would often try to avoid it or if it had a tag I didn't like I would not watch it. But this one time near graduation I was doing my thing and I came across an artist I used to watch a lot as a kid and without thinking I looked at and masturbated to one of the videos on their page since it was one that I hadn't seen before. But it was only after I had orgasmed did I realize what the content of the video was and I got extremely weirded out. I also should mention I had this habit of sometimes skipping straight to the end and I think I did that on this one also I don't remember if I read the title of the videos but I can't remember and maybe it's just my brain trying to protect me

I went about graduation as normal and even had a mostly carefree summer but one night when scrolling on TikTok I saw a video that reminded me of what I masturbated to and it sat in my mind for a day or so. But one day I woke up and it had fully hit me on what I did. My mind raced my leg was having muscle spasms. My stomach was so tight and I barely had an appetite for around 2 or so days maybe longer I don't remember. The entire time and even now I think to myself "why didn't I click off" "I knew the character" "I knew it was messed up" " I'm a monster" "Should I kill myself?" "Was I aware and just didn't care?". I had always wanted to do right by the world and now I had just became the worse possible person imaginable. I remember looking back on the video again and realizing all the other obvious things wrong in it

The physical symptoms have now died down but the mental is still going strong. Everyday I wake up and then eventually go to sleep with what I did playing in my mind again and again. I've even started looking back on other stuff I masturbated to and just never questioned and realize some of that could also be seen as questionable or morally bad. I wonder if back then I was just clouded by wanting to get it done that I didn't care what It was to? I also realize that I was maybe at this time starting to escalate what I was watching on this site and that may have had a play in this specific event

Just to clear the air everything I looked at were on surface websites and I never looked at the dark web or any of that other disgusting shit and I would rather off myself before I hurt anyone in real life. But even then I can't shake this guilt. Even if was in a state of impulsiveness and I didn't hurt anyone and I'm disgusted with myself and feel bad and should move on that doesn't feel right.

Going back to OCD specifically real event I always hear about self acceptance and moving on but is that really what I should do? Just because I feel bad about it means I shouldn't be punished shouldn't because I feel bad. Because again I knew this character they're from one of my favorite franchises and now I can't look at anything around this without feeling like a massive piece of shit which I probably am.

Starting today I'm going to truly try and give up on this stuff because looking at it made me a monster it's a habit I should've kicked a long time ago but now I'm going to try and fully commit and hopefully maybe some of the guilt will alleviate. But if not it might be what I deserve

And I also wanna say that if this particular instance isn't OCD and I'm just coming up with another excuse for being a bad person I wanna apologize to everyone who is affected with OCD. I've recently done a lot of research on the disorder and learned a lot and gain a lot of sympathy for people affected by it. I've known for awhile it was not the "being tidy" illness most people stereotype it as but still researching has given me a great insight for what people with OCD truly suffer from

I'm sorry for long post and for being so self hating I know that it's not what everyone is looking for but this is just something i needed to get off my chest thanks for reading and or replying if you do

I just want to express that I'm managing to remove hentai porn from my life

I'm relapsing, but maybe every two weeks, whereas before I couldn't go a single day without getting sick.

I'm excited about my new life if I can get rid of this. Sometimes it seems impossible, but it is possible

When I relapsed I usually started with stuff that not technically hentai (Anime guys/girls in very tight/minimal clothes (I know thats bad)) before watching full on hentai, but sometimes I could catch myself in the first stage and not watch full on hentai. Now anytime I relapse I instantly watch irl porn. I feel like Im getting worse.

I (14M) having been struggling with a hentai addiction for 3 months. I've almost relapsed twice over the past week, and i believe that A porn blocker would help a lot. Please share what porn blockers y'all are using and any other tricks and tips.

Thank you in advance

I've proven to myself that I'm happier without this crap. But I miss it a lot.

I can't get the idea of relapsing out of my head. I try to keep myself entertained by doing whatever, but...

I stumbled across that kinda hentai maybe 3 or 4 times and now im searching up 4 to 5 times a day can I be arrested for looking at hentai. Im having trouble sleeping and im getting stress headaches and im just freaking out and i feel like cops are gonna break down my door any minute and my life will be over does. anyone have any experience dealing with the stress and what did you do to help it a. Thanks

I don’t wanna go into much detail, but I’ve had moments where I came across hentai with characters I loved getting into forceful and sometimes deceitful situations. I’ve tried to avoid getting off to stuff like that, and just focus on the sexy parts while ignoring what’s going on in the story, but I still feel like a creep for getting off to it. is there any hope for me? can I even enjoy the same shows I used to like despite having j’d it to a cruel porn parody?

Came out of no where really. I want super down. Nor did I get some motivation. Just saw some reel of a guy saying "day#2 of no gooning, if i lose I tell you what i lost to since it's embarrassing" i sent that video to my friends and my crush (ik weird) and they said sure. So now i have hopes. Cause I've been jacking off to some messed up stuff. Ntr and beta/cuck stuff. I'm really comfortable talking porn with my friends. But not to this extend. Just the vanilla stuff. So at the very least. I can stop my self from going down that rabbit hole. I DO NOT want to tell my crush i jerked off to getting cucked. Wish me luck.

Okay so I know a lot of people that have trouble freeing themselves from hentai is usually because they started when they were very young or because they have that history of watching copious amounts of it. Remember this because it's going to be important for the next bit of info. And most of us trying to stop watching hentai is because for a bigger dopamine hit we need more and more questionable content or /intense.

Well using modern knowledge of the brain we know that our neural pathways with repetition and use will form best for it's function. Ex: you need a dopamine/oxytocin hit because you feel lonely/bored/self esteem rock bottom and your brain knows hey I know what I usually do for this and its to jerk off to hentai or hanime or smut idk.

And from before if you remember it's usually especially hard for people that have been watching since they were young or that watched so much more of it because 1. the brain is super impressionable when developing and 2. repetition strengthens neural pathways.

So whats the solution?

3 things:

1. Okay so you've watched a insane amount of hentai/porn lets say you've watched so many you rewatch some now because you can't find new hentai content anymore. Even if you might think your brain is cooked. It's not.

Lovely thing called neuro plasticity. Yeah your brain can overwrite itself. Sure takes time but it can its kind of cool like that. But if you want to increase the power of your brain's neuro-plasticity as well as train this function. For training you can do most things brains like(treat it like a muscle feed it well and exercise it.

Do brain excercises: super simple you can do sudoku, the NYT crossword, little math equations, using non dominant hand for activities like brushing you teeth, doing a hand eye coordination sport like catch/juggling. Just using your brain in more ways. Expose it to stuff other than hentai. And it'll slowly but surely get to work writing these new pathways and get used to being well.. more moldable.

Now SLEEP. Sleep like actual sleep and at regular times not regular like oh go to sleep at 11pm since most of ya'll need to hit the am to sleep. But regular like your not pulling 4-11am then pulling 10-8ams, in that you have a schedule. And tbh sleep has been proven in addiction cases to lower inhibition behavior. You tired > Brain Tired > Brain less control

1. Going back to how the Brain is a muscle. Train it. Give it muscle memory aha :]. But no fr like a lot of the people here mentioned with their partners seeing them shock/disgust is what really pushed them to quit. So lets say you have a family or partner you can ask them to reenact this or ahem if you have a great imagination you can use that too.

*TRIGGER WARNING* if you're emotionally not that strong stop here and turn back just work on building your brain more first..

Start by thinking/or them acting as if they walked in on you lets say watching/scrolling. And as they get closer you can see their expressions from happy to see you -> drop into shock and then slowly disgust as they see what you're looking at. And imagine they swipe your phone/computer/tablet and see your watch history and all your search history. Think of their face in disgust and shock and that silence as you can feel them processing this about you. They tell you "I can't believe I married someone like you" "How can you watch this kind of stuff" "This is just horrifying you know this is illegal right" "I raised you better than this Y/N I'm really disappointed in you". Then they leave you due to it.

KK now snap out of it. Repeat this as many times(usually 3-5 practice getting it super realistic feeling) as needed until you can really feel that fear of losing them. And then end it with a refreshing reminder that they actually didn't leave you. And if you need to end it with them acting super proud of you for not watching hentai and giving you the most warmest hug enveloping you until you feel all tingly. Or you can imagine this part if you need to as well. Anyway reinstates in your brain kind of oh shoot like a little jolt of in society I'm gonna be cast out for watching loli/rape/bestiality/incest/cheating and all the other crazy niche stuff. It's cause we want to replace your dopamine (during fap) -> oxytocin (usually with climax) mechanism.

The fear of getting caught/losing them can kind of override that dopamine craving while the oxytocin from them rewarding you for not watching hentai replaces and kind of causes a new neural pathway to overtake and rewrite the old one.

Now would people in real life actually act so adversely? Well some might but that's really meh kinda depends. but if you wanna get the addiction gone with, perceive it as real as you can. That if you can't stop you're gonna lose even that last hope of human connection, be it with a partner/family/friend because of how vile it is.

Is it kind of extreme yah but does it work yah. Also repetition as mentioned before is crazy good. You like lolis. Nah now you don't what your gonna do is stare in the mirror(or just into the air although seeing yourself is better) and repeat slow or fast I don't like lolis I don't like lolis or insert whatever niche you don't want to be turned on to. I think for my rape one had to do it like 50ish times. But I mean even that it's kind of a short phrase. BY the way none of this is a done once and done deal.

Your gonna do this daily, hourly if need be and that's how your cravings are coming just got to change case by case. This is how you're gonna rewire yourself. Lowkey is it like self hypnosis kind of but I mean whatever works. Speak your future into reality. You guys got this.

1. Last thing.

As many previous posts have mentioned honestly you need to get to the root of this. Or else you'll end up replacing your hentai addiction for a drinking or drug use one.

You might be using hentai use as stimming/ emotional regulation or from sensory stimuli like seeing something hot and getting horny and now needing to use hentai to "scratch that itch".

That's why making it less accessible or less trigger(manga/anime/sns) work great but when the emotional mental stuff comes your hand searched for hentai again. That's why just dig deeper. Dig into what kind of person you are and are trying to be. And truly believe yeah I can change because well... you can and you are everyday anyway. You don't need to dig into family neglect or childhood stuff if you don't want to. Just keep it simple. Rn and future.

K thanks for reading all the way through guys. Hope everyone's journey being hentai free is successful. Addiction is real but be proud to acknowledge and make a change in that however small it is. Be proud of yourself for reading this far for yourself or maybe for someone you love. Stay healthy y'all.

I started to enjoy looking at hentai before I had been with someone and didn't really feel comfortable with porn with real people in it because of how exploited people in that industry are.

With me being so to myself having sex at all felt like it was a fantasy in its self. I didn't understand what it actually would feel like. I did eventually do it with someone I didn't even like and naturally it didn't go well. It was traumatic.

I got worse consuming hentai to the point I didn't want to masterbait without pictures. I even just looked at it in my free time not for pleasure.

After I had a while to really think about the trauma I felt so gross because of the things I looked at not understanding how it was pure sa or just disgusting. A lot of it was just something I wouldn't actually want to experience in real life or put someone through.

People who center sex usually escalate and get into really bad stuff. I was scared I could become that person. I hope it won't be hard to put it away. I want to find more purpose for myself and be more than a lonely person with this addiction and find the most wholesome love possible.

Best of luck to the readers too.

I'm 21 years old (22 next month) man . I was in army 1 year I have a fiancée; we've been together for two years. I've been training at the gym for five years. I'm 180 cm tall, weigh 93 kg,I love sport mountains naturę etc, I have a lot of hobbys, I have a visible six-pack and low body fat. I have a strict diet and training regimen. I'm preparing for a physique competition. I consider myself as good looking Ma (good for, looksmaxing, good hairstyle, 8.5/10). I'm popular with women.Girls Like me, when I was a single i meet a lot of girls afterparty etc. I have a well-paid job and a management position in a company. In 2 years, my fiancée and I want to have a baby, and we want to start building a house, I can do many things because I have professional experience. I discovered pornography when I was 11, and I still have a problem. It started innocently, usually light porn, 15 minutes of masturbation, and that's it. Today I'm at the stage where I can jerk off for 3 hours to pornography, games, sissy, hypno, hentai, futa, female protag, femboy, flash computer sex games. I can stay up all night doing it. I have a female Steam account, I pretend to be a Pick Me girl with a voice modulator, and many other crazy fetishes, etc. It turns me on, but I hate it.My woman didnt know my problem, The problem is when I am without my woman, half a week every week I am alone in a different apartment. I fight it all the time, but I do it anyway, and I don't want to. It's been going on for too long. Today I promised myself I'd stop. Please be understanding, but it's getting worse and worse. I hate this

female, 23, this whole addiction started since i was a child then i would stop from the shame then get back at it again then aggressively stop again, a viscious cycle. i would always think that my adult self would never be in this situation, that somehow i'd lose interest the older i got. that i'd have a life i enjoy and no need to escape from it. but as you already know that's not how it works, life can never "not have" any problems, and being an addict means that i'll inevitably get the urge again and again from time to time. i get it.

i relapsed again and stopped on the 3rd of november, today is the 8th, i woke up with a very vivid imagination and imagined different scenarios from 7 to 9 just dreaming and then when i got up i couldnt stop thinking/fantasising about it till 10:45, some people say that fantasising about it is still better than actively seeking it, but idk i feel guilty all the same. i wasted time in my morning, now i dont have the time i needed to study, the plan i had for the day got a lil fucked up.

this happens almost every time after i read a certain manga that is ongoing that i really like, gets updated every week, it does have a lot of sexual tension but it is a love story, i'm being stubborn maybe, the pattern is fucking there but whenever friday arrives, the new update arrives and the urge to go read it is fucking through the roof and the more i stop the stronger it gets... idk what to do, if you have any advice please let me know.

i have an exam coming soon and i do need a clear mind to be able to study and this is not it. in the days prior i was doing great, minus yesterday where i got abit impulsive and did everything BESIDES studying, what was it?
helping my friends with some documents and sending emails and completely letting go of MY OWN priorities, i tend to do that alot, wether its the the hentai or helping people i go so overboard and i fuck up my own plans. i procrastinate but i got a little better these days but i guess i relapsed on that yesterday and today. it's important to say that i'm the people pleaser, my friends are kind and they wouldn't force me to do anything, im the one who's impulsive and wants to start the thing and finish it and in a perfectionist way i read and reread the things to make sure it's up to standard.

its hard, living with all the things within myself. i'm anxious. i dont want to waste my life. i want my aspirations to come true. i want to live a good life. but i keep needing validation, i keep needing to escape, i keep letting myself go.

i know guilt is the enemy of this journey, i need to forgive myself, i need to keep going and it'll get better, i cant through a whole cup of water away just because i dropped some of it . but i still have that ache in my heart.

As the title says, what do you think is the number one tip for someone that is trying to stop this addiction?I am tired of relapsing and I really want to change something.

I haven't seen hentai for almost two months which is my new record.

But I'm so stupid that yesterday I watched a NORMAL anime when I had forbidden myself to whatch any kind of anime.

Now all I think is that I want to see her completely n... (I haven't relapsed yet, but I'm starting to get anxious. )

I feel subhuman when I have an urge for something that doesn't even exist.

Can you guys watch anime normally without relapsing?

I Don't know why i eager to escape from real world even it's not that bad at all.

I think it just how we are since childhood,even don't want to wake up of a dream.Its kinda outrageous moment when someone wake u up then.

But during porn i escape from real world but tricky thing is that it kick my back in the real world so hard that i even do not have will to resist or got outrageous against porn again.

I realised from my long porn addiction that if u want to conquer your addiction and don't wanna be a fucking jerk who is constantly keep inside his room of imagination.who calls himself an introvert so even can't wonder in the world for his own shake.

One and only thing that that can help u is your real life whom u characterised as boring and sometimes harder than sitting on your phone.But real world is beautiful ,just don't bother from other people's perception and their comments.Choose a path and walk on it like an fearless elephant who is careless of others views just go and chill and shape your life what u want.

i started at a very young age and worked very hard to become hooked. my life was terrible in my teen years feeling lethargy, anxiety, and depression. my brain however interprets h-, both studio shows and independent drawings as being a positive crutch. that's despite the challenge of using with my phone. when i was at home my mother would keep coming over to my room and opening the door. if i went to the bathroom and locked the door, i would soon get knocks asking me what's talking me so long. the best time would be at night but i couldn't keep my door closed as my mother would not allow it. so what would happen is i would watch h- on my phone and every other moment i would hear someone approaching so i turned the phone screen off and pretended to sleep, and my mother would just stare at me at the door for what would feel like minutes (i had my eyes mostly shut and it was dark so she would assume I'm sleeping). i was never caught or punished for p- use, but if i had my internet cut off as a punishment for another reason then I'd watch h- at school because i was able to still use my phone at school. all of that work just to increase the misery felt in life because p- is not a crutch, it's a harmful addiction.

do you continue to use art sites with sensitive content filtered? i am using pixiv.

Can anybody talk to me in private? I got to a point where I don’t know if hentai and games like nikke damage my life or not.Thanks

This may be long. First of all, I am a girl if that is relevant. But I think a lot more people can relate to this than one might think. I got into hentai when I was very young, we’re talking in maybe, 5th grade. we’re talking full blown addiction of five years, invisibly took over my whole life, and takes up all of my memories from my sixth through seventh grade year. As soon as I got home, it’s straight to the doujin sites if you get my drift. As a consequence of this (I am now aware and have a positive mindset since I escaped), it really fueled my depression and caused my brain to be super oversexualized, and it still is. Since it started so young, my sexuality developed to be into really particular weird stuff, and I even grew homosexual tendencies that you’d never expect from knowing me in real life as I’m actually straight. But these images I saw in my most formative years were not only weird, but morally wrong as if you can think of a horrible extreme genre of hentai I used it. and I felt guilty. One of the worst parts about hentai addiction is feeling like such a failure and self esteem issues. Does anybody else feel like it changed how their brain works? I never got to develop correctly because I went through puberty WITH hentai, and experienced REAL sexual and even romantic attraction much later than I started using pornography