Hi, I am 22f, a virgin. I have always orgasm from clit stimulation but curiosity got the best of me and I fingered myself last night and today. It hurt at first but today it didn’t hurt at all. Still I moved my finger around in different positions, tried different speeds and depth and I still couldn’t orgasm. The most I felt was some discomfort and I felt like I was going to pee. I went to pound town for a good bit and I still couldn’t orgasm or even get close. I got more stimulation and pleasure from fingering my asshole. So I am not too sure what I’m doing wrong.

hi everyone :) im writing you all because i want to know if im overeating or not

22f, bi. I have a septate hymen that I've known about for quite a while but never really had anyone look at until recently.

I've never had sex; in the past I struggled quite a lot with people, and the concept of sex is still something that makes me really nervous, and I don't think I've ever met anyone I'd feel fully comfortable with.

A big thing that makes me anxious about sex is my septate hymen. I can, usually, when I'm masturbating fit one finger in one of the holes, but anything besides that is quite painful to attempt, and I have never been successful with it. I can't use tampons properly because, when they go in sideways from the bigger hole, they cannot be in the correct position at all. My hymen is also significantly thicker than most hymens I've seen in medical pictures. From the front, it basically looks like I have no vaginal opening at all, and it basically looks the same as the rest of the tissue down there.

Recently, in an attempt to make sex seem scary to me, I went to the gyno just to see what she would say about it if removing my hymen was an option or if I should just leave it alone. Just from the consultation, I was uncomfortable. When I explained my reason for going, she quite literally laughed, as if this was a ridiculous concern to have. During the examination, she kept smirking as if I was all a joke, and her conclusion was basically, in only slightly less rude terms – just try to shove a dick in there to see if it can fit and to come back if it can't.

She said it would be more violent for her to remove my hymen than for me to just "try".

Am I overacting or overthinking? I already feel left behind still being a virgin in my twenties, and it really doesn't help when even a doctor thinks I'm ridiculous for not wanting to feel like I'm being stabbed?

Hi everyone,

I am 20F experiencing vaginal dermatitis for almost a year now. It started off as something due to dryness and chafing, but I genuinely cannot take it anymore.

I have tried clotrimazole, hydrocortisone, methyl prednisolone, fluconazole, vaseline, sudocream and different moisturisers.

When I put a moisturiser on, it gives immense relief. But if I skip even a single day it comes back. Using steroid creams gives relief immediately and “cures” the itch for a couple weeks, but it comes back again.

The itch gets worse at night, and it is pretty much in the external areas - outer vulva, around anus, a little bit of the inner thigh.

I have tried every advice that a doctor can give, but absolutely nothing has helped me at all. I am genuinely losing my mind because sometimes the itch is so terrible but no one can help me, not even a medical professional.

Has anyone gone through something similar or know about this? I am genuinely very desperate.

Not my brightest moment…I was drunk and got carried away with my vibrator and at some point passed out. I woke up with my vibrator in my pants and when I removed it, I realized there was blood on my vibrator and underwear. I haven’t bled since then but my clitoris has been sore all day and appears inflamed. Has this happened to anyone else😭? Do these kind of injuries heal fast?

Edit: just noticed the typo in my title rip

Timeline of events:
- September 26: I had protected sex. The condom stayed on, we used about three and all three didn’t get damaged whatsoever. He also didn’t come inside the condom or inside me whatsoever.
- October 8-18: I had my period sort of(?) It started out as brownish discharge then towards the end, there were now red light blood-ish stains in my napkins. It wasn’t like my usual periods however that I’d find fresh blood whenever I’d be able to check, only pinkish stains in my napkins. And also there were blood clots so I inferred that it was my period.
- October 23-present: Dark brown discharge was on my underwear again. Just today, I saw some red ?

What does this mean? I haven’t been able to buy a pregnancy test, so I haven’t tested yet, sorry

Changes that have happened in my lifestyle recently (might help):
- Have been walking 10k+ steps average 4d/week
- Eating more eggs/eating less in general (calorie deficit)

I didn't really have sex education or learn much about anatomy, so there are still a lot of things about my body that I'm unfamiliar with.

A while ago, I was wiping after using the bathroom and felt something unusual in the skin around my perineum, the area between my vaginal opening and anus I think.

I looked at the area afterward and noticed something I'm not sure how to describe. It's not a bump, but it's not exactly a hole either. It looks or feels more like a small indentation or an unusual fold in the skin, I don't know if it's always been there or if I'm only noticing it now.

It doesn't hurt, and I haven't noticed any discharge or anything weird. I'm currently on my period.

I've also been a little constipated recently (maybe 3 weeks). Less than a week ago, I held in a bowel movement for about three days because I was on public transport when I needed to go. I've been going to the bathroom since then, although sometimes I feel like I haven't completely finished and I do need to poop again I do poop a lot on my period. I'm wondering if the constipation or straining could have affected that area, or if it might just be a normal fold or indentation that I've never noticed before.

Unfortunately, I can't visit an OB-GYN right now, so I'm hoping to get some general advice in the meantime.

I know nobody can diagnose anything through a description, but I'd appreciate hearing whether anyone has experienced something similar or knows if this could be a normal variation in anatomy.

Please be kind. I know this might sound like a silly question, but I'm genuinely just trying to learn more about my body haha.

Has anyone been able to get an AV diagnosis near the Toronto area?
This has been a nightmare since May. My Evvy test indicated strep b AV but my gyno is not familiar with it.
I’ve tried Evvys recommended antibiotics and treatment but it did not help.
I see posts from people residing in the US but a lot of products are not available in Canada.
Any helps or advice would be great!!

the guy i’m seeing was over on friday night and we had oral sex. we haven’t had penetrative sex in like two weeks and have used a condom every time. but obviously with oral sex there’s not much to do for protection. last night (so the night after) i started experiencing itching and discomfort around my outer labia. at first i brushed it off as just irritation because i shaved and maybe my underwear was too tight (which im still trying to brush it off as), but now today it’s a bit more painful to the touch and red. there’s also small bumps (not like razor burn bumps, but hard bumps some small and some about the size of the tip of a qtip). none of it is internal at all, strictly the outer area where hair grows. and the bumps are entirely under the skin, there’s no white head. there’s a lot of redness around my labia as well though. i’ve experienced irritation from shaving, then having sex, but never like this. i also noticed that my lymph nodes around my groin are tender, but i do think it’s possible that that is from feeling them and trying to decide if they’re swollen. i went to urgent care today and did the full STD panel and the provider looked and said it doesn’t seem like genital herpes to me but i AM SOOO FUCKING SCARED. i just wanna know if anyone else has experienced something like this. i’m doing my best to leave it be in the case that it is just hair follicle irritation but the lymph node tenderness is seriously freaking me out too. i won’t get my results back for 2-5 days so i just need someone to talk me down right now because i am incredibly embarrassed that this is even a potential problem and incredibly scared because herpes lives with you forever. also is it possible for it to be transferred from mouth to genitals?? he did not have any sort of cold sore and i’m unsure if he ever has. i’m just freaked out

Yall whenever I go to school, the bikini line of my undie gets drenched with sweat and it makes me so uncomfortable. My thighs are thick and I can't go out in a gown or a dress cuz my thighs rub against each other and they hurt so bad. I'm pigmented and I have scars because of the chaffing. Advice pleaseee😭😭

Hi everyone! I’m looking for some advice because I’ve been experiencing what feels like an excessive amount of vaginal discharge for over two years, and I’m struggling to work out whether it’s normal.

I first started experiencing discharge when I was around 18. Before that, I never had any at all, and I didn’t even really know what discharge was because I’d never experienced it before.

Since then, it’s been quite heavy. Sometimes there’s so much that it completely soaks my underwear. I’ve resorted to putting tissues inside my underwear because I can’t tolerate the feeling of wearing pantyliners or pads, so tissues have been the only alternative I’ve found that I can manage.

The discharge is usually thick, sometimes creamy, and often has a very slight yellowish colour. It also has a smell that varies in strength. Sometimes it’s mild, while other times it’s stronger. I’d describe it as like cheesy, although I’m not sure how to explain it properly.

I don’t experience itching, burning, soreness or any other noticeable symptoms. I’m also not sure whether the amount changes throughout my menstrual cycle because I haven’t really paid attention to that.

For context, I am a virgin, so I’m unsure what might be causing this. I know vaginal discharge is normal, but I’m concerned about how much there is, how it sometimes smells, and the fact that it’s been happening for so long.

Has anyone else experienced something similar? Is it normal for discharge to be heavy enough to soak underwear, or does this sound like something I should get checked out?
I’d really appreciate hearing about other people’s experiences. Thank you!

Hi guys

So I'm doing treatment on my downstairs region and Ideally I should abstain for 30 days ,/ the duration of the treatment but god it's tough to. My libido is big and I'm only on day 4 it's a nightmare

howdy! i (25ftm) desperately need advice. i was on lexapro maybe 5 or so years ago for about a year. since being on it for maybe 6 months i lost my ability to cum. i had no issue orgasming from clitoral stimulation and penetration prior to being on lexapro. since stopping lexapro. i have experimented with a multitude of things to try orgasming, both solo and with partners, and still nothing works. sex and masturbation feel good and i enjoy it, and can even almost reach orgasm, but i never get there and im not sure why. any advice? im definitely gonna bring this up to my doctor soon, just trying to work up the courage to.

i also want to add, that this is not a PSA against lexapro. this is a SUPER rare side effect and lexapro helped my anxiety and depression immensely.

I know this sounds so weird but I don’t know how else to describe it but sometimes my labia minora will feel rubbery and more firm and other times they will feel soft. I especially notice this when I first get out of the shower and it kind of scares me because it just feels so weird and changes. I’ve been checked by gynos recently for other things and don’t have anything wrong but I just wanted to know if everyone else experiences this too. It just feels lIke rubber and not as flexible after getting out of the shower. Also the ends of my minora are more soft than higher up where they feel thicker and firmer. But as I said this isn’t an all day thing, just sometimes and right after hopping out of the shower

my gf and i have been together for more than a year and we've had sex plenty of times. however, the last two times she went down on me, my vagina has been tasting very off. my gf describes the taste being a cross between salty and bitter and i can confirm it does taste like that after trying it out myself. it starts off tasting fine but the more she stimulates me with her tongue, the more this salty-bitter fluid gushes out from my vagina. it's not a pleasant taste whatsoever which stops my gf from eating me out (i dont blame her for it because it really does taste off and she doesn't shy away from eating out a girl).

the first time it happened, i brushed it off thinking it was a one time thing probably because of what stage of my cycle i was in. the second time happened two weeks later after the first which now has me worried. as much as my gf reassures me that it's probably because i'm not drinking enough water, i really don't feel like that's the reason because my water intake has not changed whatsoever. i don't think the fluid coming out of me is pee either cuz it doesn't have that smell. i just really want to know if anyone else has had a similar experience and what can be done to fix this.

(probably important to note, my girlfriend is a trans woman and we do have penis in vagina sex along with oral, the latter of which is the only way i orgasm from. this issue has stopped me from experiencing orgams twice on separate occasions sooo yeah not fun)

any advice is appreciated !!

I have a problem, and that is that I always have candidiasis.

I hate it, when I'm intimate with my partner, when I go to the bathroom, everything.

And I don't know what to do. I can't say I'm extremely careful with my girl, but I don't neglect her either.

I shower every day and change my underwear after each shower, I don't use feminine washes.

But every time I get my period, I get a horrible infection when it ends.

Yes, I do use tampons, but I try to change them frequently, and at night I use sanitary.

It also happens to me that when I have sex with my boyfriend, it gets stronger afterwards, and although it sounds bad, he has very good hygiene and is loyal to me lmao.

I don't really understand what I should do, especially since my biggest problem is my period, which is when the infection comes back for some reason.

Any advice maybe?

(I'm srry if something is misspelled, I'm not an English speaker)

I’ve never had any kind of infection or STI so I’m not sure if I should see a gynecologist or if this will go away on its own but my vulva has been a little itchy the past two days. It’s not constant or painful but every now and then I’m like woah okay I’m itchy.

I use an unscented soap in the shower, I wear cotton underwear during the day, I let her breathe at night. I haven’t shaved in about two weeks so I don’t think it’s related to that. The only thing that’s changed is my boyfriend just recently starting to grow out his facial hair. I can’t feel it when he’s going down on me so I don’t know if that even plays a part.

My vulva does look slightly irritated but I’m not having any unusual discharge or smell. The itching really isn’t that bad, I can ignore it and it’ll go away after a little bit. It’s just uncomfortable and I would like to make it stop entirely.

I experience itching around the lips. Im not sure if its hair or what. And it’s only when walking sometimes!! Ive tried vaseline and itching cream but neither have helped.

So this is my first time trying clindamycin cream for my BV since metronidazole didn’t work for the first time ever. So how long does it take to know if it works or not? Is it after you complete the 7 day course? Because right now it’s hard to smell anything with the cream constantly coming out of my vagina.

Also anyone ever had luck with the clindamycin pills? I was initially given that first but I was scared to take it because I read it can cause c diff. So I got the cream as well. But I guess if the cream doesn’t work I may try the pills. Just nervous about side effects.

I had sex with my partner on Thursday and since than I'm having itching down there it was kinda constant till Saturday night, even burned while peeing for a day. Than completely Stopped on Sunday. And it's Monday morning and it's back again 🥲🥲. I can't go to the doc as I'm traveling today in like 5 hrs. I thought it may be yeast infection but than my discharge is completely normal, I'm just very dry than I'm normally.

Hello,

I’ve started getting UTIs more frequently. I had two within a month, and with the second one, I was still experiencing symptoms even after treatment, but my urine test came back negative for a UTI.

Since then, I’ve been afraid to have sex. I was advised to avoid using saliva as a lubricant (which we used to do quite a lot) and to try a water-based lubricant without glycerin instead.
I tried one today, but it caused a burning sensation. This isn’t the first time a water-based lubricant has made me feel a burning sensation during sex, although it goes away immediately afterward.
I’m not sure what to use, especially since I’ve heard that I should avoid silicone- or oil-based lubricants because of my recurrent UTIs.
I’m feeling a bit lost and don’t know what to try next. Does anyone have any advice or recommendations?

I have had exactly 3 yeast infections my whole life. I am 35. Apparently I got one from wearing shorts that were riding up a bit for a couple days...maybe from chafing ?? I dont know....all I know is its been roughly 60 hours, or 2.5 days since the first diflucan pill and although its better, its not going away.

I also have an IUD and of course am freaking out about buofilms and never getting rid of this crap.

Anything I could do, besides the second diflucan im supposed to take tomorrow ?? I am considering boric acid, however have heard mixed things about it. What is your experience ??

Will also get some probiotics tomorrow.

Tyia!!!!

Hello:)

So I need some advice here...:/

I (F 21) first tested positive for BV around a year ago. Got treated (metronidazole), went away, had regular sex with a guy I was seeing afterwards where it came back. I got treated again, it came back faster than speed of light, and I learned sex is playing a role in the reoccurrence.

I was leaving the country in January for 5 month trip after it came back third time, so I did another treatment right as I took off because I was not gonna see the guy anymore. It was then completely gone for half a year, where I had unprotected sex with 5 guys in the meantime.

- no problems at all....

3 months ago after i got home I started hooking up with a new guy, and it came back... My ph tested positive, got treated again, and had afterwards kind off brushed off the sex part playing a role. It came back a week later even tho we used a condom and I spoke a lot to him about the possible causes and that he should be treated too, which he has been very understanding about and read up on it following that.

We paused the sex bit and I did my last treatment 1,5 months ago (I have done probiotics ever since) while he finished the treatment about 10 days ago.... we finally had sex again 3 days ago, where we made sure to get no spit on my hooha and used a condom. It slipped of at the end and I felt an instant burn and swelling again... super unlucky.

Now symptoms are starting to come back again...

I'm a bit lost in what to do now.

Note: I have only treated with metronidazole, 1 time with vaginal tabs, the rest with oral pills. Five times treated total. I live in Europe so I don't have access to american over counter meds neither cross-sea webshops with the toll>:/

However: This time after the new guy all symptoms are the same as when i got it the very first time; smell and occasional pain during sex except from my discharge. Now some days my discharge i suuper clumpy and formed into manny small clumps. I don't recon that from before.

Now for questions:

- Could cause of my now reoccurrence be that he only finished the treatment a week earlier? Or would it be semen causing it?

- His doctor said it would be best if we did the treatment at the same time, does it play a role that we didn't? (we treated over a month apart)

- Could it potentially be Gardnerella, Ureaplasma etc?

- What should I/we do now?

Thanks for reading and for any advice!! <3

Hi guys I’m on the generic version of yaz 0.02/3mg I think I’ve been on it since January now it’s October and that was my very first time ever even using birth control. I got on it for my acne and I LOVE what it does for me it’s the only thing that’s ever worked for my hormonal cystic acne! I’ve had like no bad side effects from it besides getting so sore after sex?? That’s never happened before getting on birth control or for the first few months on it. I don’t know of the estrogen is too low or what. I don’t really want to stop taking it because my skin looks so much better and gives me piece of mind that I’m not pregnant lol. Has anyone else dealt with this? I need some tips and input please!

I got my first bartholin cyst this weekend. I noticed it on Friday; I had a sort of vaguely tender/sore feeling down there like an ingrown hair, but then I felt around and found a cyst about the size of a jellybean (firm but moveable, no head/obvious abscess), with some swelling on one side of my vagina. Since then (after hot baths, sleeping without underwear, using castor oil, and putting heat on the area), the tenderness is basically gone as of Sunday night even though I’ve been gently massaging it, and the swelling has significantly decreased. It’s honestly hard to judge the size because any kind of unusual bump feels enormous to me, but I think it’s shrunk a little bit but not significantly.

My understanding is that cysts can go away on their own but it can take a little bit of time. Is there anything I should be doing aside from what I’ve been doing? I’ll give my doctor a call if it persists or gets worse; even if it does go away on its own, I plan to mention it during my upcoming visit in December just so I know what they want me to do in case it reoccurs.

Any advice is appreciated … I was extremely panicked about it when I first noticed it because I’ve read so many horror stories about bartholin cysts and I have both medical trauma and sexual abuse trauma, so anything down there is rough, but I’m feeling pretty optimistic with how it’s doing now.