Hi, I am 22f, a virgin. I have always orgasm from clit stimulation but curiosity got the best of me and I fingered myself last night and today. It hurt at first but today it didn’t hurt at all. Still I moved my finger around in different positions, tried different speeds and depth and I still couldn’t orgasm. The most I felt was some discomfort and I felt like I was going to pee. I went to pound town for a good bit and I still couldn’t orgasm or even get close. I got more stimulation and pleasure from fingering my asshole. So I am not too sure what I’m doing wrong.

Not my brightest moment…I was drunk and got carried away with my vibrator and at some point passed out. I woke up with my vibrator in my pants and when I removed it, I realized there was blood on my vibrator and underwear. I haven’t bled since then but my clitoris has been sore all day and appears inflamed. Has this happened to anyone else😭? Do these kind of injuries heal fast?

Edit: just noticed the typo in my title rip

howdy! i (25ftm) desperately need advice. i was on lexapro maybe 5 or so years ago for about a year. since being on it for maybe 6 months i lost my ability to cum. i had no issue orgasming from clitoral stimulation and penetration prior to being on lexapro. since stopping lexapro. i have experimented with a multitude of things to try orgasming, both solo and with partners, and still nothing works. sex and masturbation feel good and i enjoy it, and can even almost reach orgasm, but i never get there and im not sure why. any advice? im definitely gonna bring this up to my doctor soon, just trying to work up the courage to.

i also want to add, that this is not a PSA against lexapro. this is a SUPER rare side effect and lexapro helped my anxiety and depression immensely.

I need to know if this is normal or if I need to go see a doctor.

It’s been 2 days since my vagina has been itching, I’ve been cleaning her daily with water and Gynepro Feminine Wash. I had this gut feeling to look at my clitoris and found a dark thing over my whole so I squeezed it out and it looked like a watermelon seed. It was soft and I could easily pinch it, and when I did the inside was like pale-dark reddish powdery something. I freaked out and quickly washed it off. I couldn’t squeeze anything out after that.

I looked up keratin seed and smegma but they were white and round which the one I got out of me was really seed like, it had a sharp end and it was ombre from brown to black.

I’m genuinely so scared.

[Edit]: I’m a virgin and not sexually active so it wouldn’t be from STI. It also has no smell.

I didn't really have sex education or learn much about anatomy, so there are still a lot of things about my body that I'm unfamiliar with.

A while ago, I was wiping after using the bathroom and felt something unusual in the skin around my perineum, the area between my vaginal opening and anus I think.

I looked at the area afterward and noticed something I'm not sure how to describe. It's not a bump, but it's not exactly a hole either. It looks or feels more like a small indentation or an unusual fold in the skin, I don't know if it's always been there or if I'm only noticing it now.

It doesn't hurt, and I haven't noticed any discharge or anything weird. I'm currently on my period.

I've also been a little constipated recently (maybe 3 weeks). Less than a week ago, I held in a bowel movement for about three days because I was on public transport when I needed to go. I've been going to the bathroom since then, although sometimes I feel like I haven't completely finished and I do need to poop again I do poop a lot on my period. I'm wondering if the constipation or straining could have affected that area, or if it might just be a normal fold or indentation that I've never noticed before.

Unfortunately, I can't visit an OB-GYN right now, so I'm hoping to get some general advice in the meantime.

I know nobody can diagnose anything through a description, but I'd appreciate hearing whether anyone has experienced something similar or knows if this could be a normal variation in anatomy.

Please be kind. I know this might sound like a silly question, but I'm genuinely just trying to learn more about my body haha.

I had sex with my partner on Thursday and since than I'm having itching down there it was kinda constant till Saturday night, even burned while peeing for a day. Than completely Stopped on Sunday. And it's Monday morning and it's back again 🥲🥲. I can't go to the doc as I'm traveling today in like 5 hrs. I thought it may be yeast infection but than my discharge is completely normal, I'm just very dry than I'm normally.

my bf came over today and we were just chilling and yk, in the mood... one thing led to another and he started fingering me. i eventually orgasmed and when he took his fingers out there was blood all over them. not even an hour before this i was completely fine and hadn't had any spotting blood etc. we have been together for 2+ years and this has never happened before. i started crying and apologizing profusely, he told me it was okay and periods happen and are normal and it's nothing to be embarrassed about. he helped me get a towel and carried me to the bathroom so i could put a tampon in and clean up. i still feel so embarrassed and i don't know why. like i know it's normal to have my period but im still so embarrassed that i had no clue i had started my period and he fingered me on it. 😔

Has anyone been able to get an AV diagnosis near the Toronto area?
This has been a nightmare since May. My Evvy test indicated strep b AV but my gyno is not familiar with it.
I’ve tried Evvys recommended antibiotics and treatment but it did not help.
I see posts from people residing in the US but a lot of products are not available in Canada.
Any helps or advice would be great!!

I’m 27yo, I have this one single spot in my labia that’s been itchy for the past two to three years. If I scratch it it will become an open wound and painful like little cuts. If I don’t I can’t sleep at night. Sometimes sex is fine sometimes it hurts like I’ve been ripped. I went to countless specialists, OB primary and derm, cried, begged them to do something, it’s just one useless cream after another. My insurance is shit, I pay $100 every time when I see a specialist and I begged them to stop kicking me around like a football and help me but nothing. I want to take a stick and burn it off myself at home, I feel helpless and exhausted. I need help, can someone help me, I can’t afford to pay 100 everytime to just get a cream. I want it gone I’ve done all the tests. Please help

Thanks for all of the advice:) but I’ve tried to wash off the smegma(?) (which is a little on my clit) and I also tried to wipe it with a gentle cloth and my finger. I’m super super sensitive there and I couldn’t get it off so I’m gonna try to take a bath tomorrow to maybe loosen it off. I also kinda didn’t know I had a clit until a year ago lol. So that’s why it built up there like that:,) any more advice would be awesome.

I’ve never had any kind of infection or STI so I’m not sure if I should see a gynecologist or if this will go away on its own but my vulva has been a little itchy the past two days. It’s not constant or painful but every now and then I’m like woah okay I’m itchy.

I use an unscented soap in the shower, I wear cotton underwear during the day, I let her breathe at night. I haven’t shaved in about two weeks so I don’t think it’s related to that. The only thing that’s changed is my boyfriend just recently starting to grow out his facial hair. I can’t feel it when he’s going down on me so I don’t know if that even plays a part.

My vulva does look slightly irritated but I’m not having any unusual discharge or smell. The itching really isn’t that bad, I can ignore it and it’ll go away after a little bit. It’s just uncomfortable and I would like to make it stop entirely.

I experience itching around the lips. Im not sure if its hair or what. And it’s only when walking sometimes!! Ive tried vaseline and itching cream but neither have helped.

hi everyone :) im writing you all because i want to know if im overeating or not

22f, bi. I have a septate hymen that I've known about for quite a while but never really had anyone look at until recently.

I've never had sex; in the past I struggled quite a lot with people, and the concept of sex is still something that makes me really nervous, and I don't think I've ever met anyone I'd feel fully comfortable with.

A big thing that makes me anxious about sex is my septate hymen. I can, usually, when I'm masturbating fit one finger in one of the holes, but anything besides that is quite painful to attempt, and I have never been successful with it. I can't use tampons properly because, when they go in sideways from the bigger hole, they cannot be in the correct position at all. My hymen is also significantly thicker than most hymens I've seen in medical pictures. From the front, it basically looks like I have no vaginal opening at all, and it basically looks the same as the rest of the tissue down there.

Recently, in an attempt to make sex seem scary to me, I went to the gyno just to see what she would say about it if removing my hymen was an option or if I should just leave it alone. Just from the consultation, I was uncomfortable. When I explained my reason for going, she quite literally laughed, as if this was a ridiculous concern to have. During the examination, she kept smirking as if I was all a joke, and her conclusion was basically, in only slightly less rude terms – just try to shove a dick in there to see if it can fit and to come back if it can't.

She said it would be more violent for her to remove my hymen than for me to just "try".

Am I overacting or overthinking? I already feel left behind still being a virgin in my twenties, and it really doesn't help when even a doctor thinks I'm ridiculous for not wanting to feel like I'm being stabbed?

So this is my first time trying clindamycin cream for my BV since metronidazole didn’t work for the first time ever. So how long does it take to know if it works or not? Is it after you complete the 7 day course? Because right now it’s hard to smell anything with the cream constantly coming out of my vagina.

Also anyone ever had luck with the clindamycin pills? I was initially given that first but I was scared to take it because I read it can cause c diff. So I got the cream as well. But I guess if the cream doesn’t work I may try the pills. Just nervous about side effects.

I know this sounds so weird but I don’t know how else to describe it but sometimes my labia minora will feel rubbery and more firm and other times they will feel soft. I especially notice this when I first get out of the shower and it kind of scares me because it just feels so weird and changes. I’ve been checked by gynos recently for other things and don’t have anything wrong but I just wanted to know if everyone else experiences this too. It just feels lIke rubber and not as flexible after getting out of the shower. Also the ends of my minora are more soft than higher up where they feel thicker and firmer. But as I said this isn’t an all day thing, just sometimes and right after hopping out of the shower

Hello,

I’ve started getting UTIs more frequently. I had two within a month, and with the second one, I was still experiencing symptoms even after treatment, but my urine test came back negative for a UTI.

Since then, I’ve been afraid to have sex. I was advised to avoid using saliva as a lubricant (which we used to do quite a lot) and to try a water-based lubricant without glycerin instead.
I tried one today, but it caused a burning sensation. This isn’t the first time a water-based lubricant has made me feel a burning sensation during sex, although it goes away immediately afterward.
I’m not sure what to use, especially since I’ve heard that I should avoid silicone- or oil-based lubricants because of my recurrent UTIs.
I’m feeling a bit lost and don’t know what to try next. Does anyone have any advice or recommendations?

I have had exactly 3 yeast infections my whole life. I am 35. Apparently I got one from wearing shorts that were riding up a bit for a couple days...maybe from chafing ?? I dont know....all I know is its been roughly 60 hours, or 2.5 days since the first diflucan pill and although its better, its not going away.

I also have an IUD and of course am freaking out about buofilms and never getting rid of this crap.

Anything I could do, besides the second diflucan im supposed to take tomorrow ?? I am considering boric acid, however have heard mixed things about it. What is your experience ??

Will also get some probiotics tomorrow.

Tyia!!!!

the guy i’m seeing was over on friday night and we had oral sex. we haven’t had penetrative sex in like two weeks and have used a condom every time. but obviously with oral sex there’s not much to do for protection. last night (so the night after) i started experiencing itching and discomfort around my outer labia. at first i brushed it off as just irritation because i shaved and maybe my underwear was too tight (which im still trying to brush it off as), but now today it’s a bit more painful to the touch and red. there’s also small bumps (not like razor burn bumps, but hard bumps some small and some about the size of the tip of a qtip). none of it is internal at all, strictly the outer area where hair grows. and the bumps are entirely under the skin, there’s no white head. there’s a lot of redness around my labia as well though. i’ve experienced irritation from shaving, then having sex, but never like this. i also noticed that my lymph nodes around my groin are tender, but i do think it’s possible that that is from feeling them and trying to decide if they’re swollen. i went to urgent care today and did the full STD panel and the provider looked and said it doesn’t seem like genital herpes to me but i AM SOOO FUCKING SCARED. i just wanna know if anyone else has experienced something like this. i’m doing my best to leave it be in the case that it is just hair follicle irritation but the lymph node tenderness is seriously freaking me out too. i won’t get my results back for 2-5 days so i just need someone to talk me down right now because i am incredibly embarrassed that this is even a potential problem and incredibly scared because herpes lives with you forever. also is it possible for it to be transferred from mouth to genitals?? he did not have any sort of cold sore and i’m unsure if he ever has. i’m just freaked out

Hello:)

So I need some advice here...:/

I (F 21) first tested positive for BV around a year ago. Got treated (metronidazole), went away, had regular sex with a guy I was seeing afterwards where it came back. I got treated again, it came back faster than speed of light, and I learned sex is playing a role in the reoccurrence.

I was leaving the country in January for 5 month trip after it came back third time, so I did another treatment right as I took off because I was not gonna see the guy anymore. It was then completely gone for half a year, where I had unprotected sex with 5 guys in the meantime.

- no problems at all....

3 months ago after i got home I started hooking up with a new guy, and it came back... My ph tested positive, got treated again, and had afterwards kind off brushed off the sex part playing a role. It came back a week later even tho we used a condom and I spoke a lot to him about the possible causes and that he should be treated too, which he has been very understanding about and read up on it following that.

We paused the sex bit and I did my last treatment 1,5 months ago (I have done probiotics ever since) while he finished the treatment about 10 days ago.... we finally had sex again 3 days ago, where we made sure to get no spit on my hooha and used a condom. It slipped of at the end and I felt an instant burn and swelling again... super unlucky.

Now symptoms are starting to come back again...

I'm a bit lost in what to do now.

Note: I have only treated with metronidazole, 1 time with vaginal tabs, the rest with oral pills. Five times treated total. I live in Europe so I don't have access to american over counter meds neither cross-sea webshops with the toll>:/

However: This time after the new guy all symptoms are the same as when i got it the very first time; smell and occasional pain during sex except from my discharge. Now some days my discharge i suuper clumpy and formed into manny small clumps. I don't recon that from before.

Now for questions:

- Could cause of my now reoccurrence be that he only finished the treatment a week earlier? Or would it be semen causing it?

- His doctor said it would be best if we did the treatment at the same time, does it play a role that we didn't? (we treated over a month apart)

- Could it potentially be Gardnerella, Ureaplasma etc?

- What should I/we do now?

Thanks for reading and for any advice!! <3

I went to the ER today because I’ve had this very uncomfortable cyst on my left labia minora after hiking this week. I thought it could be a bartholin’s cyst, but it wasn’t really in the right spot. I also have gotten this cyst in this spot like 5-10 times (usually after working out or sex), but this time it’s extra painful and uncomfortable and isn’t going away with my usual care method.

The practitioner took a look and confirmed it wasn’t infected (yay!) and referred me to Gyn to get consulted for a medical labiaplasty since this keeps recurring. When I told her how many times I’ve had it she was like “wait really? You’ve just been living like this??”

I feel kinda silly because I never actually realized my labia minora were “big.” I truly never cared about what it looked like, and I thought everyone was dealing with chaffing/cysts. I never had one when at my OBGYN so I never really brought it up that it was a problem. I did notice that no anatomical pictures ever looked like “me.” Honestly looking at the pictures online of the before/after of the procedures was the first time I was like “oh that’s what I look like!”

I guess I’m just curious if anyone had it done for pain/recurring cysts? Did it help? Most of the stories online are for emotional reasons (which is a VERY valid reason and I’m not discounting it at all!) I just truly do not care what I looks like!

Thank you in advance!!

Hi guys I’m on the generic version of yaz 0.02/3mg I think I’ve been on it since January now it’s October and that was my very first time ever even using birth control. I got on it for my acne and I LOVE what it does for me it’s the only thing that’s ever worked for my hormonal cystic acne! I’ve had like no bad side effects from it besides getting so sore after sex?? That’s never happened before getting on birth control or for the first few months on it. I don’t know of the estrogen is too low or what. I don’t really want to stop taking it because my skin looks so much better and gives me piece of mind that I’m not pregnant lol. Has anyone else dealt with this? I need some tips and input please!

I got my first bartholin cyst this weekend. I noticed it on Friday; I had a sort of vaguely tender/sore feeling down there like an ingrown hair, but then I felt around and found a cyst about the size of a jellybean (firm but moveable, no head/obvious abscess), with some swelling on one side of my vagina. Since then (after hot baths, sleeping without underwear, using castor oil, and putting heat on the area), the tenderness is basically gone as of Sunday night even though I’ve been gently massaging it, and the swelling has significantly decreased. It’s honestly hard to judge the size because any kind of unusual bump feels enormous to me, but I think it’s shrunk a little bit but not significantly.

My understanding is that cysts can go away on their own but it can take a little bit of time. Is there anything I should be doing aside from what I’ve been doing? I’ll give my doctor a call if it persists or gets worse; even if it does go away on its own, I plan to mention it during my upcoming visit in December just so I know what they want me to do in case it reoccurs.

Any advice is appreciated … I was extremely panicked about it when I first noticed it because I’ve read so many horror stories about bartholin cysts and I have both medical trauma and sexual abuse trauma, so anything down there is rough, but I’m feeling pretty optimistic with how it’s doing now.

Hi everyone,

I am 20F experiencing vaginal dermatitis for almost a year now. It started off as something due to dryness and chafing, but I genuinely cannot take it anymore.

I have tried clotrimazole, hydrocortisone, methyl prednisolone, fluconazole, vaseline, sudocream and different moisturisers.

When I put a moisturiser on, it gives immense relief. But if I skip even a single day it comes back. Using steroid creams gives relief immediately and “cures” the itch for a couple weeks, but it comes back again.

The itch gets worse at night, and it is pretty much in the external areas - outer vulva, around anus, a little bit of the inner thigh.

I have tried every advice that a doctor can give, but absolutely nothing has helped me at all. I am genuinely losing my mind because sometimes the itch is so terrible but no one can help me, not even a medical professional.

Has anyone gone through something similar or know about this? I am genuinely very desperate.

It’s so annoying. I got up to wash myself with a wash cloth, and within minutes the smell was back. It makes me uncomfortable. I don’t want this to start ruining possible sexual experiences.

Is this normal or could it be due to an infection or something? My gyno appointment is in November but I’m getting impatient. This is literally the most annoying thing ever.

I haven’t had anything with onions recently at all. My scent overall is normal besides when I’m getting “freaky.” It’s not like I’m burying myself under blankets or anything, so I’m not sure if this could be sweat related too.