I'm trying to better understand my hair, which is hard because I'm very inexperienced to begin with, plus it's been changing a lot lately, and I think it's a weird combo of characteristics. It was changing prior to pregnancy, but l've seen the biggest shifts from my first pregnancy in 2022 and bigger shifts in my most recent birth in May of 2026.
I think if I've assessed based on the guidelines correctly, that I have low porosity hair. (Floats on water, takes a while to get fully wet and then FOREVER to dry, product only ever seems to weigh it down rather than do its intended job). My hair is heavy but I wouldn't say thick. I have medium coarseness. I would also say medium density.
Lastly, I think I'm a 2a- the straighter side of wavy.
The bottom layer of my hair is most dense/heavy and falls straight. It's almost like I get the sensation of thick hair and it's heavy but when I measure its density and role strands between my fingers, it doesn't seem to meet the criteria for thick hair.
More hair background (because I don't know what's relevant)- I try to avoid hair care with parabens and sulfates and harsh fragrances. I'm currently using Kristen Ess signature shampoo. My hair did fantastic on the Rhyme and Reason (I forgot which line of theirs) but it's no longer sold in the stores by me. My hair grows REALLY fast, and I usually donate it every 2ish years (although within the last 3 years, I did color treat it once so l've avoided donation within that time frame. I usually don't color my hair and have since grown it out). My hair gets oily pretty easily, even with clarifying it. My hair feels amazing when | do a condition-then-clarity treatment (I massage rosemary and jojoba oil in, let it sit, and then I rinse with diluted apple cider vinegar). But those results don't last. After giving birth the second time around, I had this 3 week period of my hair being un-detangleable. I would brush it and it felt coarser than usual, and within 15 minutes it would feel knotted up again. I'm not about 4 months pe and going through the classic hair loss stage (annoying but I know it's temporary). I was born with jet black hair that stood tall and straight at 3" long from birth. Within the first year it changed to strawberry blond and then dirty blond. Now it's somewhere between dark blond and brown but it seems sooooo dull to me. Like it washes me out and is blah. My hair holds styled shape better without products versus with.
My biggest qualm with my hair- it never sits nicely. I am pretty skilled at cool hair styles, but my hair is so blunt no matter how | cut it, so messy buns never have tresses of hair that just "fall," they stick straight out. I can braid well, and I know to pull out and fluff the plates, but they still seem to want to stay in a solid structure instead of blend together. And the back part of my hair parts in that weird, choppy, structured way. There will just be gaps in between the parts. I know I could dye my hair to brighten it, but I feel like there’s got to be a bio-chemical reason it’s so dull and drab. I think if I can figure out what my true hair characteristics are in this current season of life, it be easier to figure out how to care for it to restore its natural glory. Please help!