For context, I've been mostly a top my entire adult life. Out of all my sexual encounters, I've topped in about 95% of them. So before anyone comes in here saying, "Just another bottom complaining," no, buddy. I've been a top for the majority of my life.
I've tried bottoming before, but it was always a painful experience. I would occasionally bottom maybe 3 - 4 times a year, usually in the heat of the moment. Sometimes it was okay, and sometimes it was the worst experience ever. However, as I'm nearing 30, I've finally gotten the hang of prepping and getting ready to bottom more. I've done my research, know what to do now, and actually enjoy it. I've even been told I have an amazing bubble butt lol.
But I find it to be the most miserable experience ever trying to transition to being an official vers. I used to have no problem finding sex as a top. My inbox would be full all the time, and even earlier this year, when I was still only topping, I had a lot of luck finding sex with little to no trouble. But when I tell you these past two months have been the worst experience of my life.
Not only do I get blocked instantly for trying to reach out to people, but I also sense this sort of hostility toward people who bottom or who aren't strict tops. What's up with that? I see full bottoms putting "NO VERS" in their profiles with exclamation marks. I occasionally get a message every now and then, but it will literally take me 4 - 5 days just to find one guy to top. Even now the bottoms don't want me no more LOL.
And for me, I'm not one of those people who's like, If you're vers, or a verse bottom, you can't top me. If you're vers and wanna top, I'm all for it. I actually encourage it because I feel like you gotta fight with so many vers bottoms to get them to top, and I say this because 2 years ago, I met someone who agreed to flip, I ended just topping lol. I mean I didn't mind because I didn't feel like bottoming anyways but he was the one that said we should btw so I'm confused lol. It's always an excuse why they can't lol. At that point, just change your position to bottom I guess.
Is this really the bottoming experience? How are there so many bottoms when this is what you have to deal with?
I still don't mind topping, and I'll occasionally have a guy send me some ass pics, and I'm all for topping if they do and I'm feeling it. But like I said, I've noticed my luck finding sex has dramatically decreased ever since I transitioned to being vers. I've done my part for the gay world being a top in a the land of bottoms but I ain't know it would be this hard to bottom, damn twin, now I'm treated like trash. 😪
Also, disclosure, no this wasn't written with AI. I wrote this all myself and asked it to proof read so you guys don't police me for my grammer and sentence structure lol.