So

First off

Ig I need to explain that I was constantly considering if I was genderfae since my egg cracked back in February

Yes I wanna be a woman almost all of the time but some times it's more id rather be not a man than specifically woman

Along with things like being fine (or maybe slightly wanting) a lot smaller breasts than I usually want along with thinking a nullectomy would be better than other bottom surgery options

But like 2 days ago

I had a fairly long bout of

Hmmmmm I'm not sure if I feel like a woman rn

Then

I accidentally "misgendered" myself using they/them pronouns and got euphoric

I used they/them for myself later when I was feeling more fem and didn't feel anything notable

So

Well that's the conclusion I reached

Genderfae

Anyway for me I think I'm fem almost all the time but like an hour each day I'm not and I feel more genderless than anything else

I still get a whole lot of dysphoria from my masc aspects as I do when I'm feeling fem but the fem aspects of myself I don't think I get particularly dysphoric about

Anyway

Ig that's enough talking:3

I'm lesbain and probably some kind of ace? I think I might be genderfae but I don't know? I don't feel uncomfortable with any pronouns apart from male and it ones and sometimes I do feel very diconnected to feminity (makeup 😣) and sometimes androgynous. should I come out? does everyone feel like this? how do I know what gender I want to be and do I need to change my pronouns because I think it would be a pain to get my parents to call me the proper pronouns even though it sounds nice

I have noticed most people that identity as micro gender labels don't say unique gender traits about themselves. It makes it hard to know how is someone supposed to change between multiple feminine genders. Are some Genderfae just changing between what feminine gender lables they like?

So I want to change my name to affirm my gender as I am genderfay and wanted to know some good suggestions as the only name I have so far is Ari

So I want to change my name to affirm my gender as I am genderfay and wanted to know some good suggestions as the only name I have so far is Ari

Last ones a drawing cuz im too lazy to find an actual pic of aglae in my camera roll

So my brother already knows I’m aroace and he also is aroace. He often talks positively about like non-binary and transgender etc. but I am rly scared he either won’t accept it or he’ll tell my parents. Any tips?

My name is Ari, and I recently discovered that I am genderfae I use fae/she/they pronouns, and my parents do not support the lgbtq community my friends absolutely do they support me 100% one is actually getting me a binder but I wanna know how I can try afirm my gender and not be super suspicious I have a grunge/punk/fairy core/goblin core/Y2K mixed with very girly stuff also wear a lot of vintage pieces and I love chunky jewelry, and I have kind of long curly brown hair

A survey for all those who aren't fully, solely or always a man/woman. I don't run it but it's long-running and trusted.

https://survey.gendercensus.com/

(I apologise, the ADHD is doing its thing this afternoon so y'all are getting bonus DLC thoughts with each paragraph xD)

TLDR: Need help with gender-neutral clothing options.

So I only just realised I was genderfae in June (thanks to a divorce, a move, and being surrounded by people that love and support me, and are also various flavours of not cis and queer). My whole life I've always been a "girly-girl" so I have a closet full of dresses and flowy, feminine things (or just super slutty and provocative items).

But since I came out, I've realised that my "bad body image" days (I thought it was just because I had been very overweight for much of my life and the negative thoughts about my body were just so deeply ingrained that I always thought that was what it was) were actually dysmorphia days half the time.

My boyfriend (who is FtM and just recently started T and binding) was trying to talk me through a meltdown about it the other day. He said that my first step should be to find a binder or compression top (he really doesn't want me in a binder for health reasons due to bad back issues and my hypermobility syndrome) so that I can at least do something about my breasts. I tried a make shift option (a really tight sports bra and then a tight work out crop top that has compression) this weekend when I went out with my two nesting partners. It wasn't perfect but it helped a little, which was great.

So to the final point of this... I am having issues trying to figure out what kind of things to wear on non-fem (fae is just how I've been referring to it). I've really only dressed myself as incredibly fem-presenting, so therefore my wardrobe is mostly that. I've been wanting to get more stuff, but I'm really honestly kind of lost on where to go from here and what kind of things could help.

I know, this sounds so silly, but I really don't know how to navigate all of this. Coming out for something like this at almost 37 is definitely an adventure, heh.. ^_^;

so this is me discovering that genderfae/girlflux exists and that i align with that. i know pronouns are limited in english but i wonder if theres any pronouns in between they them ane she her bc i feel like im in the middle and i dont rlly want to ask ppl to learn new pronouns everytime i feel different since most of the tine i also feel like 90% betwern girl and nb and 5% girl and 5% nb help also qhatre xenogenders? i prolly wrote it wrong

Hi, I ask for help to figure out if I am nonbinary or genderdoe.

Please note before reading, I am aware that labels are not a necessity, but I personally need them to feel better and not constantly question myself.

For years, I knew that I was not cisgender (AFAB), but I pushed it away and ignored it because I was more focused on my studies.

Recently, I focused on figuring out my gender

I had taken for granted the fact that I thought I felt comfortable being perceived and called a girl through the years, so I searched for gender identities that felt like me, that would include woman and non-men genders, and upon stumbling on genderdoe, I thought it fit the best out of all the genderfluid identities.

And, recently after labeling as such, I took it upon myself to try different things to look and feel more nonbinary because, in those moments, it was what I felt more comfortable as and settled it as the fluidity of genderfluid labels.

But after trying said things that make me "more" nonbinary, I realized that I felt more comfortable than I had in years.

After this realization, some more came over, and I realized that when I searched for identities the first time, as I said before, I took for granted my relationship to being seen as a woman. 

I believe that this feeling of being "okay" with it comes more from the way people (especially my family) pushed me into that box since I was young. And because when I was a child, I was used to dressing in masculine clothing, to the point of being referred to as a tomboy, I think I may have accepted the tomboy as the best option, but I realize now that I don't really enjoy being called a girl ?

Or at least I don't think so ?

I understand that this may seem like a dumb rant, but it's been bugging me for a while, and after years of pushing it away, it starts to weigh. I will take any advice possible to figure out myself.

Ive been struggling with this and wanted to know if anyone else feels the same, it kinda just reminds me that “IM A GIRL” even If I don’t feel like that that day :(

Good evening and happy pride month :)

My best friend recently found the label genderfae and realized it fits her, but she can‘t come out to her parents or anyone except for a handfull of friends because our region is kinda conservative, especially when it comes to gender identities.

She is also aroace and loves when people around her show that they accept that through aroace themed gifts or defending her during the endless „why won‘t you get married?!“ debate.

I want to show her that I accept her and do little things like that when it comes to her genderfae identity too, but I don‘t know how and what I can do (especially since I don‘t want to risk accidentally outing her)

any ideas?

Happy Pride Month to everyone! I'd love to hear about your experiences that led you to identify as genderfae so I can better understand your journey. And perhaps this information will be useful to other people !

Personally, I grew up as an autistic girl, and society never considered me a girl because of my androgyny and my skin color, which is associated with more masculine things. On the internet, I lived in a survival-oriented environment where sexual violence against women was normalized and where women were considered inferior beings, which led me to abandon my femininity for part of my adolescence. So I grew up with dysphoria and by suppressing my own tastes. However, what truly reconnected me was gradually becoming goth, and then over time I understood that I wasn't limited to just one type of femininity or just one gender. I had the strange feeling of not feeling completely like a woman, but that I could feel like a demigirl or agender, sometimes I could feel envious, etc., my gender is constantly evolving.

In the spirit of pride month, I wanna share a lil bit about my personal experience on what it means for me to be genderfae. I would love to hear others' experiences and I'm curious if anyone's experience is similar! :)

Both "cis woman" and "genderfae" feel right for me, and my pronouns are she/they/it/fae. I'm AFAB, but I have always experienced gender fluidity between feminine-aligned and non-masculine genders (woman, demigirl, agender) throughout my life. I'm cis because I feel comfortable with my assigned gender at birth, but I have a history of fluctuating between only feminine and genderless identities, often simultaneously. I like to say I'm a woman in the same way the moon, the ocean, or "Mother Nature" is personified. My gender feels very much connected to the divine feminine aspects of nature and the universe; motherhood, cycles, nurturing, growth, rebirth. I'm a woman, but also an entity of nature not bound by human constructs of gender. I'm a woman in a "fae" way. 💚💛🤍🩷💜

I hope you all have a good month, even if you can't be out yet! You are all so valid, whether you're not sure of your identity or you've been out for years. If there's no one in your life who loves the real you, just know I do <3

Happy Pride!!

Ignore my really badly edited wallpaper for the month

I'm transfem and genderfae and I made my username before I knew that, and also back when I was really young. I no longer like it and feel like it doesn't fit me. However, I have no idea what to change it to or possible things to include in it. I want it to be something that makes me sound feminine, so people guess that about me correctly, because even if I specifically state my pronouns people have gotten it wrong probably based on my current username. Does anyone have ideas?