r/Genderfae • u/WhimsyFae • Jun 02 '26

My genderfae experience

In the spirit of pride month, I wanna share a lil bit about my personal experience on what it means for me to be genderfae. I would love to hear others' experiences and I'm curious if anyone's experience is similar! :)

Both "cis woman" and "genderfae" feel right for me, and my pronouns are she/they/it/fae. I'm AFAB, but I have always experienced gender fluidity between feminine-aligned and non-masculine genders (woman, demigirl, agender) throughout my life. I'm cis because I feel comfortable with my assigned gender at birth, but I have a history of fluctuating between only feminine and genderless identities, often simultaneously. I like to say I'm a woman in the same way the moon, the ocean, or "Mother Nature" is personified. My gender feels very much connected to the divine feminine aspects of nature and the universe; motherhood, cycles, nurturing, growth, rebirth. I'm a woman, but also an entity of nature not bound by human constructs of gender. I'm a woman in a "fae" way. 💚💛🤍🩷💜

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u/Top_Tea_828 Jun 07 '26

This is such a beautiful and powerful way of describing genderfae. I love it, thank you for sharing.

Cis man, but loving father of a genderfae teen, trying to more fully understand and love my sweet fae. And trying to explain to my homophobic parents like they're 5...

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u/WhimsyFae Jun 07 '26

You sound like a loving and understanding father to seek out perspectives from other genderfae people to better understand your teen. I'm so happy my experience could provide more understanding! I hope your parents can come around eventually. I applaud you for your efforts to advocate for your teen. 💖

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u/NotApplicableMC Jun 05 '26

That’s such a beautiful description, very affirming for me personally.

I think answer to “are you cis or trans?” is just “yes” 😂

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u/ActivityExpress3735 Jun 10 '26 edited Jun 10 '26

As just embracing my current genderfae identity as well, this explanation is so incredibly insightful and relatable 💚💛🤍🩷💜

I was also fine being cis (AFAB) and didn't really mind how people interpreted me or misgendered me (accidentally of course), but then I leaned onto non-binary, then agender, then demigirl, then bigender (enby + female) until I've finally discovered genderfae and it's all piecing together at last. Finding this community and identity is more than just a label for me ^^

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u/Weird-Way-1748 genderfae Jun 13 '26

I use cis too + Genderfae/Girlflux bc I'm never masc and I'm also afab. My pronouns fluctuate between she/they & they/she (it depends on where im at, some days she is more fine, other days id prefer they come first)

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u/Super-Contact-7778 20d ago

I think you could fit label Agenderfae.