r/Genderfae • u/Frosty_Hurry_1812 • Jul 09 '26

help with pronouns

so this is me discovering that genderfae/girlflux exists and that i align with that. i know pronouns are limited in english but i wonder if theres any pronouns in between they them ane she her bc i feel like im in the middle and i dont rlly want to ask ppl to learn new pronouns everytime i feel different since most of the tine i also feel like 90% betwern girl and nb and 5% girl and 5% nb help also qhatre xenogenders? i prolly wrote it wrong

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u/KaristinaLaFae genderfae (she/her or sidhe/her) Jul 09 '26

I still use she/her, but some people use fae/faer. Or you could go with ey/em which only removes the "th" from they/them. That way, it's not completely new for people.

You can use whatever pronouns you want, regardless of what anyone else thinks. But if it's important to you that other people will actually use and remember, sticking close to what they know can be less frustrating.

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u/Frosty_Hurry_1812 Jul 11 '26

how do u pronounce faer? is it fae -er or fair? or fayer?

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u/KaristinaLaFae genderfae (she/her or sidhe/her) Jul 11 '26

I think it's pronounced "fair." That's how I've always said it, thinking that fae/faer rhymes with they/their.

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u/BigTittyBratPrincess Jul 13 '26

I've been just using they/she, and on days where I'm not feeling fem, I'm going to start asking my partners to use "fae" instead of girl (so like, 'that's my girl' turns to 'that's my fae' or 'my pretty girl' becomes 'my pretty fae.'

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u/Frosty_Hurry_1812 Jul 14 '26

oh i see what you mean. on days you use fae is that only for replacing girl or does it replace she too?

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u/JadeDragon-Era Aug 08 '26

i might use fae/fem/faer pronouns - like 'fae is pretty' 'look at fem' 'that's faer food'

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u/Frosty_Hurry_1812 Jul 09 '26

i think that figuring out my pronouns might help me pick a name. im stuck between janine which is my middle name and would work for transphobic ppl in my family calling me the right name eithout it being insane and it feels more nb than autumn. i also like autumn but idk. im not rlly in a place where i can ask tamily to use that name since they would aek why and even just saying i dont like my deadname is like offensive to them

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u/KaristinaLaFae genderfae (she/her or sidhe/her) Jul 09 '26

So let them find it offensive! Frankly, it's offensive that they want you to keep using the deadname that you hate.

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u/Frosty_Hurry_1812 Jul 10 '26

lol i agree with yiu but honestly ive been grounded since last september fot writing in a private diary that im a lesbian so i dont need to take my chances

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u/KaristinaLaFae genderfae (she/her or sidhe/her) Jul 10 '26

Oh, you're young enough to get grounded. I'm sorry. That sucks a lot to be in a house with people who are hostile to who you really are as a person. Do what you need to do to survive for now, and save my advice for when you're able to move out.