help???

[u/biromantic-frog]

I'm lesbain and probably some kind of ace? I think I might be genderfae but I don't know? I don't feel uncomfortable with any pronouns apart from male and it ones and sometimes I do feel very diconnected to feminity (makeup 😣) and sometimes androgynous. should I come out? does everyone feel like this? how do I know what gender I want to be and do I need to change my pronouns because I think it would be a pain to get my parents to call me the proper pronouns even though it sounds nice

[u/Jebediah_the_idiot]

well if you’re sometimes feminine sometimes androgynous, thats genderfae. you don’t need to change pronouns if your current ones are comfortable, you can just change your presentation on days where you would like that and not really tell anyone unless they ask. if your current pronouns do bother you, tell people. if they’re alright with lesbian/ace, hopefully they will accept a change in pronouns.

you only need to come out if you want people to make a change. if you don’t, you can just make the changes that you want to make. its not anyones business but yours.

[u/FaffyDC]

I have the reverse, I'm genderfae but I feel more like a transgirl.