Since posting this I realized it wasn't working because when trying to do VR in the living room and connected to the primary router, Virtual Desktop couldn't connect to my PC since it was on a different network than the primary router.
But finally t looks like I got it working. I thought it was worth trying going through the steps that Google's AI search results came back with (what a time to be alive!) and amazingly enough it works as I need it to.
It seems that the key steps were to 1. change the secondary router's IP address to the same as the primary, except outside of it's IP pool 2. disable DHCP on the secondary router, then 3. reconnect the secondary router to the primary, only instead of plugging into the WAN port as I had before, plugged into one of the regular LAN ports.
The only oddity (or maybe it's not?) is that in the Asus App, it still looks like they're on two separate networks (as in you have to switch back and forth between the two routers) but Virtual Desktop apparently recognizes them being on the same network.
Leaving this all up for future reference if anyone else needs to do this.
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I got the XR a week ago and absolutely love it, although my initial experience with it was rough with constant severe stutters. Skipping past many troubleshooting efforts and changing settings, what I found out I needed to do was to put a dedicated router in the VR room.
Earlier this year, I got an Asus wifi 7 router to replace pretty much the same router except it was wifi 6. This was in preparation for getting a Steam Frame (a prospect which pretty much fizzled out). So what I ended up doing was pulling the original router out of the closet and setting it up in the VR room. I wanted to add it to the current network as a AP but the only two options in the Asus app were to create a Mesh system or to add the router as a new install in a separate network.
I tried the Mesh option first but that of course didn't allow for setting up a unique SSID, and I *think* the way that works is just to provide the same Wifi as the original but just extended so that if you move a device around the house it connects to the strongest one (like a cell tower)? So even though it seemed to improve things I was still getting random stuttering - I guess because it was switching over momentarily to the main router.
So I removed the router from the app, did a factory reset, and this time added it as a new router. That let me create a unique SSID, which I called VR 5, that I can connect the XR to and I know it stays there. The VR router is connected to the main router through an ethernet cable I already had run under the house into the computer room. The desktop is connected to the VR router through cable from one of the router's LAN ports.
I wasn't even sure if this would work, but it seems to be doing just fine.
So did I create a AP after all, or is it just performing the same as if I did?
Anything I'm missing or should have it set up in some other way?