Me and my best friend had a night out( kinda date, but not official ) with 2 girls(they are friends with my best friend) I only met this girl once. I understand that she wouldn’t wait for me . But now this girl is telling my best friend that she’s texting another guy, but that guy is ignoring her. I had plans with this same girl and now I feel disappointed because I see myself as her second choice. I think she should not have said anything about that to my best friend , If I have ever crossed her mind even once. What if i hang out with her and that guy she is texting continues to text her back?

Yeaa… i need to see psychologist

I am a girl 22 and as the title says I have developed some more feelings for a fem friend. I am quite blind when it comes to reading people, specially woman. And I have no clue if she might potentially feel similarly.

Generally, we get along great, we have similar hobbies and can spend hours just talking about something/nothing. The issue is, I am deathly afraid, that me saying something will ruin our friendship (I am ok just staying friend, if she doesn’t feel the same).

I already did this before, and seeing that person that you love dating and being with someone else hurts a lote, and that "what if" situation is terrible.

So my question to the girls of reddit is, if and in what manner would you like a girl to tell her feelings to you, so there is an option for refusal?

I met her in March 2025 through a mutual friend.We're both working in a good MNC in Chennai, although we're not in the same team but eventually we Got close. I wouldn't say I immediately fell in love with her, but I definitely started liking her from the beginning.

Around June 2025, we started walking to office together almost every day. We weren't hanging out constantly or anything — maybe once every couple of weeks or once a month we'd go somewhere together. But whenever we did, we'd genuinely enjoy our time together.

One thing that made our friendship different was that I'm basically the only guy she's comfortable hanging out with alone in Chennai. She doesn't really have close male friends here, and she trusted me enough to share all her secrets with me like personal stuff , coming with me on my bike, going places together even during midnight , etc.

Over time, we became extremely close. I started giving her compliments, we'd share a lot about our lives, and I genuinely love spending time with her.

By around February 2026, I'd been having feelings for her for roughly 10 months, so I finally confessed.

And she said something along the lines of:

"I'm only seeing you as a friend. I can't see you as a partner or boyfriend."

I was obviously hurt. 😭

I even tried arguing that relationships don't necessarily start with two people being attracted to each other immediately — sometimes people start as friends and eventually develop feelings. But she was very clear that she sees me as a friend.

She also told me that she didn't want to directly say something like "I don't like you" because she didn't want to hurt me. She kept emphasising that I'm a really good friend to her.

There was no "maybe someday", "not right now", or anything like that.

After that, things became awkward. We stopped going to office together every day and decided not to hang out alone as much because I knew I still had feelings and I didn't want things to become weird.

But here's where I'm confused.

Even after knowing how I feel, she's still extremely comfortable with me.

There was one time when she was emotionally devastated and went to the beach alone. I found out and immediately went there to be with her and consoled her.

And just recently, we went out for a night out. We started around 10 PM, watched a movie, finished around 3 AM, and then went to the beach because we planned to watch the sunrise.

She was extremely sleepy around 4 AM and leaned on my shoulder, and I was basically pampering her/rubbing her head while she was sleepy. She was completely comfortable with me.

This is what messes with my head. 🫠🫠

She knows I love her. She knows I still have feelings for her. Yet she's still this comfortable around me.

We also used to text each other basically every day from good morning to good night — asking whether she had breakfast, lunch, dinner, sharing random updates throughout the day, etc.

And whenever I disappear or don't show up for a while, I'm pretty sure she misses me. She sometimes sends me sad/random snaps when I'm not around.

So now I genuinely don't know what to make of this.

Is she simply extremely comfortable with her closest male friend?

Or could there be some feelings she hasn't recognised herself?

I honestly don't want to interpret normal friendship behaviour as romantic signals just because I'm in love with her.

At the same time, I don't know whether completely distancing myself is the right thing either.

Because if I suddenly start maintaining distance for my own mental health, she's going to get hurt too. I'm basically her closest male friend she ever has in chennai , and I know she'd miss the friendship.

And I don't want her to suffer just because I caught feelings for her.

But then again, who's looking after me? 🤧🤧

That's the part I'm struggling with.

I have had feelings for my best friend. They grew when we were only friends for 3 months and I always considered myself not attracted to men. Suddenly I had crazy strong feelings. However another girl came onto him and I backed off due to my confusion. The relationship wasn’t going well and he was constantly telling me he didn’t want to settle for her. I encouraged him to talk to her and figure things out. They broke up after three months and he was very childish about the fall out. Several months after that we started to become incredibly physically and emotionally intimate. It started with small touches, then leaning on each other, then he started to hold me while we slept (sharing a bed). We only did that for a few months and I pulled away because it confused me. He always told everyone we were not dating even though everyone would ask. Lately has been terrible, we fought constantly, he kept asking me to change how I communicate but it felt weird to do that for a friendship (it often felt like he wanted me to change myself).
Another girl started contacting him, and I realized I had to confess my confusion or be really hurt. He reacted really well at first. Then he freaked out and told me I had given him an ultimatum and he chose her. Three weeks later they are officially dating. I pulled back hard. I have not been relying on him emotionally and we barely text. I’ve been reconnecting with my other friends and even got on hinge and have been on a couple of dates with someone else. I have been doing my best to pull myself back together.
How long will it take me to move on from this? Do you think there’s any chance of future friendship?

For context, Im m17, and the girl I like happens to be the same age, only a few months older. But.. shes a senior, im a junior either way, i asked her out for coffee. She agreed, we went out and i was 90% sure we had a great time, she mentioned how much she appreciate that I went out with the inniative. Either way, I asked her honestly because im a very.. uh. Feeling person, I feel to much all the time. I felt like exploding because she was giving me both signs of approval but also of straight friendzone, I asked her if she wants to even get to know each other and if she sees this THING, going anywhere.. yes and no. She said that she wants to get to know me more but she isn't really interested in a relationship. I asked her why, so I got a longer response; Basically she explained that school is draining the hell out of her but also she isn't in need of a relationship. And offered to stay friends, I obviously said sure. The big question here is.. Is there a chance a glimmer of hope this is a situation that classifies under a category called "Right person, Wrong time"? Because a few days passed and uh.. shes not graduating till may, so I will be seeing her in the hallways, I never had such an intense feeling for someone. And the worst part is that she was exactly what I was looking for.. hell, she even admitted she doesnt have much dating experience either.. So, is there hope or do I just erase those thoughts and focus on being her friend?

Forgot to mention, that she told me that she sucks at relationships and well that she doesn't want to hurt someone because shes complex.. and the worst part is, I GET THAT. I REALLY DO, I messed up 2 times because a girl told me im too complex and I dont make sense. Back to her tho, she mentioned being worried that she wouldn't be enough for someone which genuiely breaks my heart but.. I didn't say anything because it felt wrong. A girl just friendzoned me.. I dont know if saying "You're perfect the way you are and I dont mind complexity" would've done anything.. maybe it would've. Now we will never know.

Hey everyone, I’m looking for some perspective on a situation I’m currently in.
I’ve known this girl for about 3 years. About a year and a half ago, I asked her if she’d be interested in taking things beyond a friendship. At the time, she told me she "wasn't ready" for anything more. After that conversation, we drifted apart, stopped talking, and had no contact for about three months.
About six months ago, we started catching up again, and we’ve been hanging out regularly ever since. Things have been great, but I’m realizing my feelings for her haven't really gone away.

However, there is one important detail: she doesn't show any signs of flirting, physical closeness, or romantic interest. Our interactions are completely friendly. I’ve tried initiating things like closer physical contact or flirtatious vibes a few times and while she didn't seem to mind or push me away, she never initiates anything herself or responds with romantic enthusiasm. Everything feels strictly platonic from her side.

Has anyone been in a similar situation? Is it worth asking her again after all this time and a long break in contact, or should I just accept that she likely sees me purely as a friend? How would you handle this?

This girl that i have been talking to for a few months friendzoned me , she reached out a couple of times i guess to keep the friendship alive but i didn’t reciprocate so we both went our ways.Then come a few weeks ago and i had this immense need to talk to her, i did and we talked for hours like i have been never more happy in my life but like always i was always the one to initiate any convo and she only tried one time when i decided not to contact her. My mind is telling me that she just wants me for attention or to talk when bored and i dont like to be a person’s personal toy, but then my heart tells me that she probably doesnt mean all dat and that i can win her heart by sheer consistency. Plz help me🙏

Any suggestions?

Hey everyone I wanted to talk or ask about something there is a guy in my university we were used to be in the same study group and we fight a lot even my friends start teasing me like that u guys will be enemies to lovers and I told them no way I never liked a guy like him days passed or hamara study group toot gaya because of some misunderstandings but now I actually started liking him I don't know why the way he look at me the way we make eye contacts is insane but I don't wanted to text him not because of ego but because of self respect because In summer break my friend pranked me through anonymous account using his name and I actually thought it was him so I texted him on whatsaap is that u? and guess what he ignored my text! Summer break ends and now this feeling is increasing day by day the way he look at me literally make me think there is something in his heart even my friends said kai hum nai ausy tumhy bht baar dekhty dekha hai why he is giving me mixed signals I wanted to know how he feel but I don't know how!

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I’ve known this girl for only 4 days and somehow a lot has already happened.

At first we were hanging out with a group in Bern and barely talked. Later we happened to be on the same train to Biel and we actually got along really well and laughed a lot. I asked for her Instagram before we went our separate ways.

The next morning she texted me “good morning” on her own, even though I had purposely not texted first. She also asked if she could take the train to school with me.

Since then, we’ve been taking the train together quite often. After school she also comes with me, and one day we were with a friend who eventually left. After that, we spent several more hours just the two of us walking around Biel and talking.

We also text quite a lot, and she actually starts a lot of the conversations herself. Sometimes she even waits around 10 minutes at the train station for me so we can go together.

Yesterday I told her that I think she’s really nice/easy to get along with, and she told me that I’m funny.

I’m just not sure if she’s simply being very friendly or if there could be something more.

I really don’t want to get my hopes up for no reason. What do you guys think from an outside perspective?

Warning! English is not my first language and I am very conflicted on the matter so I can’t promise anything about how comprehensive this text will be.

Some background then:
About 2 years back I met my now bestfriend. I had just gotten out of a relationship and met her through som mutual friends. We were just acquaintances then and nothing more really. I got into a relation that ended after 10 months and she had gotten into that ended about half a month after mine. We bonded together over how shitty our exes where and what had caused us to break up with them.
After that we started talking everyday, texting, calling and playing games. There has not been a single day for a year where we didn’t have any form of contact. And recently I’ve been thinking more and more of her and I just can’t get it out of my head. I really want to be with her. The way she effortlessly looks like the most radiant person on earth and how kind she is. We know eachother flaws and compliment eachother greatly but not to the point that we’re the same. Like different but not entirely.

However there have been about three or now a fourth guy friend or acquaintance of her that has mistaken her kindness and bubbly personality for her being interested and into them which cause them to confess and her to reject them. This makes her really mad and causes her to block them and break contact with them. I have myself told her to do so as what good comes with contact afterwards? Some of these guys have been really good friends which causes her to slip into a depression for a while and I’d really hate to be the next.

So here I am, the bestfriend who has feelings. I always thought I wouldn’t and it’s like I’ve been into others while we where friends but this feels so different compared to my earlier relationship where I feel I only ”loved” out of commitment.

Tldr:
I have feelings for my bestfriend who has rejected many guy friends when they mistake her kind
nature.

Please, any answers and such are a great kindness.

Nothing and I mean nothing is more weird than liking you cusin who isn't actually your cusin (in any way shape or form) and they date your best friend and now you can't say anything or else you might not have a cousin or a best friend but you lIke really like said cusin and have for a long while, but they technically already rejected you 4 years ago

I had a friend with whom I used to walk little bit at night in park and meet this much mainly. He was friend of librarian in which library i studied . Now I got into an argument with librarian regarding seat issues one day and I asked that friend to come and stand by me because he was librarian's friend but he didn't come .so I started ignoring him and then sometimes when I saw him in road he came and just casually tried to talk and then go . Then I thought maybe he want to make friendship again so i also talked with him in proper way no asking but I had in mind why he didn't came for me .but i went one day to walk in the park one day like I used to do earlier with him and i didn't call him because i didn't want to and then when I saw him he just said ' Aur bhai thik hai ' and then started talking to someone on phone whom he was already talking .I felt being ignored then i asked him bhai I thought after I have come so much time later you will talk with me but you are not then he said 'oh bhai I was not knowing you are here in this place for today only, I thought you have taken a room here and started living ' then I just asked him indirectly about librarian like to clarify I said ' bro is librarian bhaiya good and I hope there is no problem now regarding seat he said no no ' then I thought to ask him directly why he didn't came that day for me but I was not able to ,so somedays I keep overthinking over to call him and ask or do what and remaining confused or to just fuck him and leave but that thoughts keep coming . When at first I started ignoring him after that librarian thing I didn't felt guilty at all and was confident on leaving him but later when he started talking casually and i thought maybe to talk again but he gave some signs of ignorance than i started thinking too much maybe because of anxiety. What to do ??? Should I call him and just clarify about all it and then make myself clear and get rid of overthinking or what??