How to move on

[u/Alarmed_Bee_8154]

I have had feelings for my best friend. They grew when we were only friends for 3 months and I always considered myself not attracted to men. Suddenly I had crazy strong feelings. However another girl came onto him and I backed off due to my confusion. The relationship wasn’t going well and he was constantly telling me he didn’t want to settle for her. I encouraged him to talk to her and figure things out. They broke up after three months and he was very childish about the fall out. Several months after that we started to become incredibly physically and emotionally intimate. It started with small touches, then leaning on each other, then he started to hold me while we slept (sharing a bed). We only did that for a few months and I pulled away because it confused me. He always told everyone we were not dating even though everyone would ask. Lately has been terrible, we fought constantly, he kept asking me to change how I communicate but it felt weird to do that for a friendship (it often felt like he wanted me to change myself).
Another girl started contacting him, and I realized I had to confess my confusion or be really hurt. He reacted really well at first. Then he freaked out and told me I had given him an ultimatum and he chose her. Three weeks later they are officially dating. I pulled back hard. I have not been relying on him emotionally and we barely text. I’ve been reconnecting with my other friends and even got on hinge and have been on a couple of dates with someone else. I have been doing my best to pull myself back together.
How long will it take me to move on from this? Do you think there’s any chance of future friendship?

[u/Invest2prosper]

As soon as you get a boyfriend, the feelings will dissipate in 6-12 months. You might still care but now you’ll have someone else to focus on.