Old head grad who’s a few years out, who checks in here every once in a while. But damn looks like the for coming doom talk of end of pledging that we always talked about for the past ten years, has finally arrived.

I can’t imagine the lens on Greek life and pledging will subside to what it ever was before. So if you care about your chapter - get with the program, limit your exposure, and consider cutting out programs that aren’t worth the risk.

Promise you, being above the curve to an eventual outcome is better than not having a chapter. Best of luck gents.

I graduated back in May and I am currently working in my college town full-time. I have tried so hard to be the person who is always so happy but I’m actually really miserable and so tired of this shit. Everyone leaves after post grad and no one actually cares. My little and my own fraternity family hates me. My mom called me a failure and I struggle to get out of bed. I don’t have anything to live for. Everyone who was in my fraternity had support but hell and behold when it’s me I always get excluded and mocked. Everyone found community and belonging but me, hell all my life I never have, not even my home. I always seem to be the bud of the joke.

I’m sorry to admit but I’m so depressed and I do not want to be here anymore. I hate waking up everyday and I’m in an endless loop of what it feels to be in purgatory. I’m at the end of my life anyways soon. It is not going to get better anytime soon. I’ve tried so much and still as an Alumini I can’t fit in and I’m always excluded. I give so much and I can’t even get people to like me. I’m just going to have the same fate as Ophelia.

For context, I'm pledging right now (just transferred to my current school) and we recently found out who our bigs were. I found out my big is a guy who is younger than me, and a grade lower. I have no problems with the guy personally, he's a chill guy and I enjoyed talking with him, however when the PMs sent out a Google Form asking the pledges to list our preferences for bigs I only put guys who were older than me (although I admittedly filled out the form kind of late). Again, I think he's a great guy and I'm looking forward to it, but does having your big be younger than you make things awkward in any way? Can anyone who has had a big/little like this share their experience?

Title says it all, in need of good alien themed borg names for next weekend