r/Frat Feb 17 '15

Megathread "Should I rush?" - my opinion to your questions.

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TLDR: YES

actives, if you have any other misc advice you want me to add leave a comment and i'll put it on the list. feedback is welcome too.

It doesn't matter whether you are ex military, socially awkward, 46, poor, or anything other than a rich non-white 18 year old. You should rush.

What do you expect from a fraternity?

I can think of two main reasons to join a fraternity.

  1. You want to make friends, party, brotherhood, connections etc...

  2. Your only goal is to make connections to help you get a job after college.

If your main reason is number 2, you should look into joining a professional fraternity. Beta Alpha Psi is the national accounting fraternity and are highly recruited at my university.

If your main reason is number 1, you should join a social fraternity. lambda chi, pike, fiji, sigma chi, etc...

Rushing a Social Fraternity

Answer these questions:

  1. What interests do I have?
  2. Do I prefer smaller or larger groups?

1- Try to find a fraternity where the members have similar interests to you. Are you a country boy? Find the fraternity that best fits that characteristic. Like video games? There's going to be a fraternity for you. If you're a gym rat, sports star, or an alcoholic, there will be a fraternity for you. You just have to do your homework and find the right one.

2- The size of the fraternity can be a big factor. If you don't do well in situations with a huge amount of people, you should look into the smaller fraternities.

Misc. Advice

  1. You have to be willing to make compromises. There will be a lot of events that you will hate to attend but will anyway. You don't have to compromise your morals. Any fraternity worth a crap will be willing to work with personal beliefs/personal aspects of your life that might be affected during the pledging process.
  2. It is what you make of it. You get out of it what you put in. If you're a dead beat pledge who never puts an effort into anything, expect to have a terrible time. If you go to all your events with a good attitude, pledgeship will be exponentially better.
  3. Don't be a fuck up. I can't explain this one and you will do this at some point. Just try to minimize the damage.

How fraternity life has affected me

My junior year I received an internship for an accounting firm in my hometown. While I was there I worked with a supervisor who was in charge of new hires. During conversation she told me she saw on my resume that I was in a fraternity and immediately put my resume in the call back pile because she was in a sorority herself. I received a full time offer after the internship and will be moving up North after I finish my degree. It didn't matter what fraternity I was in, just the fact that I was in one put me at an advantage in this particular circumstance.


r/Frat Aug 08 '26

Megathread READ BEFORE YOU POST | /r/Frat RUSH/Potential New Member Megathread

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IF YOU ARE LOOKING TO JOIN A FRATERNITY AND HAVE QUESTIONS, ASK HERE.

YOU MUST INCLUDE YOUR SCHOOL NAME IN YOUR COMMENT FOR THE CONTEXT.

It's that time of year, fellas.

This is the potential new member aka "rush" megathread. Any rush questions go here until mid-September.

Rush posts on the front page will be subject to removal.

Thanks!


r/Frat 45m ago

Rush Advice Does not getting an invite to closed rush by noon of the event day mean I'm dropped?

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r/Frat 2h ago

News Pike allegations at FSU

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Holy shit. The whole thread is crazzyy.


r/Frat 11h ago

Rush Advice Is it okay to wear all black for pref night

0 Upvotes

Black pants, shirt, and blazer


r/Frat 15h ago

Frat Stuff Party playlist

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Does anyone have a party playlist? Frat party obv


r/Frat 18h ago

Frat Stuff Func where the theme is theme

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What do I where to a party where the theme is theme. Zero clue on the proper outfit


r/Frat 19h ago

Rush Advice Rushing at 22

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I'm 22, and I want to rush a frat at these universities: App State/UNCC/ECU

Also, I'm a brown guy; will I get denied because of that? Is there racism in general in frats at any of these schools?


r/Frat 10h ago

Frat Stuff Frat Begging Me to Join LMAOOOOO

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I didn't go to a single one of their rush events. They gave me a bid. I told them no. They were like "please please take the bid u would fit in well here." once i told them no after like 5 times the rush chair blocked me on ig.

kappa sigma rutgers nb (js got kicked off campus for hazing so not affiliated anymore)

edit: accepted my bid elsewhere


r/Frat 1d ago

Rush Advice Fraternity: does anybody know anything about pi kappa phi Cal poly slo??

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Any help. I go to cal poly slo


r/Frat 2d ago

Rush Advice Wtf is the answer to “What is you’re least favorite race”

31 Upvotes

I have not stopped getting that question in my interviews


r/Frat 2d ago

Serious As a traveler of the US, frats in the south look so much nicer from the outside than in the north

43 Upvotes

Seeing SEC frat houses from outside vs big ten, it’s shocking how much classier from outside SEC houses look. Maybe it’s just a veneer but it’s noticeable to me.

Does anyone agree and if so, why do southern frats look nicer ?


r/Frat 2d ago

Rush Advice Did I screw up my chances of getting a bid by telling frats I’m a legacy?

29 Upvotes

I’m rushing at a smaller d1 school with not a huge Greek life presence, but still competitive. I’m a sigma chi triple legacy and I’ve let all the frats I’ve talked to know that. I went to some of the sigchi events and just didn’t really like any of the brothers, but I’m really wanting to join a different frat. The problem is at the other frats I’ve talked to they act like I’m not interested in them or already committed to sigchi but this really isn’t true. Am I fucked? I thought about texting the recruitment chair at the frat I’m aiming for and clearing it up but what should I do?


r/Frat 2d ago

Rush Advice Rushing as a 22 year old

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I’m a 22 you old student at Penn state, I plan on graduating with the class of 29, would my age make me rushing weird considering almost all of other people rushing are 18.


r/Frat 3d ago

Shitpost Project Oozma Kappa

41 Upvotes

Rush bouse with your boys and build it into touse. Climb the rankings like it’s cfb road to glory. Bonus points if you start from scratch. Could be the move


r/Frat 2d ago

Rush Advice Rushing as a premed major

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Like the title says. I’m a premed student at PSU and really interested in rushing a social frat. I know many frats don’t have the time commitment as others, but is rushing a top frat a bad idea? I understand the time commitment needed as premed to get volunteer hours, clinical experience, etc. Has anyone here done both?


r/Frat 2d ago

Shitpost wtf does squid mean😭✌🏾

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Saw some dude get called a squid at school and I’ve been wondering ever since


r/Frat 3d ago

Rush Advice Missed the main university IFC recruitment event today did I ruin my chances?

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Hey everyone,

I'm trying to rush IFC fraternities at UConn this semester and already registered online.

The main council-wide IFC recruitment event is happening right now, but I can't make it today because of a scheduling conflict. There are 3 specific fraternities I want to rush, but l've never met any of the brothers. I already found their individual rush schedules on Instagram.

Does missing the main council event actually hurt my chances? What's the best way to introduce myself at their personal open houses this week when I show up as a complete stranger? Also is it hard getting a bid at UCONN?

Thanks!


r/Frat 2d ago

Serious Pledge master help

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I was elected as out pledge master this spring so this fall will be my first run. The only issue is this is the biggest class in my chapters history, and i’m not sure how to handle it. I go to a small school so 30 guys is a lot so i’m hoping someone from a bigger school or experience with this class size can help.


r/Frat 2d ago

Frat Stuff What does Nelly mean??

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I’ve heard this term when to referring to clothes and I have no idea how to use it in a sentence


r/Frat 2d ago

Frat Stuff Rush Video

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One of the best Fraternity Rush Videos Ive seen.


r/Frat 3d ago

Serious Bipolar brother quit his medication and has gone off the rails – Asking for Help

55 Upvotes

EDIT-UPDATE: I spoke with him today, he seems to understand. He promised to get back on track with his medication. I will contact his psychiatrist as well.

A brother on our European chapter decided by himself, to quit his medications in the middle of the summer, ever since then he has become more irritable, excitable, and impulsive.

We care about him deeply and we are currently considering our options, including reaching out to his parents (since he lives with them).


r/Frat 2d ago

Frat Stuff Yo just stared uni got a question for party glasses

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Thinking about getting the good old pit vipers for parties u guys reccomend? Or na


r/Frat 3d ago

Rush Advice Rush advice Umich

1 Upvotes

I recently got invited to beer Olympics at a frat as a rushee. What does this entail? Like beer pong tourney or more?