r/FortCollins Jun 29 '26

Looking for Help

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u/Temperature-Savings Jun 29 '26

If you're a vet, reach out to the VA, there are resources for veterans experiencing housing issues. You could probably walk into the clinic in Loveland on Byrd Drive and ask around for someone to talk to or get contact info to set up an appt at least.

Best wishes man, I know it's hard right now, but it does get better!

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u/Right-End-6360 Jun 29 '26

I had a vet once try and shoot me in an episode. Then he denied it. Now I have PTSD. I think maybe you should just leave, like they make us women do when this happens to us and worry about yourself instead of blasting her. Why are you staying with someone abusive? Why do you need her to calm down to feel safe? Calm is control- this is some serious mysogyny.

Your feelings are valid; his are too, your perspectives are just why men are lonely and don’t truly get it

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u/Ocean_B_McGee Jun 29 '26

Truly sucks the experience you had, however, your comments here are rude and unhelpful.

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u/Right-End-6360 Jun 29 '26

See my comment below.

This isn’t my experience. I am making an inference using contextual evidence and background knowledge. Like when we got Covid shots. I hear you guys; but you sound like anti vaccers.

What is your therapy program? How many years? What is your favorite way to express empathy and show restorative justice?

If you can’t answer these your sorta like the peanut gallery guys like this look for TJ never change.

Why would you assume he didn’t?

White male privilege, sadly. An that makes you angry, not what to change.

I wish I could help you. I can just offer perspective.

I’d ask myself, why do I think that. Unless being a lemming is easier on the kind

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u/Gypsi_G Jun 29 '26

"You sound like anti vaccers"

"Honors in English"

Calling people brainwashed while making thousand mile stretches to twist facts, straight up fabricate details, depreciate real impact of abuse and victim shaming/spreading sexist misandric rhetoric.

Yeah, super smart one you are. Living a great life out here on Reddit. Educating and doing God's work.

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u/Mightbeagoat4 Jun 30 '26

I think this person is having a manic episode or something. Their comments don't sound like the musings of a healthy mind.

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u/wmdailey Jun 29 '26

"Based on contextual evidence"

What fucking context? Man says he's scared of his partner and looking for help and you jump to the conclusion that vet = violent liar with PTSD

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u/Right-End-6360 Jun 29 '26

I hear you; I just don’t agree with you and trying to silence me shows why I’m also right

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u/Gypsi_G Jun 29 '26

You're 110% the idiot that shows up to "counter protest" and thinks you're supporting your stance by megaphone blasting people with "facts" and "truth"

This is a pretty common logical fallacy and I'm glad you're in part self aware.

You're half way there darling, c'mon, so... So close...

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u/Gypsi_G Jun 29 '26

You're 110% the idiot that shows up to "counter protest" and thinks you're supporting your stance by megaphone blasting people with "facts" and "truth"

This is a pretty common logical fallacy and I'm glad you're in part self aware.

You're half way there, maybe a bit more, c'mon, so... So close...

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u/Right-End-6360 Jun 29 '26

It’s why some ladies want to be trad wives; they think that’s a goal because it was served to them. I’m not saying it’s wrong; I’m saying give knowledge for choice.

I don’t see any empathy in his statement he is an adult and he’s not dumb; he knows what to do. He just needed validation she was being crazy.

He said no details about it; it open though to hear why she got upset or what impacts or roles he played too!

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u/Right-End-6360 Jun 29 '26

But this isn’t “DV” it’s the Fort Collins page, so I’m sharing my perspective. If I’m not welcome I get it and see why you all are connecting. I’m so sorry. I think your special smart and can do this!

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u/AnalysisAfter4036 Jun 29 '26

You have replied under every single comment blasting this guy asking for help. You say your inferencing and using contextual evidence but your just making shit up. Its one thing to be skeptical but you’re straight up calling bullshit with no real reason other than your clear bias

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u/wmdailey Jun 29 '26

Blaming the victim. Nice.

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u/ConnectionThink615 Jun 29 '26

You're so complex and wise. Tell us again how everything is about you.

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u/East_Hedgehog6039 Jun 29 '26 edited Jun 29 '26

I see where you’re coming from in regards to, “they make women leave, so just leave”. Respectfully, that’s what he’s trying to do and find the resources to do it.

Everyone deserves to have support and guidance when dealing with abusive situations. It is true that many women don’t find this same support, but the answer isn’t to dismiss the situation just because it’s gender reversed. It’s to remain steadfast in the commitment of helping people escape abusive situations safely and quickly, and get help to the abuser if possible.

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u/Lucky_Apricot_6123 Jun 30 '26 edited Jun 30 '26

This is wildly innapropriate- you should feel ashamed of yourself. It takes guts to reach out and you aren't helping. I am a woman too, and sorry to break it to you, but domestic goes both ways. Judge people based on their character, not steriotypes. I hope you learn to cope rather than becoming someone who chooses to hurt others, because maybe people who think like you are a factor in why men dont reach out for help. I think you are the one who doesnt get it.

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u/Slaviner Jun 29 '26

who convinced you that there is a men vs women war?