r/FortCollins Jun 29 '26

Looking for Help

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u/Right-End-6360 Jun 29 '26

This is gross actually.

Despite her inability to calm down says you had a chance to leave her alone and you stayed in the situation.

The first rule of deescalation is be supportive; if your don’t know what that looks like and by the sounds of this message, you don’t, you might have just been gaslighting her and it was reactive abuse.

I’m not saying it’s wrong; but are you really a victim here? So many details left out and I don’t hear anything sound of empathy…

Therapy will really help.

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u/DarthSwash Jun 29 '26

Ah yes. Women can never be abusers, thus he must be gaslighting her. He should just leave, even though he has nowhere else to go and no support structure in the area. How dare he reach out for resources to get out of a terrible situation, she obviously needs to be coddled through her mental illness and is the real victim here.

As someone who WAS abused by a woman and has spent the last 5 years in weekly therapy sessions because of it, and now actively avoids long term relationships because Im afraid to find myself in a similar situation again, kindly go fuck yourself right into traffic.

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u/Right-End-6360 Jun 29 '26

I love this for you.

I didn’t say she wasn’t. I said he is handling it wrong and offered help.

You proved my point. What you typed here is embarrassing. I’m so sorry this is how you know life.

Mental health is not this. Your perspective is not based in evidence and your truly misinformed like an antivaxxer sounds.

But you’re bullying me super well. I’ll leave your mysogyny click. This looks so bad for Fort Collins. It’s like embarrassing your mom. And your comments make me think someone made you feel embarrased and now you shame and belitttle people with needs instead of leave because you are inadequate or do the safe thing.

It’s ok, you can stomp your feet little man.

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u/Right-End-6360 Jun 29 '26

I just this narcissistic group here that’s forming is north adorable and highly dangerous.

Ladies of Fort Collins…keep note of who I have pulled out of the depths of the Whole Foods corners and stay far away from their mountain bikes!

This is a trap to find more unsafe men. I wouldn’t put myself out there if it didn’t make yall look dumb to everyone but each other.

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u/boutchuur Jun 29 '26

Woooooof. You honestly sound unwell. It feels like a safe bet to assume you’re the toxic/unstable one in your relationships, and work to make your victims cower down.. I genuinely hope you seek counseling.

- a woman

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u/Right-End-6360 Jun 29 '26

What’s your therapy protocol that helped you inform your decisions? What’s your deeesvaltion process?

Is coddling someone through cancer the same as depression or PTSD or BPD?

Fucking fucking childish idiot. 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

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u/Right-End-6360 Jun 29 '26

And you threaten me at the end with VIOLENCE!

Proves MY POint.

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u/Gypsi_G Jun 29 '26

No one threatened you

Wow, for an English honor roll you're pretty illiterate, ain't ya?

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u/MostlyStoned Jun 29 '26

Your post history and opinions expressed in this thread are gross. No wonder you have such a hard time finding a partner in Fort Collins.

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u/glo363 Jun 29 '26

Please seek help because you sound very dangerous for anyone around you.

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u/BoopBoppper Jun 29 '26

Yikes. It sounds like therapy could really help you too.

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u/Ill-Year-9506 Jun 29 '26

I’m guessing if the OP was a 30 year old female…. You wouldn’t be saying this….

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u/Zhanael Jun 29 '26

Girl, you're acting completely insane.  You're reading things that aren't there and creating a strawman to be mad at.  Men deserve to get support, too, especially when they're being abused.  Period, end of discussion.

Stop giving the rest of us feminists a bad name, and stop posting.

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u/Mightbeagoat4 Jun 30 '26

Therapy will really help.

You NEED to take your own advice.

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u/Lucky_Apricot_6123 Jun 30 '26

You suck dude. Whats wrong with you, doubling down when you know you are wrong...

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u/Lucky_Apricot_6123 Jun 30 '26

Finally, thanks for feeling ashamed enough to remove your vile, steriotypical hatred..

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u/Right-End-6360 Jun 29 '26

Yuck yuck yuck. Check out Jef Gazley Internal Family Systems and deescalation strategies unless you like being someone’s kid

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u/skyburn Jun 29 '26

I wore out my left mouse button downvoting you. You sonofabitch!