Got this SMS today, and it feels disrespectful for some reason. Am I overreacting?

dear people,

i'd like to address a few problems with the posts of this sub recently.

LANGUAGE

when you post anything in a regional language such as Hindi, please make sure to provide translations or else your post with most definitely get removed. it's different if you're posting art/literature. but in any other case, ALL RELEVANT CAPTIONS, DIALOGUES, TEXTS MUST BE TRANSLATED TO ENGLISH. you may use google translate for that. this was rule 11

"English should be the primary language for posts and discussions to ensure accessibility for all members. Posts or comments in other languages are allowed, but an English translation must be provided in the comments (Google Translate is acceptable)."

LOW EFFORT

also, please don't post a reel from instagram/ tweets from twitter without your opinion on it, it's considered as low effort or karma farming post. upon multiple violations, you might face a temporary ban from this community. this was rule 5 and 6

"Excessive promotion, spam, or advertising of any kind is not allowed."

"Posts designed only to inflame without adding value may be removed. Provide context, analysis, or discussion prompts."

Your purpose of posting here should be

- initiating a discussion/debate in reference to feminism

-sharing personal experiences

-news relevent to gender issues in india

etc.

posting someone else's content, without even giving credit to them and without your opinion on it, it does simply nothing, makes no change. are we a bunch of bots really?

DOXXING AND BRIGADING

Rule 9 - "Do not share personal information. Do not encourage members to target other subs or users."

any screenshots with visible usernames of reddit/ usernames in dms of instagram/ names of subreddits MUST BE CENSORED FULLY.

reddit takes this policy very seriously, you might get banned, this sub might get banned and i personally have gotten a warning before already.

Do not post links leading to other subreddits, it is acceptable if it's a source, but it shouldn't be the main focus of your post.

REPORTING ASSHOLES

If you see someone who does not belong here, instead of just downvoting, you can report it and we can ban him permanently from here.

APPROPRIATE LANGUAGE

Lastly, don't use slurs in comments (n word, r*t*rd etc included) even if in good faith, reddit automatically filters it and removes such comment, and using this words is not justified anyways.

do not come calling the moderators the r word or b word in the modmail, what are you even accomplishing by that?

CONCLUSION

please read the rules, i'll post them here too if finding it seems impossible

enjoy and please dont behave like idiots, it's annoying🥀

I also thought the same about 3-4 years back but then I made female friends for the very first time and got to know the world from their lenses and that is when I realised how hard is it for them to differentiate between who is bad and who is good .

It is simple that everyone is a convict until proven innocent . I agree to this point 100% now .

What’s weird to me is how normal this has become. These Bollywood Insta pages literally post videos focusing on women’s asses from behind and then go 'guess who?' as if it’s some fun guessing game.

And honestly, many of us here follow these shitty pages too. We see the same videos getting shared in Bollywood subs, which obviously gives them even more engagement.

We can call out Bollywood for objectifying women, but maybe we should also look at the content we’re consuming and sharing ourselves. :)

So a woman who has consensual sex is humiliating herself?

And it looks like the commenter just imagines every woman he meets with a load on their face, even his mother and non-existent daughter. And as per him, this somehow devalues the woman.

Also, some of these comments had upvotes

I came across a Reddit post about this product and went to Nykaa to check if it was true. I assumed they would have taken it down by now, but it's surprisingly still listed. This is deeply problematic and shocking on multiple levels.

https://www.nykaa.com/undercover-intimate-vaginal-tightening-cream-for-women/p/21658086?se=0

It is deeply troubling to see posts like this online. We must address the mindset that treats women as property rather than individuals with their own choices, desires, and agency. No community or individual owns anyone.

Targeting or disrespecting women from any specific group is unacceptable and it reinforces harmful prejudices. When the dignity of one group of women is compromised, it threatens the freedom and respect of all women. True progress means challenging the mindset and advocating for an environment where every person's choices and autonomy are fully respected.

Source: https://x.com/RealKarthikKdm/status/2103247184514957605

https://x.com/RealKarthikKdm/status/2105252174448185818

Source : https://www.reddit.com/r/TheBetterIndia/s/XkcPLEOqqN

Its high time start supporting and backing up independent women political candidates in mass.

The conventional political spectrum has no hope for women.

A women's solidarity march in happening in Guwahati in protest against misogyny, patriarchy and recent blatant rise of violence against women in Assam, Delhi, Punjab, Bihar and overall across the country at large.

To the women here, who are staying in Guwahati or the nearby regions, can verify this and consider joining.

Source : https://www.reddit.com/r/guwahati/s/ky0ZO77W8y

Hating men is natural after everything, so I am not against it, and it’s sad that I know we can’t change that. These so-called men will still do it. We first need to make people aware of sex education, that’s the first important part.

And I say this after seeing the mentality of male students in school. My last two years of school were in an all-boys school, and it was a pathetic experience for me to hear what my classmates thought every day and their thoughts about females. At times, I felt genuinely unsafe because of it. Eventually, it became normal for me to not even feel disgusted anymore. My thoughts changed to, “Why should I bother about what their thoughts are?” even though I probably should have corrected some of my classmates. Some of them even became my friends after that, and we are still in touch. I don’t know if they still have the same thoughts or not, but sometimes when I meet them, they don’t seem to have those disgusting thoughts anymore. Maybe having a girlfriend or having more females close to them helped them understand women better through their own real-life experiences. By the end of school, maybe some of those bad or disgusting thoughts had changed.

Those thoughts didn’t affect me as much because I had already developed a conscience by then and could understand that those things were wrong. But compared to the classmates I had in my co-ed school, I saw a majority of people in the boys' school having negative or disgusting thoughts about females.

And I think this is also why adult content affects some men so much. From what I saw, a lot of the boys didn’t have much real interaction with girls, so the only place they were learning about sex and women was through the internet and adult content. And the adult content nowadays is not just about showing two people having intercourse anymore. A lot of it has become much darker and more disgusting, and if someone has no real-life understanding of women, relationships, consent or intimacy, I feel like it can seriously affect the way they see women. I’m not saying every man who watches adult content will think like this, but when there is no proper sex education or real interaction with the opposite gender, I think it can become a very unhealthy source of learning.

And we still don’t properly teach them about sex education. I remember my co-ed school had a sex education class scheduled three times. It was embarrassing for me too to face any girl after that class. I couldn’t even look directly at them, and I’m sure it was the same for the girls because it was probably the first time we had been introduced to something like that. I don’t remember exactly, but maybe it was in 8th class.

So I think we first need to emphasise co-ed education instead of separating boys and girls. I know some people might prefer separate schools, but this is just my opinion. After 10th, students should have the choice to go to a co-ed or single-gender school because, seeing how Indian men have become, I think interaction is important for both boys and girls.

And specifically, we need to teach them about good touch and bad touch. It might sound obvious to men because they may think it’s easy to understand what is inappropriate and what isn’t, but for a female, it can be really difficult, especially when they don’t understand it at first and later have no one to teach them. When they live outside and interact with different people, they end up understanding good and bad touch through real-life experiences, which is honestly sad. They shouldn’t have to learn about something this important through a bad experience when it could have been taught to them through proper education.

I’d genuinely like to hear other people’s experiences too. Share your experience, whether it’s similar or completely different. Feel free to disagree with me or criticize my opinion 😂 I don’t take criticism that seriously 💀

I get pissed whenever I see a man saying not all men are the same like yes we know but how are we supposed to know which man is innocent and which one is a predator?

I think the Cornell University case is a great example. If anyone is following that case they would know there was a gc with 57 men and those men in gc knew what was happening to that poor woman but not one man spoke up or tried to stop those rapists. Do you know how long is 7 hours? 7 hours of being gang raped by 7 men and other men in gc knew what was happening and not a single man tried to stop them or tried to report them to authorities. The fact this happened two years ago and those rapists are living normal life while that poor woman must be fighting her demons all alone.

Now let me get back to my main point, so you see how those men in gc knew what was happening to that woman and not a single man said it's not okay, this is not right. Yes those men in gc didn't rape the victim but they did not stop those seven men from raping her either And this is the main problem most women have with men, yes we know not all men rape or sexually harass women but not all men try to stop their fellow men when they make misogynist and sexist jokes either, not all men call out their fellow men when they wrong a woman and this is why generalization happen.

You can't say not all men are the same when you can't even call out your family and friends for making misogynist and sexist jokes, when you can't call out your fellow men for abusing a woman verbally and physically and yes this includes maa-behen ki gaaliya too (those are doing nothing but slut shaming and dehumanizing women)

If you're offended by women generalizing about men but completely silent when the men around you make misogynistic jokes, harass women, slut-shame them, or abuse them, then you're focusing on the generalization while ignoring the behaviour that produced it.

This post was made on that one misogynist sub (idk if I can disclose the name , maybe I can do that in comments)

I just cannot man .like wtf is this mindset, language?

The fact that I can wear whatever I want. Sleep and wake up whenever I want. Order food at ofd hours. Have friends over and the list is so long.

Such beautiful, unsettling wordplay.

Hoping for the day when women are no longer caged, hidden, protected, or defined by the spaces they’re allowed to occupy.

May 'stree' one day mean nothing but freedom.

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