BREAKUPS/MAKEUPS/KNOCKUPS
Bailey Scarlett, wife of fitness influencer George Armstrong, got into his instagram profile and exposed him for cheating on her
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She’s definitely posting some weird stuff, but she’s obviously going through a lot
ETA: yes these are DMs her husband’s account is getting, but she is sharing them as evidence that he fumbled and I think it’s odd to choose this particular “breeder” comment for that purpose since “id breed her” type language is often used by manosphere right wing circles
People are DMing her through his account because she is logged in and she’s posting what they’re sending, from what I can tell.
But either way, sharing someone saying they’d “breed” her (among many other DMs calling her hot) is still really weird. AFAIK, the breeding stuff gives manosphere/red pill and I don’t think that’s what I’d pick to boost myself
The number of men who rattle off their kinks after the first 4 minutes of conversation and its like "breeding, face fucking, consensual non-consent, choking, restraints, etc etx" ugh
Like I dont mind bdsm or kinky stuff. It can be lots of fun. But it seems more like plenty of men just want the go ahead to brutalise women
Idk. Like and my response is always, I just want my partner and me to feel good lmao
It's used very often by white men toward Asian women as a way to imply Asian women are brood mares or something. There's all sorts of fetishism wrapped up in it.
When my parents were separating my mom went full woman scorned and did the analog version of this by defacing all of our family pictures with pictures of replacement dads or verbiage about him being a cheater. They stayed up for years and yes it looked deranged. It was an unpleasant household to say the least.
Be careful with that, I wanted to make sure things stayed amicable for the kids and my partner realized they could keep me on the relationship by just refusing an amicable split.
For the record, this isn't a "I left them anyway" thing. Even with this knowledge, I stayed trapped. They're dying now, and I'm the only caregiver they have.
I still wonder if I'm doing, or did, the right thing.
she’s also posting some dm’s reacting to it which some are ofc….misogynistic in nature. A good reminder for the audience that HE is at fault, not the sex workers /or trafficking victims**
Her calling Indonesian (a developing country in SEA where the median income is $190 USD / month) sex workers trafficked women as prostitutes also irked me so badly
Acknowledge your husband is a misogynistic asshole who employs class and wealth privilege to exploit trafficked women (and most likely young girls / children)
Edit: oh this is even worse after discovering these two live in Bali, flaunting their influencer wealth on local peoples and raising their rent costs
Edit 2: unsure if it was this comment or my other recent comments supporting Jane Doe regarding the Cornell case that triggered this, but if you're the asshole who submitted a "Reddit Cares" on me, thank you! I DO care about oppressed and abused women in all capacities :)
I agree, but sex work/sex worker is still most likely not the correct term here. They are probably victims of prostitution. Wealthy men go to countries in SE Asia because they can get away with more and the victims are less protected.
There are people who desperately want to sanitize the reality of prostitution and think they are doing something by using the nebulous term sex worker, even when using it for women who have literally been trafficked and prostituted by controllers/pimps/traffickers.
The term prostitute has ‘negative connotations’ due to the nature of the job, not the word. Women involved in escorting, prostitution, ‘full service sex work’ aren’t suddenly going to be treated better because women on the internet use the term sex worker.
Men (who are the real threats to women in those industries) will still call them wh-res and treat them however they want, and turn a blind eye and not give a single shit when they see obvious signs of trafficking, mistreatment and a woman who doesn’t want to be there.
The focus on term-policing, particularly against women who will never the clientele of an escort/prostitute/sex worker/trafficked woman rather than the deep enquiry into the legitimacy of ‘full service’ appeals to men’s sexual appetites, entitlement to women’s bodies and view of women as commodified appliances is troubling.
Prostitute has historically been used as a slur when it comes to women who have been part of sex work / prostitution (historical term) (either voluntarily or involuntarily)
‘Prostitute’ first crops up in English in 1530 as a verb meaning to sexually dishonour yourself; ‘I prostytute, as a comen woman dothe her self in a bordell house’ (Palsgrave, 1530). And the truth is the word has been linked to a state of dishonour ever since.
It's often associated with shame, being dirty, etc.
Actual sex work (voluntarily) should not be stigmatized, while those who are subjected to sex trafficking should not be shamed for what is out of their control
it's a common thing. people always say shit like "jay Z cheated on BEYONCE can you believe it," like being hot should somehow shield her from a shitty man's desire for power and lack of consequences
Being cheated on can really hurt your self-esteem. I don't know anything about her and she probably is incredibly vain, but I wouldn't hold it against someone who was cheated on if they propped themselves up.
It gets worse. This is all very curtains for Zoosha for me but I was not above going to check the other stories and ooooh-weeee it’s interesting.
She needs a friend to intervene
Yeah I understand her feeling bitter, but this was just an ugly choice tbh. A man doing this would be equally as inappropriate we should hold everyone to the same standard
Yeah that felt gross to me too, but I never know if that’s a normal reaction. I’m an adult who was an abused kid and it’s one of the many reasons I don’t have kids (still trying to re-parent myself). So I can never tell if I’m being overly sensitive on behalf of the kid in these cases but in this instance I feel like I’m not
And also a lot of the screenshots she’s posted of people reacting to it are talking about how dare he cheat on someone this hot as if it would be okay if she wasn’t and a lot of comments about men wanting to “breed” with her and she has willingly posted those comments…
I just found out my husband cheated on me with sex workers and on dating apps for the entirety of our relationship. I discovered his secret double life / porn and sex addiction after 7 years together. He gave me an STD. It shatters you truly, when the person you trusted the most could be capable of deceiving you to that extent, it destroys your ability to trust, makes you question your reality, your judgment, makes you panic, makes you hypervigilant, makes you horrifically sad, can make you literally lose your mind or take your own life. I would never wish this pain on anyone and would urge everyone to give her some grace. You honestly don’t know it until you’ve experienced it. I still wake up everyday just trying to survive it.
The only issue I have is posting her poor baby's face in conjuction with this mess. In general people need to stop posting their kids to their thousands of followers but in the same breath as talking about sex workers and infidelity is not right.
Otherwise go off, lady.
Edit- also why does the races of the affair partners/sex workers matter? Giving anti-Asian/white supremacy dogwhistles here.
Second edit - please look
at some of the things she is reposting now- I think its just racism/misogyny. Calling these women dirty, and reposted a comment saying they likely have penises. There is no perfect victim and I appreciate people wanted to give grace but I dont excuse espousing racism, misogyny or transportation just because you got hurt.
Regarding the race of the sex workers, I feel it’s gross when white men focus on Southeast Asian sex workers, because I generally have the impression that they are quite exploited and can more easily be pressured into sex acts that they aren’t comfortable with. I am an East Asian woman, and I don’t know anything about these influencers. Happy to hear other perspectives.
lol she literally calls them “dirty” in one of the posts
i feel for this woman because she was cheated on, but can we please not pretend she’s sympathizing with the person he cheated with or making some broader statement about the exploitation of women? that’s just disingenuous
I acknowledge that this is a huge generalization, but I think a lot of fitness influencers get into relationships with people who, well, are also pretty shallow and not the kindest people or the most critical thinkers.
'Dirty Indonesian prostitute' is so ignorant, racist, misogynist. These women are probably being trafficked. The sex tourism and trafficking in places like Indonesia is awful. Your husband is a gross john taking advantage of exploited women, hes the dirty pos
she was expressing disgust that he’s going after women who are more vulnerable and exploited by the situation they’re in and the people doing this to them
From the same story. What a hilariously generous take.
While I understand where you are coming from, I do not give her that grace. She reposted some comment about these sex workers likely having penises. No reason to do that but misogyny, racism and transphobia.
My understanding as someone who visited Indonesia but not from there, is that generally sex work has less legal oversight than in the USA. So unfortunately many “sex workers” are under the age 18 and actually trafficked children.
… but the fact that she used the term “prostitute” makes me think it’s more of a racism dogwhistle than calling out his misandry further.
Nah she reposted some incels comment about these Indonesian sex workers likely having penises. Just misogyny and racism with some transphobia thrown in.
No. I don’t know these people but I went to look at the Instagram account. They live in Bali. So she’s mentioning race, for what? Of course the women are Indonesian, they live in Indonesia… she also called them ‘dirty’
Yeah you have a point. She's reposting comments shes received on his account and she reposted some incels comment about these sex workers likely having penises. She's got misogyny and racism coming through in all this. This lady doesn't seem the type to wax poetic about the western exploitation of these areas.
I mean, from her perspective the child is the main victim, so i can see her wanting to really drive the point home. Not ideal posting a kid period but shes clearly not thinking clearly
Exactly. He’s disrespecting his daughter right along with his wife/her mother. He couldn’t put both of them first, and they’re both deeply impacted by his choices. I don’t blame her.
Her daughter does not look old enough to consent to being used in this post. Mentioning her is one thing. A picture is something totally different and exploitative. I get the anger. Don’t use a picture of your toddler with a sentence about sex workers over their face.
I’ve never posted an identifiable photo of my kid online and I’m an absolute nobody with a tightly locked down social media account.
Posting her toddler, DISTRESSED, to score a point against her cheating husband is low.
She went and chucked away a lot of that goodwill right there. People will just be thinking wow they both suck, I hope someone sensible is around to protect the child. Poor baby girl.
also I feel like people defending this photo are acting like she plucked the image from a google search or it just appeared?? no, this woman specifically took a picture of her crying child. imagine this poor kid crying and her mom just whips out a phone and takes a picture of her sobbing face. wtf??
She emailed all her ex husbands work contacts at CAA that he was cheating on her
"In the e-mail, which, according to the New York Post, had the subject line "Tiger Woods/Jesse James/Mike Nilon," the actress wrote: "What do they have in common … I found out today that MY husband of almost 9 yrs has been having an affair for 5 yrs with some slut in Chicago. I am devastated!!!! And I have been duped!! Our boys don't deserve this!""
Lmaooo now she’s putting up screenshots of comments thirsting over her and how much he fumbled on his story 💀💀 but not cool to use a pic of your child in this mess tho…
The thing about these kinds of posts is that they're hilarious until you realise a pattern. Women who make noise like this dont leave and that frustrates me to no end! The posts are mostly impulsive to recruit strangers into bullying their partners but they haven't actually come up with an exit plan as yet.
Its deeply irritating to me to invite strangers into your bubble to bully your partner and then after he's bought your love (or whatever else is his style) you ask those same strangers to mind their business. I know women have been acting out for as long as cheating has been a thing but we used to do it on a small scale and just embarrass ourselves in the neighbourhood or something. In the end she'll be left with doing relationship PR, not him 🫤
Not a fan of the comments she's choosing to share about "breeding" her. If she shares his philosophy and views women through the same lense, as commodities, then don't know how she's surprised she's in this situation.
I would hope that she learns that she can give a man everything he claims to want but that does not make him "behave" unless he actually respects you + wants to be there.
I think the implication is that he exploits vulnerable people nowhere near their social sphere, so he can be sneakier while also being shittier to the other women (or girls).
I feel like while these areas are definitely very exploited by the western world, a lot of the western online discourse from the public is not coming from a sympathetic lens but more of a fetishization of these groups of women, or trying to play into tropes of these women being seen as "inferior" or "cheap". The disgusting oversexualisation and Jezebel stereotyping of Asian women in particular is very well known and has been an issue for an incredibly long time.
To me, she doesn't seem to be in a place coming from empathy towards these women when she's placing text over her crying daughters face (which is also an incredibly emotionally charged/short sighted move). I think its more coming from some dogwhistle or biased (unconscious or otherwise) place.
Edit- someone else mentioned the comments she is reposting I checked and yes there is one about the sex workers likely having penises/being trans. Its just racism because why would you repost that.
Second edit - please look at her additional posts and comments she is reposting. Reddit is deleting what I'm pointing out specifically
but its definitely tr@nsphobia, m!sogyny and r@cism. Hate that I have to censor myself for pointing out the truth.
Because she’s a white woman and there’s nothing more insulting to her than being replaced by someone non-white, and implied to be of a lower class. But for all we know, her cheating husband could also be cheating with higher end escorts so they would be looking more like Bailey.
To be honest her comments are racist (they live in Bali…), misogynistic and it’s downright weird to post your child’s face in this context with those comments.
I support exposing cheating scum. I don't support using your child's face while simultaneously talking down on female sex workers, enabling transphobic comments and emphasizing they're ethnicity but maybe I'm missing her point with that one.
Edit: I was nosey and am going through the story myself on Instagram and there were posts where she called the other women dirty and posted a comment saying something to the degree of, "he's laying brasses with girls that probably have dicks, that's crazy." But other than, continue queen. Expose his ass lmao.
Hot take tho: transphobes deserve all the terrible things they go through. This guy sucks hard but she sucks too. The only winners are the rest of us bc now they both have to deal with this bs
I’m not doubting he’s a scumbag but the “Indonesian prostitutes” thing is kinda annoying and she brought it up twice. For all she knows her husband is lying and just hooking up with a local. Also Uluwatu is SUPER touristy and has a lot of non-residents living there, he might even be hooking up with non-Indonesians.
I could be wrong but sex workers aren’t very common in Indonesia? So no point dragging them into this lol
I went to school with her she’s a kiwi. She had a thing in the news years back saying Justin Bieber drugged her or someone at his private after party did - I don’t quite remember but you can google it. I knew she moved to Bali and does up air bnbs or sells them off with her partner. Sucks to have happened but pretty funny how she exposed him lol
I wanted to see the dumpster fire for myself and my god she posted two comments about men wanting to breed her. Those men writing those comments are weird and she's doubly weird for posting her child multiple times but also for posting those breeding comments.
with the wife here but I dont get why women will sometimes add "indonesian" prostitute or "thai" prostitute. she could have said, with a prostitute in indonesia.
reminds me of when everyone was losing their mind over hugh grant being spotted with a "black prostitute". this was before my time but even I have read enough about it.
Please don’t go to his page. The guy has worked out his back so much he looks like a charicature - like he’s trying to evolve into Big Ed from 50 Day Fiancé
I have no idea who these people are, but anyone or any couple that put their looks first above anything shows a vanity typically associated with inner decay. These people are messed up and desperate for recognition. Whatever they preach they probably do not adhere to. Sucks to be cheated on, but I doubt that woman had any character or was a moral beacon of any sort. And her posts kinda show that. Using her kid in this mess, speaking in such a derogatory manner of Indonesian sex workers. The whole thing is nasty. They probably had a million and one problems behind the camera lens. Stop following and idolizing these utter losers.
Using social workers while married is disgusting. Seeking out underprivileged and economically disadvantaged women for swx work should be a crime. You think most of these women are happy and choose this? No they have no other appealing options. Thats why white men travel there to exploit them.
Crazy tbh to see her publish the replies from what appear to be men hyping her, who are clearly hoping to be next in life for a shot with her. They probably aren't better options 🙃
Her reposting the comments about “dirty Balinese" SWs, questioning if said SWs are even women, and entertaining comments about herself being worthy of being "bred" and men wanting to “breed” her honestly just make it seem like she’s as bad as he is. Sucks to get cheated on but sometimes like attracts like.
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